Mom Sues Coaches Who Cut Her Precious Son From Basketball Team

basketballAnother day. Another mom who can't bear to see her widdle snookums hurt by people who don't think he's quite as awesomesauce as she does. Yes, an Arkansas mother is in the process of suing a school district and the coaches who cut her son from the high school basketball team as a freshman.

Teresa Bloodman claims students have the "right" to participate in extracurricular activities. But here's the funny thing. Her son went through three tryouts before he was cut. She didn't have a problem with the first two ... which kept OTHER kids from being able to participate.

It's only since her son was kicked off the squad that Bloodman has had a sudden need to defend every kid's "right" to play. Gee, sounds so sincere, doesn't it? Snort.

Bloodman is right, kids do have rights. They have a right, just like everyone else, to earn a spot on the high school basketball team. And by earn I don't mean use lawyers to get you that spot. I mean get your butt out on the driveway every day after you finish your homework and practice your jumpshot until it's so dark that you can't see your own hands.

I didn't play high school sports. Not because I have a problem with them, but because I am one of the klutziest people on two feet. My high school team was made up of girls who were far more talented than me, and that was just fine with me. I was a member of the Quiz Bowl team and the yearbook committee, and I took karate class for fun. They had their strengths; I had mine. And trust me, my parents made me earn those strengths. They weren't going to sue my way onto the nerd squad (and God knows, I would have gone and hid in a corner if they had).

Like the parents who are currently suing their kid's school for kicking him out of class for cheating, moms like Bloodman seem to think their kid is somehow better than anyone else's kid. And they're letting their kid know that's how they feel. What incentive is that kid going to have to actually work from here on out? He doesn't have to! His mom is fighting his battles for him!

I don't know about you, but if my (klutzy and really better at the arts) kid was a starter on the soccer team, I'd rather it be because she spent every night in our backyard kicking a ball against the shed than because I had to whine and moan and sic a lawyer on the school district. At least she'd be able to hold her head high and say, "Yeah, I really CAN do this."

How do you feel about the "right" to take part in extra-curricular activities?

 

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nonmember avatar Brittany

I was cut from the basketball team at the end of tryouts after a week of trying really hard. Yea, I cried. It sucked. It was hard for me and my parents that something I'd tried so hard to get to do didn't pan out. But then, life went on. And now, when something that I work for in real life doesn't pan out, I have the ability to cope with it. Getting over disappointment is part of life. Come on Teresa. I know you want to be a good mom, but this kind of parenting isn't helping your kid grow up.

nonmember avatar kaerae

While I agree with you point, your reasoning is off in saying that she didn't "have a problem with it when the other kids were being cut." Um, SHE CANNOT SUE on behalf of other kids, or on a principle, only her son or herself. She has no legal standing to sue on behalf of "other kids", she has to sue on behalf of herself or a dependent, so she HAD to wait until her son was cut!

nonmember avatar Ocgirl19

This is actually an issue that is challenging public schools in California. In public schools if a child wants to participate then the school must allow them to be on a team, club, committee, etc. Every school is handling the legalities differently, in some (like mine) the district has an across the board policy that everyone participates to avoid any conflicts, whereas others will follow it to the letter because in some obscure situations the school doesn't have to follow the all participate rule.



Now, let me say, I agree that spots on teams are earned but I also feel that if a child has a desire to play, even if they stink at the sport, they should be given the chance because you never know if they're determined enough to work hard to become good at it.

Mrscj... Mrscjones

Even if she get him on the team how do you think his teammates who actually earned their spot will be happy with that. If I was him I wouldn't want the spot that way. My teammates who are better than me looking at me like the kid who need mommy to fight his battles.

nonmember avatar Lexi Jordan

This makes me sick. What an abuse of the justice system. It reminds me of my Boyfriend's step-mother, she thinks her son is a Golden Child, always fighting his battles, getting mad at the school for his poor grades and even his speech impediment- she even plays his online games for him when he's at school so he can stay ahead! Like really?! And you wonder why his grades suck?? He has NO motivation, it's disgusting how some parents think the world owes their child everything.

fave82 fave82

@KAERAE the author isn't saying that she should be suing on behalf of other students. She's saying that this woman is suing because she thinks that the students have a RIGHT to play on the team without having to try out. But if that were true, then why didn't she call the lawyer right from the beginning of tryouts? She was perfectly alright with the idea of her kid trying out for the team UNTIL he got cut, and then all of a sudden, she thinks that it's wrong.

nonmember avatar Mike M

For those who didn't read the linked article (which has important details that were omitted as well as misreported in this blog post), 9 of the original 11 members of the basketball team were replaced three months after they made tryouts for the basketball team by football players who wanted to transition to basketball after tryouts were done for the football players. The coach(es) should have made it clear that the basketball players could be replaced at any time if they hadn't done so.

nonmember avatar Erin

This mom is pathetic! What, she's going to sue the basketball coach, the high school teacher, the college professor, the lifeguard supervisor, and eventually the president of the first company he finds at job post-college? Teresa, you might not realize this but you're doing your kid NO favors! He's not going to learn important life skills like how to deal with rejection and disappointment or how to work even harder to accomplishment something on your own merits. Society is not doing anything when you allow every kid to participate - that is not how real life works. What will a school do when 35 kids want to play basketball and you only have 12-15 uniforms, 1 coach, and 5 starting spots? GET REAL, TERESA!! (And the rest of you parents for raising a buncy of pansies.)

Jespren Jespren

The thing is, depending upon the specific wording of the law in her state or city, she might just be right. In at least some states kids *must* be allowed to participate in any sport they want, even if it means 3rd string junior varsity or 'team manager'. In most places though they just have a right to try out providing they have proper grades and have paid the appropriate fees. But either way, mommy dearest is insane to sue here, clearly sonny boy got a chance since he made it to the 3rd tryouts. It's not like coach took one look and booted him off the field because of some discriminatory issue.

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