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Gymnast Gabby Douglas' Mom Deserves a Gold Medal Too

by Jeanne Sager on August 3, 2012 at 11:01 AM

Gabby DouglasIt was hard to watch gymnast Gabby Douglas' triumph at the Olympics this week without feeling a sort of parental pride. The first black American to win an individual gold in gymnastics, she did it at just 16! She's an amazing kid.

But she couldn't have done it if her mom hadn't been willing to do something few parents could. Natalie Hawkins sent her daughter halfway across the country at just 14 years old, all alone.

In a moving interview about her decision to let teenage Gabby train with a gymnastics coach in Iowa while she and her other kids stayed behind in their native Virginia, Hawkins made no bones about how tough the decision was. And she was pretty hard on herself, telling the AP, "I'm thinking to myself the whole time, 'What kind of mother does something like that?'"

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I'd say the kind of mother who realizes being a parent means doing what's best for your kid, even when it hurts you to do it.

I don't know if I could send my child to live without me in another town, in another state at any age. Part of me would be wracked with worry that something would happen to her. Part of me would be missing her so badly it hurt.

But if I step away from it all, I realize that my fears would likely be silly -- after all, bad things can happen anywhere -- and my desire to keep her in my home so I wouldn't miss her would be selfish.

I can't fault Hawkins for making this sacrifice for Gabby. Here she had this kid with an immense talent, but the resources in their town weren't enough to help foster it. She made the tough choice, but she made the one that was best for her kid. Isn't that what being a good mom is all about?

Do you think you could do what Gabby Douglas' mom did for her?

 

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  • banan...
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    banana-bear

    August 3, 2012 at 11:09 AM
    I couldn't do what her mom did to her; I have more sense than that and love my children too much. I would have moved with my daughter, or just told her to compete where she lives. Gymnastics is a hobby, not a career. Yes, a minute amount of people go to the Olympics and achieve infamy; but that's extremely rare.
  • Michelle
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    Michelle

    August 3, 2012 at 11:19 AM
    Geez, banana-bear, I realize you are entitled to your opinion but SERIOUSLY? I almost feel sorry for your children. So if one of them excels at not just a sport, but an academic or otherwise, you would NEVER consider doing whatever it takes to help them fulfill a dream? (although I need to clarify that it MUST be the child's dream too, NOT the parent living vicariously through their offspring). This woman made an amazing sacrifice because she saw (gasp!) potential in her daughter. Do you consider anyone who does ANY sport for a living a "hobby"? WOW. I pray you are able to give your children wings and teach them how to fly in the world, not suffocate their potential because your own selfish reasons.
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    zombiemommy916

    August 3, 2012 at 11:34 AM
    Give me a break...her mother has an enormous amount of "sense"...Look what she accomplished!!! She was meant to go to Iowa and her mother knew it, I believe that kind of parenting is strong and selfless...to recognize the potential in your child and foster it, regardless of how others might react...she did it for Gabby...and come on! That girl was born to do what she does, she is beyond amazing...Would I send mine? Probably not, I'm extremely selfish though...not everyone can raise an Olympian
  • Pinkmani
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    Pinkmani

    August 3, 2012 at 11:41 AM

    Banana-bear, but obviously Gabby was okay with it. It most likely has been something that she dreamed about. Her parents probably couldn't afford to move the whole family to Iowa. By moving, Gabby not only has been able to accomplish her gymnastics goals, but she competed in the Olympics. Now with winning and all the endorsement deals and paychecks from her commercials, Gabby has started a career. She can continue to compete in the next Olympic competition or she start teaching Gymnastics and train other young girls. Professional athletes (NBA, NFL, NHL, etc.) play sports as careers, not as a hobby.

    I probably would do the same thing if I were her mom. That must have been hard, but her mom should be happy that she did what she did. 


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    Sarah Burgess

    August 3, 2012 at 12:20 PM

    Olympic Gold Medalist? The mother and obviously everyone knew she had this in her, otherwise she wouldn't have made those sacrifices. And she will thank her mother forever. 

    I left as an exchange student at 16 to Finland and people gave my father so much crap but I lasted a whole year, learned an extremely foreign language, and went on to learn german and french. No one is laughing now since I have also turned these talents into a profitable career. 

    If your a parent and your child is motivated and committed to a dream, help them. 


  • HS
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    HS

    August 3, 2012 at 12:29 PM
    Hi BananaBear, Perhaps you missed the news, but Gabby Douglas did make it to the Olympics ("Yes, a minute amount of people go to the Olympics and achieve infamy; but that's extremely rare.") so there goes that argument. Not only that, but she won the top gold medal any gymnast can win in the Olympics. So she has the whole athleticism bit down. She also EARNS $30,000 for every gold medal she wins and already is on the the Kellogg's cereal box which equals endorsement deals which equals money which equals a career ("Gymnastics is a hobby, not a career.") which also debunks that assumption. A sport is a hobby when you don't make any money doing it. Some people work on cars for a hobby. They spend their weekends fixing old cars just because they enjoy it and don't really make any money off it. Then there are people who work on cars as a career. These people are called mechanics and they make a living (money) from fixing cars. Hopefully this has cleared up many of your misconceptions. Continued...
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    HS

    August 3, 2012 at 12:30 PM
    Continued... On another note, what does Gabby's mother gain from her daughter's career? Other than pride, not much else. So how is sending her daughter off to do what her daughter dreams to do being selfish? Holding her daughter back would be selfish. And quite honestly, do you really really really think that if the adults in her life (mom, host family, COACH in Iowa) really didn't think she had what it takes to make it to the Olympics that they would have let her stay in Iowa? I highly doubt that. Gabby's coach has already coached other girls to the Olympics so I think it's safe to say he knows what he's doing. Why would he waste his time on someone that didn't have the right potential? And last I checked, no one in the Hampton Roads area (Where VA Beach is located here in VA) or surrounding area has ever coached a gymnast to the Olympics. Anyhow, Gabby's mom is a FAR better mom than you'll ever be and her daughter's accomplishments and personality reflect that. Cheerio, HS
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    Lisa Smith

    August 3, 2012 at 12:59 PM
    Why don't you cut banana bear some slack ladies.
  • emma
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    emma

    August 3, 2012 at 1:00 PM
    Agreed with all the above posters, and Bananabear, you really should look up the word "infamy" in the dictionary. It meansattention gained from a negative event. Being a gold medalist at the Olympics, let alone at 16, and as the first African American gymnast, is hardly a negative event. Pretty much the exact opposite.
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    EvaSamuel

    August 3, 2012 at 1:27 PM

    Sometimes children posses unique gifts.  Gifts that need to be nurtured and grown because if not, the whole child will suffer.  Gymnastics is that gift for Gabby.  In reading about this amazing young lady, her mother knew she was special and Gabby knew that she needed more than Virginia Beach had to offer.  It was brave of her mother and has seriously paid off!  Sometimes children need to go to college at 16 because of their gifts, other need athletic training.  Freddie Adu left home at an early age to turn his attention to soccer, Kobe Bryant left home to pursue basketball, Jodie Foster went to Yale.  It looks like gymnastics might be more than a hobby for Gabby Douglas.


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