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School Bans Girls Without Dates From Going to Prom

by Jeanne Sager on April 24, 2012 at 12:32 PM

CorsagePop quiz time! Amanda Dougherty is 17 years old, and she just got dumped by her prom date. But her school has told her she can't go stag, because young ladies need a male escort in order to go to prom.

Now for the quiz part. Is Amanda Dougherty a 17-year-old in 1950? Or 2012? What? You said 2012? Let me tell you what you've won!

Your prize is to live in a world where the "war on women" that Fox is busy pretending doesn't exist is being waged against teenage girls, and their parents' attempts to teach them that there are more important things in this world than teenage boys!

Dougherty is a junior at the Archbishop John Carroll High School in the Philadelphia area, and the school is holding firm on its rules that girls need a male (come on, it's a religious school, that kind of goes without saying) date to prom. Fortunately for her, this 17-year-old girl has what every teenage girl needs: a father who understands that this type of patriarchal thinking puts girls back six decades. Jack Dougherty is fighting tooth and nail to get his little girl access to prom with the rest of her friends and without a guy on her arm. Yay Dad!

But I'm still floored that he has to fight this battle with any school, much less a religious one. And the way the school has referred to the prom as a "special social event" with this type of rules makes it clear that the school defines a students' worth based on their ability to couple up rather than something useful like, oh, I don't know ... their educational prowess, their behavior, their humanity?

Essentially, what a rule like this one does is undo all the work parents put into teaching their kids that there is much more to life than the approval of the opposite sex. Dating is fine in the teen years; I did it. I see nothing wrong with it. But we want to teach our kids -- both girls and boys -- that there is nothing wrong with being unattached, that their worth is in no way tied to whether or not they are home on Friday night or out parking.

I'd rather my daughter never have a boyfriend than date a guy because that's what society -- or backward school administrators -- are telling her she "has" to do. She's a person; her worth should be based on her, not who she dates (or doesn't). And the same goes for Amanda Dougherty.

What does this rule say to you? What would you tell your daughter if her school had this attitude?

 

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Filed Under: school, dating

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  • Momma...
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    MommaGreenhalge

    April 24, 2012 at 12:37 PM
    Wow. There are no words. At least not any I would be comfortable using.
  • Mrscj...
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    Mrscjones

    April 24, 2012 at 12:38 PM
    That is beyond ridiculous. I went to my prom without a date and so did a lot of other people we had way more fun then the couples and didn't have to worry about someone wanting to leave early or trying to talk us into something we didn't want to do. Go Dad I hope she gets to go because a women's worth isn't in a man.
  • Laurlev
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    Laurlev

    April 24, 2012 at 12:39 PM
    This is ridiculous. I would never put my daughter in a school like this anyway, but if this happened I would try to take her on an amazing vacation.
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    kaerae

    April 24, 2012 at 12:42 PM
    So, are the boys allowed to "go stag" and just not the girls? I think this is nutty but, on the other hand, you can't send your child to a school sponsored by a religion that clearly ranks men above women and then be surprised when this happens...
  • jkm89
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    jkm89

    April 24, 2012 at 12:44 PM
    What is the schools reasoning behind this rule? How ridiculous! That's too bad for the kids. I had a date for my junior prom, it was awful. I went with friends for senior prom and it was soooo much more fun! They should be able to have their choice, too!
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    cocobeannns

    April 24, 2012 at 12:46 PM
    What! Crazy. I went with girlfriends to two different junior proms, and had so much fun. I had a date for senior prom. It wasn't nearly as fun.
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    Looneybird

    April 24, 2012 at 12:47 PM

    They do this in our local high school as well, and if it still that way when my daughters attend in a few years, then I will fight for them also. I say GO DAD!!! These rules are so prejudiced!  Get with the times ppl! I mean seriously, if a girl doesn't go to prom with a guy...then doesn't that alleviate the sexual pressures that boys can cause? I would PREFER my daughters going to prom with their friends as opposed to a male date! I believe more girls should rally together and show up without dates and protest!  Girl Power! lol


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    fraoch

    April 24, 2012 at 12:50 PM

    Our school won't allow any 1 kid attend, they have to be a couple (not dating, not boy/girl, just 2 people)


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    Christie Haskell

    April 24, 2012 at 12:54 PM

    Wow. That is just... wow.


  • Amand...
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    AmandaSnyder

    April 24, 2012 at 12:54 PM

    I went to both my junior and senoir prom by myself boy these people need to get a grip...... Hey maybe dad should go with her he is male and if my dad had been in my life at that point I'm sure we could still have had good wholesome fun.


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