If Your Kid Is a Bully, Please Don’t Even Bother Sending Them to School (VIDEO)

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Bullied teacherChildren do not raise themselves. You have to teach them morals and values. You have to set boundaries and implement consequences when they’re compromised (and they will inevitably be compromised). You have to express your expectations and above all, impart basic right and wrong.

Knowing that, someone is falling down on their job. Because the day that a kid feels comfortable plucking/slapping/swatting her teacher—an adult—upside the back of her head, it’s a flashing neon sign that home training 101 has not been taken seriously. It happened in a Baltimore school when a student humiliated a substitute while her classmates laughed heartily. Someone pulled out a cell phone camera and the whole disgusting incident has gone down in YouTube infamy. 

There have been all kinds of natural disasters—hurricanes, mudslides, tornados, floods, and tsunamis—but I’ll be darned if this couldn’t be just as viable a sign of the end of the world. When we live in a society where children feel bold and brazen enough to harass a standard object of authority, I don’t know what the heck could be next. On top of being despicable, it’s downright scary. I wonder how her parents felt when they saw this video. If their reaction was anything other than out and out, hide-me-under-a-rock, wait-until-I-get-my-hands-on-her outrage, I have no hope.

I was a substitute teacher, too, once upon a time, also in the Baltimore public school system and I have nothing but sympathy and compassion for the poor mistreated woman in this video. My first day on the job, a girl screamed me down because I refused to let the class play spades and threatened to wait for me in the parking lot.

But because I was barely five years older than her—I was just out of college and was subbing while I waited for my first “real job” to come through—I didn’t take too kindly to her attitude or her blowhard shouting. I checked her like we were just two girls on the block, complete with neck-rolling and hand-waving. I didn’t have any problems with her or any other student after that. I guess word got around, which is really good since I can’t fight to save my life and some of those kids were taller, stockier, and much, much more sturdily built than I was then or now.

There’s no defending this kind of behavior because even someone who was raised in the most deplorable households and living situations knows that you’re not supposed to hit your teacher. I mean, that’s just as basic as it gets. So come to her aid if you want to, but I think this trifling-acting child needs to be removed from the classroom and put in some kind of remedial training since she 1) doesn’t respect authority, 2) doesn’t respect the opportunity to learn, which makes her a distraction to other students, and 3) needs a refresher on the kindergarten lesson of keeping your hands to yourself.  

How should this student be disciplined for her behavior? 

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zandh... zandhmom2

Morals today are nothing like they were when I was a kid.  I also would never think to talk back to an adult more less actually hit one.  I know that in today society, it's consider a bad thing to put some fear into your kids but if you compare today's kids to my generation or older, you can see what a difference it makes. I was never beaten with a belt or truthfully never even remember getting spanked (I'm sure I got a little swat at my butt once or twice) but between having parents that stuck to what they said and going to church and having a fear in God if I did something wrong, certainly kept me on the right path.

the4m... the4mutts

Cmjaz- I know what you mean. When my s/o was in school in Alaska, the teachers & principal could paddle the kids if they deserved it, no permission from the parents needed. My s/os dad had a rule: you get spanked at school, then you'll get spanked at home too. He didn't screw up much after the first few times of getting spanked twice for the same offense LoL

the4m... the4mutts

Z&Hmom- yup! I haven't spanked my kids with a belt, but if they're teens and act like that *which I seriously doubt they will* I am prepared to pull that belt out then.

In the original post where it said "What can I do, spank him?" About the 15 yr old.. that really irritated me. damn straight you can. Get a male family member to hold him down and spank him with a belt. He won't do that shit again.

the4m... the4mutts

*previous post

Bloom... Bloomie79

Whenever people ask me why my kids are so well behaved I tell them it's equal parts fear and bribery.

I don't need to raise my hands to give my kids hell, not that they don't occasionally earn a smack on the backside, mostly they just loose those treasured privileges. Just like my own parents my kids know I'm not kidding, the punishment is coming and it's gonna fit the crime, easier not to break the rule.

On the flip side good behavior earns all kinds of privileges and rewards at our house. I still remember in high school when my friends wanted to do something stupid my gut reaction was no way because my mother would kill me. That kind of healthy fear is important to raising decent humans.

nonmember avatar FarmersWife

The4mutts- your disgusting. Hitting doesn't correct hitting. But I can ALMOST see your logic. Seeing as I do think someone should probably hold you down and beat you.

the4m... the4mutts

@farmerswife- don't care what your opinion is. My teen ever acts like that, they'll get the belt, and rightfully so. I got it when I was a teen, twice. I knocked it right the hell off after the 2nd time. My kids will get the same if they do what the kid in the blog did, or what I was doing.

the4m... the4mutts

@Bloomie79- agree 100%. There are dozens of other punnishments & reaward systems to use, but occasionally they still earn themselves some swats.

I haven't had to swat my 9y/o except twice in 3 years. My 6yr old has gotten a spanking about once every 6 months since she was 4. My 4 yr old, I can't recall if she's ever been spanked.

Not always needed, but when it is, ya gotta do what you gotta do

kelti... kelticmom

4mutts, I was never spanked, I was just raised from day one to treat others with kindness and respect. Respect earned by hitting is not respect, it's fear. I teach my son to respect his elders and to treat people like he would like to be treated. Bad words are dealt with by taking away privileges. And btw, correct me if I'm wrong, didn't you just post on a different article that you are a diagnosed psychopath? (Your words, not mine.) If true, I think the last thing you should be bragging about is that you would have a child held down by a man while you beat them with a belt. (Again, your words, not mine.)

corri... corrinacs

I think all of these children should be punished TBH.  I am sorry, but laughing about the situation doesn't make you innocent.  I can't understand kids these days either.  If any of my children acted this way, believe me........they would NOT be happy campers.

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