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Teacher Binds Quarreling Students Together With Hockey Tape

by Jeanne Sager on November 9, 2012 at 12:42 PM

hockey tapeReady for some outrage? A teacher allegedly taped two eighth grade students together as punishment. The hockey tape (did I mention this was in Canada?) binding the girls together was supposed to force them to get along.

Crazy, huh? Trying to force kids to get along? Oh, you thought I meant taping kids together?

Well, that's crazy too. I believe strongly in non-violent forms of discipline, and this teacher crossed the line. Taping kids together is not appropriate in any way, shape, or form.

But can we talk for just a second about what he was trying to do in the first place? He was shoving these two kids together to "force" them to get along. As if it's that simple?

Schools are filled with kids who don't "get along," for various reasons. Some of them are simply having a snit fit that will soon pass. Others have clashing personalities never meant to fit together. And still others are caught in the midst of a bully/victim relationship.

But too often schools -- and parents too -- dole out quick fixes. How many times did your mother ask, "Can't you kids just get along?" Now how often did she bother to get to the root of the problem?

Kids have feelings, and kids' feelings are valid. It's time we start addressing that.

If kids could "just get along," the probably would. But these are kids. They don't have the problem solving skills that come with age. And when we stick them on buses or send them to schools with no escape from the bullies or clashing personalities, they're offered no reprieve from these kids with whom they just "don't get along."

Just think how many people from your old high school you were more than happy to get away from after graduation. Once you had your own free will, you got away from them as fast as your feet could carry you.

And so it is with our kids. Simply existing in the same space doesn't mean our kids have the means to get along with one another. They need to learn social skills, true, but it takes two to tango. When one kid is a monster, it's unfair for both to be constantly dealt the one-size-fits all adult complaint: "can you just get along?"

What do you think of this absurd attempt to make kids get along? What is a better option?

 

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Filed Under: discipline, bullies, school

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  • nhamp...
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    nhampton401

    November 9, 2012 at 12:56 PM

    So what happens when these kids get out into the real world?? They can just be rude or ignore those they don't like? No honey you can't. You need to pretend to get along with people you'd much rather be away from. Pull up your big girl panties and get a grip. Just because you don't like someone doesn't mean you can pretend like they don't exsist. There will ALWAYS be people that you don't get along with. It's about being an adult and taking the high road. Sheesh what's wrong with this world??


  • OoOJa...
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    OoOJanisOoO

    November 9, 2012 at 1:10 PM
    Well said nhampton401! Even kids need to learn how to be civil with kids they don't like.
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    OoOJanisOoO

    November 9, 2012 at 1:13 PM
    .....also taping them seems like overkill she could have just assigned them seats next to each other or something like that.
  • abbie...
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    abbie.alder

    November 9, 2012 at 1:48 PM

    My parents used to braid our hair together. Worked like a charm.


  • Melissa
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    Melissa

    November 9, 2012 at 1:49 PM
    I know people whose moms did this to them. If they fought with their brother/sister, they got taped together and forced to be stuck together for a couple of hours. Personally, I think it's pretty creative and makes a point. A FAR cry from abusive...maybe "unprofessional" for a teacher to do it, but I still think it's an awesome idea for young siblings that need an exaggerated model of "compromise".
  • Tracy...
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    Tracylynn100

    November 9, 2012 at 2:06 PM

    I love the braiding thing, why didn't I ever think of that :-)


  • Nicol...
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    NicoleMarie1211

    November 9, 2012 at 3:07 PM

    I feel like this has happened in multiple 90's sitcoms. Does anyone else have that feeling? Like two Tanner kids were fighting but then they got super glued together on accident and talked things out? Maybe Zach and Slater? Idk.


  • Leigh
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    Leigh

    November 9, 2012 at 6:48 PM
    I feel like doing this at school might be a little extreme just because it is the kind of punishment that crosses the teacher/parent line. However, as long as: A.) the type of tape used is easy to get off and not harmful (duct tape would be very painful but artist's or painters tape is not too sticky aand come off of skin easily). B) that is is NOT to solve a BULLYING situation, which could put one of the kids in danger. And C) that it is done with parental approval (personally, as a sibling who once got so angry with the younger sibling that they actually TRIED the tape-line thing, I think this would work fine on siblings) I really don't see too much harm in it. But for a teacher to do it without both parents approving it would be bad news and really might cross the line.
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    ChristySelder

    November 12, 2012 at 3:38 AM
    My daughter is in second grade and she told me one day she and another student were arguing so her teacher told them to hold hands for awhile. No more arguing for a while at least.
  • iknow...
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    iknowmorethanu

    November 25, 2012 at 10:04 PM
    1)the tape was not directly on their skin 2)it was done in the most lighthearted way and facetiously 3)the students thought it was funny and were running around laughing while taped together...GETTING ALONG!!!!!! 4)there was no problem until parents put words into the students mouths after the kids got home after school. 5)THE PARENTS SHOULD HAVE GONE TO THE TEACHER TO TALK IT OUT....NOT THE MEDIA!!!!!!! 6)know the facts before you shoot your mouth off. 7)no...I am not the teacher....
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