Teen’s Awesome ‘I’m Gay’ Cake Could Be Bittersweet for Some Parents

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cakeFifteen-year-old Laurel, or ellende-generes (get it?) as she's known on Tumblr, thought of a creative and delicious way to come out as gay to her parents. She baked them a cake, or a gayke, if you will, and left it on the counter next to a note that read:

Good morning parents, I'm gay. I've wanted to tell you for a long time. I thought doing it this way would be a piece of cake. I hope you still love me. I mean, it's hard not to love someone who baked you a cake.

All my friends know and still love me. Your acceptance would be the icing on the cake. I hope you, much like this cake, are not in tiers.

I hope we can look back on this and say "boy, this one really takes the cake."

It gets batter.

Love, Laurel (sorry for so many puns)

First and foremost, never apologize for puns, and second of all, never apologize for who you are, gay or straight. (Not that she did that, just saying.)

Most parents (the good ones, anyway) encourage their kids to feel comfortable telling them anything; that they'll be loved no matter what; that it's better to call and ask for a ride home from a boozy party than get behind the wheel ... those kinds of things.

So when it comes time for my teen to really speak up, I hope that they'd feel like they could come to me and we could have an open conversation about what's going on.

This is by no means a criticism of Laurel's approach or of her parents', I'm just thinking out loud here, that if this was my daughter, behind all the joy of her revelation of who she is, would I feel a pang of guilt that she felt like she had to write me a letter instead of talking to me face to face? Would it make the otherwise happy occasion a bit bittersweet?

Who knows, but probably not. At the end of the day, I'd just be so thrilled she knows who she is, is proud of who she is, and isn't afraid to hide it, even if it took a cake to inform me of all those things.

And Laurel's story has a happy ending, too. After her parents saw the dessert and the note, her dad came in her room laughing and hugged her, and her mom saw it and cried of happiness.

What a great story -- bundt now I can't help but want some cake batter.

How would you feel if you received this 'gayke' from your teen? Happy? Relieved? What?


Photo via slettvet/Flickr

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Sleep... SleepingBeautee

It is wonderful that she has such a great relationship with her parents to feel comfortable enough to be so lighthearted with her news. Great story.

nonmember avatar kaerae

They probably already knew, but wanted her to be able to reveal it in her own time. The only parents who really don't know a kid is gay by the time they're a teen are those who are so opposed that they don't WANT to see it.

Coles... Coles_mom

I think it's a cute way to tell them.

Katy Khan

I agree kaerae...the kind who think it's a 'choice" and can be 'corrected' with therapy.

Miriam Kennedy

I totally think the rainbow cake in the picture is cool as hell. Is there a recipe somewhere for that? 

Kyler... KylersMom8-16-7

That's cute! I wouldn't mind if my kids were gay and I certainly couldn't say no to a delicious cake:-)

Charles Zondag

for those who think Gay is not a choice, thinking one thing and reality are worlds apart. Were it not a choice, gays going straight wouldn't exist. They go straight all the time. Ever wonder why its called straight? There really is a reason folks. This kid is only 15 and has no clue what kind of life she is choosing and is looking for all the wrong attention. When she meets her maker she will most certainly know she was free to choose but never free from the consequences of that choice. Hopefully her parents love her to death, like they should, as she is going to need it, as the life of a gay is one of internal torment and misery. Ask a gay person how they really feel, you will find loneliness, sadness, anger and confusion to be common among them all. Its the least happy lifestyle anyone can CHOOSE.

nonmember avatar Babblebeth

If my kid ever tells me their gay they better damn well do it with cake. Hell if their straight I want cake.

I think I just want the cake really.

Seriously, this girl is awesome and I'm glad her parents are awesome to and understand that being gay is also awesome. :)


I would have no problem with either of my boys ending up being gay - some of the nicest guys I ever met were gay honestly. I think I'd just be happy if he's happy.

LadyM... LadyMinni

I'm fine with my kids being gay, straight, or bi. Especially if I get cake.

Ok I just realized how horrible that sounds. But I'll love my kids no matter what.

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