Demi Moore Can't Expect Her Daughters to 'Love Their Bodies' When She Hates Her Own

demi mooreI really wanted to believe 18-year-old Tallulah Willis when I heard her credit mom Demi Moore for her "positive body image." According to Willis:

"My mom was very much like 'Love your body, love yourself, run around naked' ... whatever we wanted to do, it was very accepting."

As the mother of a daughter, I really really wanted to believe it was possible -- that a mom like Moore with obvious body image issues (to put it mildly) could somehow manage to raise daughters who didn't starve themselves or do drugs to stay thin or turn into plastic surgery junkies.

But deep down, I know that's probably not the case. "Do as I say, not as I do." Has that ever worked on any kid in the history of history?

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No, of course it hasn't. Kids need role models. And while I'm sure Demi Moore did tell her daughters to love their bodies and was probably incredibly careful about not criticizing their appearances or doing anything to give them the same head baggage she's been carrying around her entire life, she's setting the opposite example.

I'm not blaming Moore; I feel bad for her, really. She doesn't want her daughters to hate their bodies. She just doesn't know how to show them any other way of existing. It's sad.

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But there's still hope. Demi Moore might still get well. She might still get rid of those self-destructive demons, and if she does? She'll be setting an amazing example for her daughters: Don't quit. It's never too late. You can beat anything if you fight hard enough.

Here's hoping.

Do you think it's possible for a mom with body image issues to raise daughters who love their bodies?


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Petun... PetuniaPeacock

I hate all of their bodies. Her shovel-faced daughters hurt my eyes when I see their pic.

Kimbyann Kimbyann

Petunia - does it make you feel like a better woman being mean?

Anyway the title says it all

the4m... the4mutts

Yes, they can. I have body image issues. My daughters do not, and I would fight to the death to keep them that way.

I do not use the words, fat, skinny, chubby, thin, or anything about weight in front of them. I do not criticize myself in front of them. My SO and I talk about weight, but substitute the word "healthy"

I would like to take steps to get my health under control, be more healthy.

Not, I want to lose weight, be thinner.

It can be done. I'm doing it myself.

nonmember avatar Emme

Well, it must be possible because her daughters are at healthy weights and don't appear to have had any plastic surgery.

Judith K Littles

I don't know, it seems that her life example would have some impact. Regardless of what she says. I think we communicate more with our lifestyle than by what we actually say.

nonmember avatar DefenderClub

I am very proud of Demi Moore. Demi has made something of her life despite the fact that she was born to a mother, Virginia, who did not love herself. IMO, Virginia died young because she took to substances to drown her unhappiness etc. Virginia made many wrong choices because of how she felt about herself. And, so many of these demons Virginia dealt with were passed on to young, Demi because Demi carried that load as the stronger person. It was through no fault of Demi. I see Bruce and Demi's daughters as being accomplished ladies as well. And I don't agree with people's comments that Demi's daughters are unattractive. They got half of their genes from Bruce Willis if people think they are not attractive. Ru looks so much like Demi did at such a young age. There is nothing wrong with Demi still being a life learner and still needing to work on issues in her own life. The fact Demi got help tells you that she cares about her children and herself. Demi just needs to learn that she does not need an Ashton or a Hollywood to be somebody. Neither have defined her. Demi needs to be aware that she is a stupendous lady and that she is somebody. She needs to shake off the old and usher in the new in her life. It's hard to do all that when you hit a certain stage in your life.

Suzi Suzi

we are all learning till we die.  so choose life, and learn more!  Though it may seem cliche' to say this, beauty comes from within.  Fix your insides to go with your beautiful outsides!  We love you Demi!!!

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