Mom Punishes Daughter Via Facebook & People Freak Out (VIDEO)

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Ava AbbottOhio mom Denise Abbott has started a firestorm of debate after she used Facebook to discipline her 13-year-old daughter, Ava. After Ava was being disrespectful and was involved in too much online drama with friends, her mother took to the social media site to try and teach her daughter a lesson.

She changed her daughter's profile picture to one that showed a red "X" over her mouth with a caption that read: "I do not know how to keep my [mouth shut]. I am no longer allowed on Facebook or my phone. Please ask why."

Denise told the Today show:

I decided to do something that I know would totally impact her, and that the next time she started that, she'd think, "I don't want my face all over Facebook again with a red 'X' over my mouth."

Harsh and a little humiliating for the girl, perhaps, as plenty are crying with outrage. And yes, experts will chime in and tell us all of the reasons why it's not the "right" way to address an unruly child. But it also feels like an almost inevitable sign of the times. I mean, corporal punishment is pretty much criminal these days; grounding only gets you so far; and even some good old-fashioned screaming will probably get you a visit from child services. So what's a concerned parent to do?

Yes, there's talking, setting expectations, and all of that other stuff that sounds so good ... until you're dealing with a teenager who absolutely won't behave no matter what you do. Then what?

While in principle I don't agree that humiliating children is the best way to teach a lesson, I also think it's a hell of a lot better than not disciplining them at all. And honestly, in this case, the mother's method fit the crime pretty well.

As for Ava, she doesn't seem scarred by the whole incident either. She told NBC that she felt like she deserved it. "It made me realize that I didn't want my picture on there like that." Of course, maybe she just said that because she's scared of what crazy punishment her mother would come up with if she didn't.

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-Stra... -Strawberry-

Can't see the video. But I don't think what she did was that bad.

DritaF DritaF

You don't bring a knife to a gunfight. This mom did what she had to do to.

easun... easunshine

Holy cow fix the code. Ouch!

I would think taking the computer away would have been a good first step. Maybe it was. And if she'd already done that then whatever. It won't matter in 5 years anyway, so if it worked for now, good!

banan... banana-bear

Honestly, she stooped down to a child's level by doing that. There were better, more mature, ways to handle the situation. 

Desti... DestinyHLewis

or.....DON'T LET YOUR FRIGGIN KIDS ON FACEBOOK to begin with! WHY is that SO hard for parents to enforce? MAWGAWD! Sorry, but they don't have any business on social networking at 13, for SO many reasons. I have 3 daughters and my oldest thinks I am SO lame because I REFUSE to allow her access to these sites.  High School??? Maybe, if they demonstrate the maturity needed. Under that??? NO WAY! Good Lord parents are STUPID. JUST because half their Jr high is on it does NOT mean your kids needs to be. None of them do. That goes double for Elementary kids. WTH is wrong with people? So then a mom who didn't have the sense to keep their kid OFF FB decides to USE it as a discipline tool for a 13 year old?? WTH??  Yep, you are an idiot parent, and you let your kid on FB where they acted like a typical 13 year old idiot.... Hmmmmm? Humiliating her is an awesome idea.... ugh I am NOT for this generation of coddling kids, but I am sure as hell not for taking ZERO responsibility in what your kid has been allowed to do with their young immature minds, and then you use it as a weapon to try and teach them a lesson that will be lost on them... Get a CLUE! Kids are going to be idiot, immature, and disrespectful teens at some point. EVEN the best ones. QUIT acting like an asshat and giving them a platform to broadcast their dirty laundry.

Mandago Mandago

I love it. I think it was brilliant.

BusyM... BusyMom7789

If a child has access to a computer they have ways to sneak on Facebook.  I don't have a Facebook, twitter, or any type of account except for email so it's hard to tell just not to do it.  No matter how great a parent you are or think you and your child have communications, they may find a way to do something sneaky.  It's a part of growing up.  To keep up with the times you have to think of creative ways to discipline children.  I don't want to cause the child harm but it's better if the parent do something before it gets out of control. 

Procr... Procrastamom

Better to teach your children manners and respect from the get go and then when you sit them down to have the internet talk they'll be more likely to follow the rules you set out for them. Publicly humiliating your kids teaches them that it's okay to do to other people. Basically you're educating a future bully.

H.Unger H.Unger

This seems like a pretty immature way to handle it. Also, the mom kind of did the same thing she was punishing the girl for. Do as I say and not as I do?

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