School Tells Bullied Sixth Grader to Get a Breast Reduction

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boobies braceletIn every grade school class there is that one girl who develops way ahead of the pack. She's the envy of some, the nightmare of others, and an easy target for bullies. And for one sixth grade girl in Missouri, the bullying got really out of control when it started coming from her school administrators who told the 13-year-old to get a breast reduction!

Well, the school got one thing right -- something needs to be done about the boobs. And by that I mean the administrators who would dare tell a child that their body is the problem.

What's next? Telling the overweight girl that she needs to take up an eating disorder so people will leave her alone? Or maybe the schools will start requiring plastic surgery for the kid with the port wine stain?

Or, you know, we could just tell the bullies where to shove it.

Sigh. I wish I could re-write this story for this poor girl, that school administrators would have done their jobs and told the kids picking on her breasts to grow up.

But for some reason this "blame the victim" mentality seems to be entrenched in schools all across this country. It's not just the boobs in the Riverview Gardens School District. A mom recently related that her son was being called a gay slur by his classmates. The school's response? They told her to cut her son's hair.

This is just what the bullies want -- they want to make life harder for their victims, and when districts turn on the kids who are being wronged, they're playing right into their hands. This poor girl is simply growing. She can't help that. But in telling her to get a breast reduction, the school is trying to make science and nature the bad guy here instead of the kids who need to learn some compassion.

Is it any wonder kids are bullies? We still have adults who work with kids and who find it acceptable to treat kids as if their naturally developing bodies are a problem. Until the adults change, this is not going to stop!

Have you dealt with a "blame the victim" issue in your district? What happened?


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ashes... ashes2ashes831

I waa this girl. I developed early in 5th grade. The boys constantly gave me "ti**y twister" to the point I had bruises all over. The school said I needed a tighter bra and a sweatshirt. At 26 I'm 5'1" with 36dds after 4 kids. This school is ridiculous a girl at 13 doesn't need a breast reduction WTF????

Rhond... RhondaVeggie

Why is she in sixth grade at age 13? She isn't developing ahead of schedule, she's just a couple of years behind in school. Was she held back academically or was she held back from starting school by misguided parents?

kelti... kelticmom

Wtf does that have to do with anything Rhonda?

pezch... pezcharlotte

So Rhonda, if she were in 7th grade it would be okay for her to be bullied about this?

Angel... Angelanscalf89

I was 11 in 6th grade by the end of the year I was in a C cup by 8th grade I had a dd. I was never bullied for my boobs but if I had been the school never would have said something like that. Also my 14 yr old sister is a G and 17 year old sister a FF

handy... handy0318

Flashback time for me too... I started my period at age 9 and had a c-cup in 6th grade, and I wasn't overweight either, just developed early. I was bullied horribly by both boys and girls.  It was the early 70's back then, so the schools didn't do a thing about it.  I'm hopeful that more schools are better about it nowadays... athough this report shows theres still a long ways to go, sadly.

Pinkmani Pinkmani

Even if she wanted a breast reduction, who's going to pay for it? The school or the bullies?

Bridg... Bridget1981

School Administrators pulling stunts like this is nothing new.  Flashback time for me as well (although I did not and still am not what somebody could call well endowed!).  I was bullied horribly in high school and when I approached the administration about my problems I was told I was just going to make it worse for myself by going to them!  There are bullies in every generation who will hurt people for all sorts of reasons and that is what has to stop!

nonmember avatar Sara

Yes, because getting a breast reduction before her body is done growing is the right thing. Not to mention telling this poor girl it's her body that's the issue and not the insensitive bullies. These are the types of people in charge of helping raise our children? No wonder society as a whole is getting worse.

nonmember avatar Emily

I WAS that girl, and I did eventually have a breast reduction...when I was 17 and had stopped growing! I got up to a DDD or E by the time I was 16, and no matter what clothing I wore, I still got called a slut and the like (btw, I remained a virgin until marriage, so all of their rumors were unfounded), mostly by other girls! That said, I am now a teacher, and the school has absolutely NO PLACE to advise students or their families on medical conditions. Period. If the girl is being harassed, they should have an anti-bullying policy or a sexual harassment policy in place and should implement it accordingly.

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