Parents Should Have Been Banned From Trying to 'Cure' Gay Teens Long Ago

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rainbow flagHere's the good news: California has banned the use for minors of aversion "therapies" to "overcome" homosexuality (practices with no scientific basis that have resulted in depression and even suicide for some gay and lesbian teens). Here's the bad news: California is the FIRST state to implement such a ban, which means that parents living in every other state in the U.S. have the legal right to subject their gay and lesbian teens to emotionally scarring methods meant to “change behaviors or gender expressions, or to eliminate or reduce sexual or romantic attractions or feelings toward individuals of the same sex.”

Except parents DON'T have the right to try and change who their children are by paying quacks who claim to be mental health "professionals" to crush their very spirits.

Equality California spokeswoman Rebekah Orr hit the nail on the head with her statement: "This law will ensure that state-licensed therapists can no longer abuse their power to harm LGBT youth and propagate the dangerous and deadly lie that sexual orientation is an illness or disorder that can be 'cured.'"

Unfortunately, there is no law ensuring that parents can no longer abuse their power to harm LGBT children by making them feel ashamed of who they are as people. Making them feel that something is inherently wrong with them. That they're broken. Defective. When in truth, the parents are defective. Because they can't see that their children are perfect, exactly as they are.

Do you think parents have the right to subject their gay and lesbian teens to conversion therapy?


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nonmember avatar icarm

i think both being gay or straight are choices. Life experience make people lean more towards one or the other. this is just my opinion there is no scientific evidence to prove this.

NatAndCo NatAndCo

I would love to know when straight people made the conscious decision to be attracted to members of the opposite sex.

nonmember avatar Kristi

How odd that I don't remember picking gay or straight, neither does anyone else I know... Either way I'm glad this happened, too bad it's not true everywhere! If an adult makes the choice to put themselves through a program like this then that's on them, but to force a minor... that's horrible

kelti... kelticmom

Before the right wing crowd starts coming out and crying foul on this, they need to look up what aversion therapy actually is. We are not talking about "pray the gay away". Aversion therapy is where in unpleasant, even painful stimulus such as electro shock or nausea inducing drugs are administered while forcing the "patient" to look at homoerotic images. This is so they associate same sex feelings with disgust or mental torment. Ever see "Clockwork Orange"? Same concept. And look how well that turned out. This barbaric, disgusting practice should have been banned years ago. Now is a concerned parent wants their kid to talk to a pastor, that's one thing, but subjecting them to what amounts to torture is another.

nonmember avatar Samantha

Im a firm believer in the natural order of things, but i am also a firm believer that love knows no restrictions. Add to that i believe strongly in accepting people & your children especially for who they are. Our job as parents isnt to control & live through them, it is to worry about their overall well being. Putting restraints & limits on who we think they should be goes against what we are meant to be doing as parents. Safety over happieness of course, but our childrens happiness should mean more to us than our own personal preferences & our selfish desire to control. I would much prefer my daughter to grow up, marry a man, & have children of her own, but would i want that if it made her unhappy & lead to her quality of life being poor? No way. Would i ever want my child not to be comfortable & happy with who she is? Or to think im ashamed of her for her very nature? Hell no. I will be supportive & loving as i should be no matter what, and so should every parent. If a parent has this problem, maybe they..

nonmember avatar Samantha

...Should look within themselves, figure out what the real problem is, accept their selfishness & work to fix the problem so that the bond between them & their child isnt severed out of stubborness. Its not worth it to lose a child because of your choice to be closed minded & stubborn.

kelti... kelticmom

Oh, and another aspect of "aversion therapy" is to convince the "patient" that their sexual attraction is not natural, but stems from some childhood trauma, most of which are imagine."You felt abandoned by your father, hence you are gay". Or they tell them it's bc they were sexually abused. All of which just makes the child even further mentally confused and ashamed.

OKgirl OKgirl

The APA has discredited the use of aversion therapy regarding homosexuality. Any psychologist who still practices using those techniques should have their license revoked.

pupuk... pupukeawahine

Someone should subject these "parents" to aversion therapy for being homophobic.

Guido Kyosuke

Everything sounds so disgusting...<img src="" width="2" height="2">

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