At this point, it's no shock when we hear reports of a young, pretty educator who's fallen for a student. For whatever reason, these women find these teens irresistible -- criminal consequences be damned. The latest? A 29-year-old middle school teacher was allegedly planning to flee to Mexico with her 15-year-old lover.
Kathryn Murray just couldn't stay away from her pupil-turned-paramour despite a court order banning her from contact. In fact, her actions were shocking for someone facing a criminal trial for having sex with a minor.
Murray was found at her father's home hanging out with the teen. Authorities say they believe she was planning to leave the country with the child. That is just insane to me. Even after being caught and facing jail time, this woman could not and would not keep her distance. Why?
I just don't know what is wrong with these women. Why are they willing to lose so much for something that is clearly so wrong? What could possibly be the appeal to a grownup? I can understand why the horny teen is so gung-ho. Here is an experienced, 'hot babe' he and his friends have drooled over all year. Now she's willing to get it on with him any time they're able to secretly meet. How in the world do we protect them from this kind of predator when to teenage boys it seems like they are hitting the sexual jackpot, so to speak. Clearly, we can't always rely on the teacher to act rationally and morally. Obviously, most teachers wouldn't dare cross that line, but it does happen. Though I fear we as parents are powerless to stop the ones who do because our boys are more than willing engage in the torrid affair.
There was once a time when this was an anomaly. I remember the first time a story like this was big news. In the mid-'90s, sweet school teacher Mary Kay Letourneau (herself a mother) was caught having an affair with a middle school student. I was in college at the time and guy friends of mine would crack, 'Hey, what's so wrong with that' or 'That kid would be a legend in my old school.' Of course those comments were crass and certainly screamed double-standard. No one would be high-fiving had it been a male teacher with a ninth grade girl. But we have always viewed the sexuality of our boys differently.
Nevertheless, no mother wants a grown woman taking advantage of her son. From toddler age, we tell them not to let anyone touch their privates and never to go with strangers. Now, it seems as though we have to teach them about predatory teachers too. They need to know it's wrong even when it doesn't seem so wrong. That is especially hard with teenage boys who are ruled by their hormones.
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Have you discussed this issue with your teens?