'Two Mothers' Movie Asks: What if You Dated Your Teenage Son's Best Friend?

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unmade bedFor those of you sick of all the usual formulaic rom-com movies, I give you: Two Mothers. It's a drama about two women who fall in love with each other's teenage sons. Did you catch that? Mom 1 falls in love with Mom 2's son, and Mom 2 falls in love with Mom 1's son. It's hard to wrap your head around this premise because Dear God What the Hell?!?

Yes. The film is based on a Doris Lessing story called The Grandmothers, about two best friends who carry on passionate affairs with each other's sons, from the boys' teens into their early 30s. The film stars Naomi Watts and Robin Wright, so it's not hard to imagine how much-younger men would fall in love with them. But still -- how do we feel about moms having affairs with teenaged boys?

I don't know how closely the film will follow the story -- there's not a whole lot of information about the film out there at this point (it premieres at Sundance in January). So I don't know if they're going to show these romances starting while the boys are teens (as in the story). But they probably will, and if they do -- wow, I have to admit, that makes me squirm. I mean, let's peel back the layers of UNCOMFORTABLE here.

1. We've seen the ol' "Dude, your mom is hot!" line. But we've never seen the "Son, your friend is hot!" line play out. Your best friend's mom is never supposed to reciprocate! That's not what "good" moms do.

2. Middle-aged moms being sexual? For the record, I'm all for this. You go, no-longer-a-girl! And we've seen plenty of MILFs and "cougars" -- but it's still treated as a novelty (a laughable one, poor Demi Moore). Meanwhile, old men hit on much younger girls all the time like it ain't no thing.

3. Mothers especially are supposed to protect children, not exploit them. That's what we expect, anyway.

4. If a mom is into her teenage son's friend, does that somehow imply that maybe she's secretly into her own son as well? OMG, incest taboo, scary! Etc.

5. These mothers are lifelong friends who watched each other change these boys' diapers. So we'll have to wonder at what point they started seeing the boys in a sexual way. And that's creepy. Does that make them pedophiles?

6. Wouldn't it feel like a betrayal if your mom became lovers with your best friend? Even after you were an adult? That would feel kind of like a violation of some sort, don't you think?

7. Our culture has long depended primarily on mothers to uphold the standards of morality. (Unfairly, IMHO.) So if those standards break down with these two moms, what happens to our moral compass?

At any rate, I think The Mothers will get people talking about motherhood in a fresh way. And that's never a bad thing.

Would you see this movie or does the idea sound too dangerous to you?


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KAV1970 KAV1970

As a mom of a teenage boy (19) I find this to be really, really gross. I can't even look at boys that age w/o thinking of my son - I just can't/won't go there. I know there are probably mature boys/men that age, but it still would be off of the table for me. Of course, that's just me & everyone is different.

Chelsea Akins

All I can think of is the video 'Motherlover' by Lonely Island. I'm more than a little grossed out.

xiolxuo xiolxuo

^^ That's what I was thinking, Chelsea.

kelli... kelli0585

What if the roles were reversed?  What if it were two fathers having affairs on their daughter's best friends?

miche... micheledo

It is horrible. And this is only a guess, but I imagine the women are not portrayed as predators and criminals. I wish hollywood would stop glamorizing predatoial sex (adults with minors). It is disgusting.

Karla C. Mulrenan

ewww effing gross!! those moms should be in jail and not glamorised. eww......wtf is wrong with hollywood? its ok for a mom to date a teenage boy but a dad to date a teenage girl is out of this world and would go to jail in a second...... 

dcgir... dcgirl1977

I think the older man/younger female is viewed as more disgusting/creepy/predatory, while the older woman/younger male is more taboo/risque. Dating your kids friend, no matter how old, is just wrong.  I don't care if the mom is 60 and the sons friend is 35.  Still creepy.  I would never cross that line.

tuffy... tuffymama

Exactly, Kelli.

What is wrong with people that this is entertainment??? I'm fully sexually realized and not repressed, so I have no problem accepting first cousins marrying, acknowledging teenage promiscuity as a fact of life, and being okay with May-December relationships. February-September relationships, however? Gross. And screwing your YOUNG son's friend is nasty. We are the life givers and the protectors, damn it. Where the hell is grace and decorum, and simple respect? Somewhere, I hear Nero tuning up his fiddle as the first fires are lit.

Carme... Carmen8706

This is just as disgusting to me as a father having sex with his daughter's teenage friend.  Just gross. 

CPN322 CPN322

No, I was very uncomfortable just reading this.

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