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If Your Kid Is a Bully, Please Don’t Even Bother Sending Them to School (VIDEO)

by Janelle Harris on November 10, 2012 at 2:33 PM

Bullied teacherChildren do not raise themselves. You have to teach them morals and values. You have to set boundaries and implement consequences when they’re compromised (and they will inevitably be compromised). You have to express your expectations and above all, impart basic right and wrong.

Knowing that, someone is falling down on their job. Because the day that a kid feels comfortable plucking/slapping/swatting her teacher—an adult—upside the back of her head, it’s a flashing neon sign that home training 101 has not been taken seriously. It happened in a Baltimore school when a student humiliated a substitute while her classmates laughed heartily. Someone pulled out a cell phone camera and the whole disgusting incident has gone down in YouTube infamy. 



There have been all kinds of natural disasters—hurricanes, mudslides, tornados, floods, and tsunamis—but I’ll be darned if this couldn’t be just as viable a sign of the end of the world. When we live in a society where children feel bold and brazen enough to harass a standard object of authority, I don’t know what the heck could be next. On top of being despicable, it’s downright scary. I wonder how her parents felt when they saw this video. If their reaction was anything other than out and out, hide-me-under-a-rock, wait-until-I-get-my-hands-on-her outrage, I have no hope.

I was a substitute teacher, too, once upon a time, also in the Baltimore public school system and I have nothing but sympathy and compassion for the poor mistreated woman in this video. My first day on the job, a girl screamed me down because I refused to let the class play spades and threatened to wait for me in the parking lot.

But because I was barely five years older than her—I was just out of college and was subbing while I waited for my first “real job” to come through—I didn’t take too kindly to her attitude or her blowhard shouting. I checked her like we were just two girls on the block, complete with neck-rolling and hand-waving. I didn’t have any problems with her or any other student after that. I guess word got around, which is really good since I can’t fight to save my life and some of those kids were taller, stockier, and much, much more sturdily built than I was then or now.

There’s no defending this kind of behavior because even someone who was raised in the most deplorable households and living situations knows that you’re not supposed to hit your teacher. I mean, that’s just as basic as it gets. So come to her aid if you want to, but I think this trifling-acting child needs to be removed from the classroom and put in some kind of remedial training since she 1) doesn’t respect authority, 2) doesn’t respect the opportunity to learn, which makes her a distraction to other students, and 3) needs a refresher on the kindergarten lesson of keeping your hands to yourself.  

How should this student be disciplined for her behavior? 

Filed Under: behavior, bullies, discipline, issues, news, school

Comments

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  • fleur...
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    fleurdelys3110

    November 10, 2012 at 2:48 PM

    That girl needs to be expelled and taught some manners the old fashioned way... I don't see how children who are this mean can live with themselves


  • BirdCo
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    BirdCo

    November 10, 2012 at 3:05 PM
    Military school. What a brat.
  • tifferie
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    tifferie

    November 10, 2012 at 3:05 PM
    The problem is parents don't care. They don't care if they see the video. Little Suzy could of never done that. It's disgusting. When parents don't care, children don't care. I am from Baltimore and had kids throwing rocks at my car from a bus. No one wanted to deal with those kids, they were 'bad summer school kids' According to the principal.
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    kelticmom

    November 10, 2012 at 3:28 PM
    I really do not understand kids anymore. One of my co-worker's sons just got ISS for telling his teacher to "fuck off". And what did the mom do? Shrugged her shoulders and said "he's 15, what can I do, spank him?". Growing up it never occurred to me that telling an adult anything other than "no ma'am" and "yes ma'am" was even an option, let alone telling them to "fuck off". It's a very scary thought as to what kind of adults this generation of disrespectful, hateful brats will grow up to be.
  • NatAndCo
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    NatAndCo

    November 10, 2012 at 3:35 PM

    Thank you Kelticmom. I dont understand it either. I see some of the behavior of kids these day and I think the same thing. Never in my wildest dreams would I have ever pullled some of the things kids today are doing. The idea of ever cursing out a teacher never entered my mind. Touching one? Oh dear lord no.


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    Todd Vrancic

    November 10, 2012 at 3:41 PM

    My mother would have knocked me into next week.  Come to think of it, if I acted that way even now without good reason, she would still knock me into next week.


  • Pinkmani
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    Pinkmani

    November 10, 2012 at 3:44 PM

    It's called permissive parenting. Some parents allow their kids to do whatever the heck they want to do and these kids have difficulty suceeding in life. Another reason why kids bully is because they see their paents do it. (See the comments left on this website usually on political blog posts)


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    the4mutts

    November 10, 2012 at 4:24 PM
    1. My kids would NEVER, EVER think to raise a hand to an adult, or curse one out
    2. I know that to be a fact, because 1 of my 4 kids, my dd age 6, hit me and called me a bitch ONCE, when she was 4.
    3. I busted her ass.
    She immediately said sorry, begged forgiveness, and invented her own punnishment.
    I don't take shit off my kids. They're not perfect. They misbehave, one of them lies, one of them is a bit of a sneak... but they do not, under any circumstances, get to disrespect any adult.
    I dgaf how old my kids are, if they ever laid a hand on an adult *other than self defense* or cussed at one, I would take them over my knee and whoop their ass with a belt. If they're bigger than me? My s/o or their dad will hold them down while I whoop them.
    I don't care what anyone thinks of my opinion either. I will not raise "that" kid.
  • cmjaz
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    cmjaz

    November 10, 2012 at 4:32 PM
    Teachers lost their power to put fear into kids nowadays. I don't think the threat, and the sometime follow through, of principal paddling is going to scar a kid but rather to keep the kids 'checked'. But I'm sure I'm in the minority of that thought process.
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    Guest

    November 10, 2012 at 4:37 PM
    Wow 4mutts. You're so tough! Hitting a kid. I bet you're so proud of your strength. Bravo!
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