How worried are you about your kids and drugs? Worried enough, say, to enroll your kid in a school where they collect samples of students' hair and send them off for drug tests?
That's the new program at a Kansas City private school, and yes, it's mandatory. If your kid is enrolled, your kid is subject to the kind of random drug testing that's nearly impossible to fool. Way to teach the kids that nobody trusts them, huh?
My daughter is only 7, so the threat of marijuana and worse (shudder) are still several years away for us. I don't know what it's like to see your kid changing and wondering, "Are they on drugs or is it just being a teenager?"
But that's not to say I haven't considered long and hard what to do about my kid and drugs. I'm of the mind that you have to start talking about some of these tough topics young.
Part of it is the change in society. There are kids getting pregnant at 11 these days! Drugs are being sold on the playground! You have to arm your kids!
But part of it, too, is the need to keep open the lines of communication with our kids. I don't want to be the parent whose kid is terrified of talking to her about pot. I don't want to be the parent who has to depend on the school's random drug testing policy to keep my kid's nose clean.
I want her to feel comfortable talking to me. I want her to let me know if someone has offered her drugs or if -- God forbid -- she's been tempted to try them. In order to do that, we need to talk. A LOT.
And I need to set her loose. You've heard that old saying about how if you love someone, you set them free? If they come back, they're yours, if not, they never were? It's true of kids too, in a way.
If you're really making an impact on your kids, when you give them a little bit of rope, they use it to make their way back to you.
Kids need to know that we trust them in order for them to trust us. And when they trust us, they will talk to us. Not about everything, but about the big stuff.
So what do you think? Would you enroll your kid in a school where they do random drug testing?
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