Demi Moore has had a rough year. First, ex-husband Ashton Kutcher was all over the media for having cheated with a young blonde -- on his wedding anniversary, no less. (Classy!) Then friends called 911 when Demi had an episode while supposedly high on "Whip-Its." Then came rehab. And now word has it that her three daughters, Rumer, 23, Scout, 20, and Tallulah, 18, have cut ties to Demi because they're tired of all the mama drama. While it's heartbreaking to take a break from someone we love who is going through tough times, sometimes it's what needs to be done.
The girls supported their mom through her split with Ashton and her stay at rehab, but after continued meltdowns and arguments, they supposedly have decided to back away. None of them have been photographed with their mother in months. Says a source:
They just don't want to deal with the drama at the moment ... they feel like they need a little distance.
Hey, moms are people too. There comes a time in every daughter's life when, unless your mom is a robot, you realize that she's human, with faults and foibles. It's at this point that you grow up and realize that sometimes mom needs you, and not just vice versa.
But it sounds like the girls have had enough. They're young and trying to carve out their own lives. Getting sucked into anyone's continual drama is demoralizing, but when it's mom's continual drama, it can be incredibly stressful. I remember one time my mother was going through some issues, and I couldn't seem to help her. But her issues were affecting me to the point where I started losing sleep and couldn't concentrate at work. I felt my emotional and mental health suffering.
So ... I cut her off. I stopped calling. Stopped visiting. I needed to do it for my own sanity. Within a few months, she began to improve, and I felt like I could communicate again. This isn't abandoning your mother in her time of need. It's saving yourself when trying to save your parent isn't working.
And, let's face it, you can't really save anyone. All you can do is say, "I'm here for you." But sometimes being "here" means being "here" from a distance. If the girls are really cutting off Demi, maybe this is the kick in the butt she needs to get herself together.
Have you ever had to cut off contact with your mother?
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