For many high school students, the culmination of all of their years of hard work (or less than stellar effort) comes in the form of a letter from the colleges of their choice. A thin one sinks hearts, and a fat one has them shrieking to the world that they actually did it. Only if you're a student in New York, there's no shrieking allowed. In fact, students in some prep schools there are flat out banned from even announcing that they got into any college in person or via social media like Facebook. They're also not allowed to wear t-shirts or other gear on which their new school's name or logo is displayed.
Why? Because it might hurt the other students' feelings. I kid you not. The New York Post cites several examples of schools with such policies designed to minimize the pain for students who don't get into the college of their dreams.
I can't imagine a more ridiculous, over-the-top example of the coddling and kid gloves with which kids today are too often treated.
Sarah Tarrant, director of college counseling at Calhoun School, told the paper that students have weekly classes in which they learn “the appropriate way to share news of acceptance. “The weekly conversation reins in kids who might run around yelling, ‘I got in! I got in!’ ” she said.
It's even happening in public schools there. Darby McHugh, college coordinator at Bronx HS of Science, told the paper:
It can be bad and it can get weird. We send a notice out to all faculty telling them, ‘Please don’t congratulate students in public, no high fives, no hugging, and please be sensitive so that if you see someone crying, you refer them to the college-adviser office immediately.
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If I was that young again. Good luck in trying to keep me quiet. Especially on my facebook! I also would not let my school have access to my facebook! Ha!
so we shouldnt keep score at games that our kids are in either. or celebrate their goal/basket/point. . .oh wait~we already are not suppose to do that. LAME.
Some parent has a kid with hurt feelings and so "they took on the world" and fought a battle for all parents. We should be saying Thank you. Some parent needs to cut the umbilical cord and move on. I bet they are still pouring their childs milk in the morning before school. just sayin.
No wonder suicide is the 3rd largest killer of young people, we have made it all about their feelings and when "their feelings" get hurt they cannot cope. Life is never going to be on a level playing ground, someone is ALWAYS going to be smarter than you, work harder than you , get a break you just didn't get. But if your focus is on others and what you are doing for them that stuff doesn't matter, you are (hang on, this is radical) HAPPY for the success of others. If they acheived a goal you set for yourself and didnt accomplish you find out HOW to accomplish it by picking their brain. When the focus is not on yourself at all times you see the world more clearly, we are creating kids that do not have that ability.
This conflicts with freedom of speech.
I am truly taken back by this story...this is what is wrong with today's children! They are sooooo coddled and unable to handle situations that they will have to face in their near future. I would allow my child to post it, say it, and even buy them some clothing from the school. I would also have taught them over the years to be sensitive to others who may not be so fortunate...since when do schools take the place of the parents in raising our children?