Moms and Dads, I'll give you the good news first. The number of number of kids who are having vaginal intercourse is on the way down. It seems more teens these days prefer oral sex (although there are fewer doing that than their used to be!!).
Happy? Not so fast. You may not be a grandparent anytime soon because oral sex is still winning out over bumping pelvises for the teen crowd, but we've got a whole other problem on our hands. Kids are getting cocky (absolutely no pun intended ... well, maybe ...), and they're not using protection when they go downtown. And guess what that means?
STDs are still spreading like crazy. The number of mouth cancers associated with HPV has taken a jump, and genital herpes, gonorrhea, and syphilis are still being spread through oral sex.
Color me not surprised.
I will go on record saying I had no clue that things like dental dams existed until I went to college and the small town girl got a big ol' eye-opener at the big city college's orientation. Along with that came the warning that you could get herpes of the mouth from oral sex, or vice versa!
Did I mention I was 16 at said orientation and just finding all of this out?
My parents were like most parents, I'm imagining. They gave me the rundown on sexual intercourse and STDs. But they stuck to the pretty traditional methods in the birds and the bees talks. Oral wasn't on the agenda because, really, who WANTS to think about their daughter's mouth ... there?
I know I don't. But I don't really get that choice, do I? I gave birth to her, now I have to protect her. And that means one day I will have to talk to her about more than just vanilla sex (to borrow a phrase from Fifty Shades). And if the numbers coming out of the CDC today are any indication ... there are a LOT of parents out there who need to start talking about oral sex with their kids.
Our kids are living in 2012, they need a sex talk from this era, not the same old one we got in the '80s and '90s.
How detailed have your sex talks gotten with your kids? Do you talk about oral sex?
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