'Teen Mom' Maci Bookout Wants Parents to Know Girls Are Horny Too

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Maci bookoutTeenagers and sex. It happens ... much more than we parents ever want to think about. And as the secret that Teen Mom star Maci Bookout let slip during one of her recent teen pregnancy prevention speeches reminds us, it doesn't always go down the way it does in after-school specials.

Remember those? You'd come running in from the bus to watch some sappy movie with a capital m Message? Anyway, those specials are the kind that fuel the ridiculous notion that teenage boys are sex-crazed lunatics and teenage girls are delicate flowers who are just trying oh so hard to keep the boys at bay.

Not so. Just ask Maci.

The Tennessee mom who has been open from the get-go that she got pregnant with son Bentley the very first time she had sex with (now former) boyfriend Ryan Edwards has opened up some more. As she told the kids during her recent speech, she actually pushed for sex:

Actually I was the one who talked him into having sex with me because apparently since I was a virgin he was scared of me. I thought there was something wrong with me, but, you know, I finally talked him into it.

You know the rest of the story, folks.

It was brave of Maci to come out with this, and I'm glad she did. We put so much emphasis on teaching our daughters to protect themselves from boys' unwanted advances, but what happened to protecting our sons? Sure, they can't get pregnant, but they can become teen fathers, and that's not likely to be good for them or for the grandchild you'll get out of that situation.

This double standard that exists also fails to address the emotional impacts of being pushed to have sex too early for a boy. We hear about our girls all the time: the girl who falls into a depression after she "gives up" her virginity only to be cast aside by a callous teen boy who "only wanted her" for sex. There is an outdated and purely mythical notion that boys don't have nearly the emotional investment in having sex that a girl can have.

Sorry, wrong-o. Losing your virginity is a big deal, no matter your gender. Having sex, falling in love, all of these things can send a teenage guy into a tailspin just as easily as a girl.

And as Maci has clearly illustrated for us, the girl pushing guy scenario happens with everyday kids in everyday high schools in everyday America. What isn't happening is enough parents talking to kids of both genders about what to do when someone pushes them to have sex: whether it's saying no or using protection so they don't end up 16 & Pregnant like Maci and Ryan.

Have you had this talk with your son yet? Was it a different talk from the one you'd have with a daughter?

 

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worki... workingmama86

I agree completely, but I will say i have known way more teen boys (and even men) to be more pushy with sex than girls of any age. And more guys than girls can have sex and it be completely meaningless... More girls take sex as a "he loves me" or "we had sex so we are more than just friends" kind of thinking. But I do agree there are girls who "think like men", and don't think of sex as anything more than a one time thing that meant nothing. And there are girls out there who will be the "pushy" ones to take it to that level! 

Katie Jones

This is oo true not just guys or boys force themselves on girls or women the girls and women force themselves on guys also its a 2 way street!!!!!!

Amber... Amberleigh81

Good for her for telling the truth.

nonmember avatar Chelsea

I never got "the talk"....like ever.

nonmember avatar faroq

workingmama86 - that's totally not true. just as much as you'll have had lots of knowledge of boys/men being what you call pushy (your own experiences, what you've heard from friends, etc) you also have no idea what it's like when quite often you're a boy of no more than 15 or or 14 and some slightly less popular girl a couple years older than you who feels a mixture of nurturing desire to 'mother' you also pushes you into sex...after all if you're a girl and you turn him down nobody's gonna give you a hard time for it, but if you're a guy, you turn her down, everyone will know about it, everyone else will shun you (at least in sexual development terms, if not flat-out socially) and usually the girl in question reacts a LOT worse to 'rejection' than a 'pushy' male would: the pushy male might say to some people ''yeah she's frigid'' etc but the girl can seriously retaliate, going to her dad and brothers crying that some 'awful boy rejected her and broke her heart', when he didn't do a thing wrong.

nonmember avatar faroq

@workingmama86...as much as you say boys can have sex without it meaning anything and girls (what, generally? always? specify!) take it to mean 'he loves me', there's so many incidenes of that happening the other way around. particularly younger boys, that have been raised in this (franklly, bull----) mentality of 'girls are precious, boys are mean' are inclined to think if this girl shows interest in them that they are an 'item' now: only to find this girl, who is usually a lot more experienced in her early teenage years, thinks nothing of him. clearly the whole 'boys push more than girls' bit is what we've been touting forever and it hasn't worked - in some cases, terribly badly. personally i'm also for a male contraceptive pill being developed - men should be able to have more say in the not-getting-someone-pregnant (yes you can shout 'condoms!' and they are important - but believe me especially in countries where the government gives young single mothers free places to live, there are plenty of young women who e.g. put needles through condoms to sabotage it)...

nonmember avatar faroq

... Men can literally only not-sleep with the person they could be having a loving committed exclusive relationship with, if they want to be pregnany-free. Condoms are nearly infallible - human error however prevails. If a boy/man could take a pill then he would get more choice in the matter. the current laws on pregnancy are completely one-sided and biased in favor of girls because unfortunately there are males out there who would push/force unprotected sex on some female, leave her pregnant, and run off. that's unfortunate and i would like to see it stigmatized in society so that people are put off by the idea, and parents actually discipling kids so that they're afraid to mess up their lives at a young age...

nonmember avatar faroq

Men can literally only not-sleep with the person they could be having a loving committed exclusive relationship with, if they want to be pregnany-free. Condoms are nearly infallible - human error however prevails. If a boy/man could take a pill then he would get more choice in the matter. the current laws on pregnancy are completely one-sided and biased in favor of girls because unfortunately there are males out there who would push/force unprotected sex on some female, leave her pregnant, and run off. that's unfortunate and i would like to see it stigmatized in society so that people are put off by the idea, and parents actually discipling kids so that they're afraid to mess up their lives at a young age...

Klari... KlarissaKaye

Ha. I can totally relate. 3 months into my first relationship up until a week before i had my daughter I had sex atleast once a day! I was a horny teenage girl. I was 14 when I lost my virginity and 16 when i had my daughter. I'm 18 now.

Terri_K Terri_K

Well as a teen mom  that i wasi know i to did push biys in to sex as well  and it did not take much pushing either going out to weekend parties with other school boys and girld where the parents was out of town there was always more than few boys after dancing withen and rubbing close on then and wearing clothes that showef my self off like any other teen gitl foes it does noy yake long before boys and girls would start pairing off and some times more than one boy


well im sure  toy know the rest so i knew growning up that sex woulf be part of my teen yrs just like it  does with most so i say to parents talk with yout kids before they do end up teen moms and dads

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