Teens Texting Nude Photos of Themselves Are Getting Out of Hand

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A recent study found that 28 percent of all teens text fully nude photos of themselves, and 77 percent of the girls and 82 percent of the boys who had admitted sexting were no longer virgins. We parents thought phone cameras were used for sending photos of our babies and Instagraming our dinner. We completely forgot that those babies grow up and might think nothing of electronically sending, or posting online, nude or semi-nude images of himself or herself. WHAT? Damn you technology. We’ve come full nude circle.

As the mother of little girls, this scares the hell out of me. Technologically advanced children have become accustomed to instant gratification. Teens get caught up in a moment; pose, click, send. Poof! Within seconds, that same photo is on FB, Twitter, Instagram, in an email or a sext sent to some unrequited love interest. A nude photo of himself or herself is out there forever. Forever, people.

When I was in high school, in the late '80s, we would have first had to coax ourselves into taking the nude photo. It would have involved some peer pressure and copious amounts of Zima. More often than not, we’d end up with a hangover and still too freaking chicken to take, let alone mail, that nude photo. If we had the balls to take the photo, we still had to morally talk ourselves into mailing that photo and then wait 3-5 business days before there was any fallout. There was even a very slight chance that we could intercept it or it would get lost in the mail. It was a much more taboo thing to do then. People would think you were a whore and chances were the douche you sent it to would show the entire football team.

I would never have sent a nude photo or sext to a boyfriend for the simple fact that 1) those Zack Morris cellphones didn’t have camera capabilities, 2) I was too afraid my dad would find out and kill me, or 3) worse, it would be shown to the entire school on a projector or something. Good old-fashioned parenting and giant ineffective phones scared me straight.

Today, teenagers have convinced themselves that it’s not a big deal to give a classmate oral sex. What? I know I’m knocking on the crypt keeper’s door by being almost 40 but isn’t sticking someone’s business in your mouth a little more “intimate” than the actual act of having sex? In my book, oral sex is as intimate as it gets. There may be a few good men who can say they’ve gotten into these knickers (okay and a couple of assholes), but not many at all who can say they’ve gotten their business into this mouth. But teens today think it’s no big deal because it’s not sex. News alert, oral sex is sex. It says so right there in the title. THAT scares me.

We are raising our kids in a world where the kids who aren’t doing “it” are made to feel like freaks and those who are having sex don’t think it’s a big deal at all. Pass the condoms. Do today’s teens think they are living in an episode of Skins? I’m all for experimenting and coming of age but I’d prefer the cumming happens around 17/18 not 12.

What do you think about the slippery moral slope of technology and today’s teens?

Image via Ed Yourdon/Flickr

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Lucre... LucretiaMcEvil

You sound old. This is nothing new. Camera phones and texting have been out for over a decade.

Teens did the same thing with Polaroids before there were camera phones.

Thur world isn't getting any worse. There are just ways to hear about everything now that didn't exist before.

And also, fart.

cmjaz cmjaz

My 17 year old daughter has been thinking about being in politics and I always tell her never take a comprimising picture of herself or allow one to be taken of her. People won't care that she was only 16 or 17 when they were taken. It could actually be worse.

I also told her that even if she decided to become an actress, activist, journalist, etc, if she obtains any fame, it could quickly turn to infamey instead. I try to keep her on her toes so that she always has that in the back of her mind. I hope its working....

Jess1... Jess10210

I don't think you sound old at all and I'm 21. I've seen so many of my high school classmates vaginas because assholes spread naked pics like wild fire that it's ridiculous. I think the morals of teens these days are pathetic. 12 year olds having sex freaks me out and the age of kids having sex is getting lower and lower. it scares me thinking about having kids and bringing them into this disgusting world.

babyb... babybluejess12

My husband and I joke that when our daughter is old enough for a cell we're either busting the camera part or we're scratching the lens really bad. Lol.

nonmember avatar ajc0623

I'm 23 and you definitely don't sound old. I would of never of even thought about sexting a pic in high school. I personally don't get it. A lot of teens today have no moral values. They're growing up in a society where it's "cool" to be slutty. And alien to have values. It makes me fear for my children.

Maias... MaiasMommy619

How does she sound old?? Maybe you sound too liberal... There is no way in hell I would give my young kids cell phones to begin with. I think with all this unwatched and Unmonitored technology kids are just getting worse... I am scared for the future of my kids and grand kids...

Pinkmani Pinkmani

I don't see the point in sexting, I thought that's why there's porn. Why send a picture when you can go and get the real thing? (Not that I'm condoning that behavior...)

the4m... the4mutts

That's why PARENTS that decide to get their kids a cell, get them one with ZERO internet access, and should go online and block picture messaging.

Kids acting this way, isn't new. But parents have technology too, and we CAN make sure they can't do this shit on our phones, yes, they're our phones, we pay for them.

We can also make sure they have no computer in their room, and only a desktop with no webcam in a common area. We can put parental controls on for each computer user, and tell our children that they are not allowed to have a social networking site, unless they give us the password. If they don't? Block the site from their user name on the computer.

Kids WILL find ways around these things, no doubt. But as parents we should step up and do them anyway, to set the precident that these actions are unaccepable in our eyes. Give our kids standards to live up to.

nonmember avatar Andrea

My teen wants to wait until he is married to even kiss--he decided that when he was about 7 ot 8 and so far has not changed his mind. I fully support that. I am teaching him that a man who respects a woman does not try to coax or coerce her into sex and that two people in a relationship need to talk about what types of intimacy are okay with them (holding hands, kisses on the cheek, affectionate kisses on the lips, passionate kisses on the lips....). If they aren't mature enough for the conversation, they aren't mature enough for the action or the relationship.

It's the attitus\de that "experimentation is fine" and "all teens are having sex and drinking and trying drugs" that encourages the ones who ARE doing these things to think it is normal and okay. It is not okay for a kid to do ANY of those things. And not all kids are doing them, either.

Tell your kids NO and tell them why--emotionakl fallout, fallout later in life, diseases, pregnancy, self-esteem, morality, regrets, what will your later spouse think, your kids?
What does God say? There are many reasons to wait. Teach them to do so from when they are young--teach them to respect others and themselves.

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