Why Giving 15-Year-Olds Free Birth Control Is an Excellent Idea

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birth controlNot sure when to start giving your teenager access to birth control, if ever? Parents in France are about to be taken right out of that equation. The country will begin providing free contraception to teenage girls starting at age 15, without parental consent. As a mother, I want to say they're overstepping.

I want to. But I can't.

The idea of kids actually getting birth control without us weighing in seems counterintuitive, doesn't it? We are their PARENTS! How dare they do something this important without consulting us? We are here to keep them safe, and that means helping them make all their decisions. We are ultimately responsible for them.

Right?

Well, sadly, they already are doing it. Sex that is. Hundreds of thousands of kids start having sex every year without asking their parents. And here in the United States at least, some 330,000 end up pregnant because of it.

The lack of access to birth control does not stop kids from having sex. Nor -- the studies show us -- does the ability to get it mean that they will have sex.

This is why the French are going to give free birth control to the girls 15 through 18. to stop teen pregnancy. To make it safer. To help the kids who aren't talking to their parents about sex but are having it anyway.

So why not give girls access? If they're already making that life-changing decision without us, is it too much to hand off the reins to ensure they're doing it safely?

I'd rather my kid talked to me; and I plan to be pro-active about this. But most important? As a parent? I want my child to be safe. Period.

What would you do if this came to America?

 

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B1Bomber B1Bomber

This is a dangerous road - giving minors access to hormonal drugs with possibly life-altering side effects, or even fatal ones, without bothering to let their parents know? That's just asking for trouble all around.

nonmember avatar April

I would be ok with my 15 year old getting free birth control.I wouldn't *like* it, but if, for whatever reason she couldn't come to me, I would rather she at least have the option to use it. But, myconcern is, shouldn't they have an appointment with a doctor first? I cannot take BCP. They give me a forever period that does not stop for as long as I take them. I'd want to know if my daughter was taking BCP so I could look for side effects like that. I'm a little torn about it

Vegeta Vegeta

Normally I'd be all for it cause who wants to ask their parents for bc or tell them they're having sex? Not very many kids or parents are that open. But I would really rather have a doctor be involved in the bc equation cause hormonal meds really mess with you if you have certain conditions. Still free and over the counter with no parental concent is fine but I think a doctor should tell you what to take. Also that is France where they're way less weird about sexually than the us is.

Doomy234 Doomy234

I wouldnt be very happy. Birth control pill is not the answer to all sexual problems. There are still STDs to worry about. As parents we need to talk to our kids about the consequences of sex. Personally I would rather I found out my daughter was pregnant than to find out she'd gotten herpes. I'd rather she used condoms. Not to say she couldnt have both, but I at least would like her to use condoms.

tbruc... tbrucemom

I'm a huge birth control advocate and when my 17 year old daughter recently came to me asking to be put on birth control I took her to the doctor.  She's a straight A student and very responsible and has had a boyfriend for a while now so I knew it was coming. I'm glad she felt comfortable coming to me.  Hormonal birth control is not to be taken lightly. It can cause side effects, interact with other medications, etc. As her mother, it's imperative that I be aware that she is taking it in regards to her other health needs.

nonmember avatar CrystalMP

I had friend who took bc without telling her mom. It reacted with her behavior meds and she almost died because her mom didn't know what was going on. So there's one example of how that could go wrong.

three... threeforme157

I am all for free birth control for teens and free morning after pills as well.  Teen pregnancy is an epidemic and a lot of these teen moms struggle with lack of education and money for the rest of their lives.  Let's face it, they are going to have sex.  

CPN322 CPN322

Vegeta - I agree completely.

Snark... Snarkymom

Nope, sorry.  I need to be notified because I would rather my child be seen by a doctor and given BC that is tailored to her needs. Besides, if she's too embarrassed to talk to me, she's not mature enough to make sexual decisions that can have permanent repercussions.

lalab... lalaboosh

I got free birth control from Planned Parenthood when I was 16 without my parents help or knowledge. Why does this freak so many parents out? Mine were proud that I was becoming independant and taking responsibility for my sexual health and future. Don't you guys want your children taking responsibility? Isn't that a main goal in parenting?

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