14-Year-Old 'Ugly' Girl's Parents Get Her Plastic Surgery to Protect Her From Bullies (VIDEO)

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nadia ilseIn my opinion, 14-year-old Nadia Ilse has always been a beautiful girl. But she didn't feel beautiful until recently, when the Little Baby Face Foundation paid for plastic surgery to pin back her protruding ears. I guess it would be hard to feel beautiful after years of being called "Dumbo" by kids at school. Apparently Nadia started begging for an operation way back in the first grade, when the "relentless bullying" began.

I don't blame her for wanting surgery, and, sadly, I think her fears that the bullying would "never stop" unless she had the surgery were valid. As a mom, I also understand why her mother contacted the non-profit Little Baby Face -- watching your kid suffer for years must be horrible. So on the one hand, I'm glad LBF stepped up and paid for the otoplasy. On the other hand, I'm not sure how I feel about the additional rhinoplasty (nose job) and mentoplasty (chin job).

The thing is, there was nothing "wrong" with Nadia's nose or chin. There was nothing "wrong" with her ears, either, except that they made her an easy target for cruel kids. In an ideal situation, Nadia would have learned how to love herself exactly the way she was, ears and all -- in your face, bullies. This was not an ideal situation, however (if ideal situations even exist). So the ear surgery ... okay, fine. (The majority of kids who receive free corrective surgery from Little Baby Face have severe facial deformities such as cleft palates, by the way.) But why "fix" features that weren't even causing problems? What kind of message does that send ... to Nadia?

I guess the most important thing is that Nadia is finally confident in her appearance: "I look beautiful, this is exactly what I wanted, I love it," she said. And hopefully the bullying will end now.

Being bullies, however, they might just find something else about Nadia to pick on, like the color of her nail polish or her clothes or the way she chews her food. Perfection doesn't protect anyone from bullying. Only self-esteem can do that.

Would you get your teen plastic surgery for an issue like this one?


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nonmember avatar Lilac

Wish my mom knew about this when I was a teen I sure could have used some free plastic surgery to make the bullying about my jaw and teeth to stop.

Stacey. Stacey.

Unless you have been in a situation regarding your appearance that caused you extreme anguish daily I do not think anyones opinion on this has merit including mine. And I am not talking "oh I feel fat today" or "oh I hate my nose its too big". If a few minor tweaks is the difference between hating life and loving it I am in 100% support of it. Its a case by case basis. No matter how much we dont want appearance to be important, the fact is for pretty much everyone it IS important to feel confident in how you look. Pinning back your ears and getting a chin implant IMO is no different than spending thousands on braces, or a woman spending hundreds to get her nails and hair done.

fleur... fleurdelys3110

Well said Stacey. The important thing is that impressionable teen girls feel good about themselves. Naysayers who have never had self esteem issues should keep their opinions to themselves.

Fallaya Fallaya

I would do it for my daughter.  I was cursed with big boobs...I was a c-cup in 5th grade!  I wish I could have had a breast reduction.  I always said that if my daughter developed early, I would allow her to get a reduction (yes I know, most doctors won't perform the procedure until the child stops growing...it's just wishful thinking).  Also, I'd allow her to wear contacts at an early age...I had to wear thick glasses and was teased mercilessly about them.

Craft... CraftyJenna

Any kind of body modification can be a good and healthy thing, and it doesn't look like they did much of anthign to her nose and chin, her chin looks the same and her nose just looks strait, where it was crooked before. I know how much it hurts to be bullied constantly threwout school , I almost dropped out of high school because of it (I transfered instead) and if this really helps her, then more power to her. I would hope, however that her parents get some some counsiling to make sure she doesn't have lingering issues from the bullying, or fixate so much on her appearance that she feels she needs more surgery to make herself perfect, because there is no such thing as perfect. But it's not like she's 14 with breast implants, she got minor surgery on her ears and nose. I agree with the commenter above that's pretty on par with braces. 

banan... banana-bear

I was on the fence with the ears.....but then the doctor throws in the chin and nose!?! Not a fan.

CPN322 CPN322

Perfection doesn't protect anyone from bullying. Only self-esteem can do that.


That is SO true. I hope that this surgery (and hopefully she is seeing someone to talk about the bullying) will help her gain some self esteem. I pray they do stop bullying her. She was beautiful to begin with but I can understand why her ears bothered her.

CPN322 CPN322

I agree with Stacey.

stork... storkneedsgps

Poor girl There was nothing wrong with her before. Her ears could have been covered with long hair, especially if she went curly. Nothing wrong with her chin or nose. I would've tried a new school first kids will just pick on her for the surgery there. If you read this, kiddo, you are pretty no matter what!

nonmember avatar rosie

I first read about this on the London Daily Mail and several things bothered me: the surgery cost $40K (ten times the going rate for an ear pinning. Four times the rate for pinning, rhinoplasty and chin implant,) the surgery was performed in NY when there are plastic surgeons in Atlanta who do all those procedures, the child's nose was just 'tipped' and was left crooked, she is still growing and the chin implant was unneccesary at this time and why her mother put off having her ears pinned until she was in middle school, headed for high school when the procedure is usually done much younger. Since the cost is $4K, it is within budget for all but the poor. Since hers were so pronounced, I am sure payment arrangements would have been possible.

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