School Giving Condoms to 12-Year-Olds Is on Board With Abstinence Too

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condomsCould we finally have a happy middle ground for the parents who believe in sex education for teenagers and the parents who don't to meet on? A Massachusetts high school thinks they've got the key. They want to hand out condoms to kids as young as 12. But wait! There's more!

Parents of students in Springfield will get a letter allowing them to opt out of the program. And just in case the letters don't make it home, the school will be calling Moms and Dads too.

I think we have a winner here, folks!

I'm all about letting parents go their own way and make choices for their kids. But the easy go with the flow train goes off the rails choices start to infringe on my right to  make choices for my kid.

Unfortunately, in many school districts in America, that's exactly what has happened. The studies show access to birth control doesn't increase sexual activities, it just makes it safer, but too many parents refuse to believe it. Parents who have read the studies and know that quality sex education reduces the teen pregnancy rate are stymied by parents who refuse to allow their kids to be educated about birth control. So we're all stuck with the abstinence-only education that scientists have shown time and again isn't working.

If you want to teach your kid about abstinence and only abstinence, that's your choice. But barring the rest of our kids from getting sex ed just isn't fair!

That's why I'm digging this program offering condoms to kids in Massachusetts. The way the school has designed it could be exactly what we need to bridge the gap.

Some of us opt in. Some opt out. And voila: the parents who fear that their kids won't come to them for birth control, but still want their kids to be safe if they DO decide to have sex are covered. And the others at least got to make their own choice for their kids.

Works for me! How about you?

Would you sign your child up for the free condom program?


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nonmember avatar Shandeigh

What the heck is a 12 year old going to do with a condom?! Stupidity.

Deedstra LasVegas

I think this might work well in a high school, but for TWELVE year olds?  That seems a little ridiculous.  I also don't think they should be giving them to students.  They could make them available in the nurse's office or something for anyone that wants to take them.  I don't have kids yet and I'm not sure how I feel about abstinence only education but if I had a twelve year old that came home from school with condoms, I would be pissed. 

MomLi... MomLily67

There are many JR highschoolers that are sexually active, evert seen a  pregnant 12 year old?  School officials and parents must work together to make a program like this really work. Sadly, many parents, who were very sexually awake in their early teens are now total prudes.  Of course abstinence is ideal, but what if.........???

linzemae linzemae

When I was 12 I knew plenty of sexually active 12 year olds.

Javi0... Javi05Eli07

When my sister went to high school (graduated in 2008), there were girls coming in as freshman either pregnant or already moms.  Sex ed needs to start much earlier than in high school, which is what I have seen many schools going to or not doing anything at all.

Heather Duso Johnson

A co-worker of mine had a sister-in-law that worked at the teen pregnancy center in Saginaw, MI.  There was a 12 year old girl that was pregnant by a 10 YEAR OLD!! 

PonyC... PonyChaser

I wonder what's going to happen when one of these condoms fail and the parents of the young lady sue the school?

I don't like the idea of the school providing any kind of birth control, condoms included. Giving out information, fine. Telling kids where they can get them, fine. Teaching girls about their cycle and how to use it to figure ovulation (God forbid we teach them this instead of just "you bleed for a week every month")  For the love of all that's holy, we need a signed, notarized letter from the POTUS in order for our kids to be allowed to have a cough drop! Why is it suddenly ok to give them condoms.

And if parents want their kids to have condoms, shouldn't they be taking those boys (and girls) down to the Wal Marts and purchasing them? Why is it the school's responsibility? They can't afford toilet paper, for heaven's sake!

yayhe... yayheadstart

of course i would sign them up. sex ed needs to start early and be an ongoing conversation. my 8 year old already knows what a condom is used for because if you wait til you think they are sexually active, then you are probably too late.

Katriena Young

I had my first sex ed class when I was 12.

Jespren Jespren

Only repeated studies worldwide for the last 20+ years have repeatedly shown free access to contraceptives *does* increase std rates, pregnancy rates, and abortion rates. Because people trust them to work more than they do, especially young people who trust their elders. We all acknowledge the complete illogic that says 'don't do drugs but, hey, here's a needle just in case', but because we don't want to tell our kids 'control yourself, control your impulses, don't have sex until your ready for the consequences' we're A-ok with encouraging them to make stupid choices by giving them exactly what they need to make those choices.

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