Ideally your teenager will never be exposed to drugs and never have an urge to do them. Which also means no worrying about drinking and driving, and of course this would mean that in this perfect world, your kid will never have sex until marriage. Really, ideally it would be awesome to keep your kid in a bubble for all of teenager-hood. But that's not legal.
I don't want my kids ever trying drugs. Or drinking. In fact, that will be a rule. But I'm also realistic and was a teenager once and know what goes on. But still, it's not something I want happening. Pamela Anderson, however, thinks it's okay that kids experiment with drugs.
“We want them to practice safe sex, drink and experiment with drugs in moderation, find true love,” she said.
She went on to explain to FOX411's Pop Tarts that her kids have a great foundation and she feels they are smart enough to make the right decisions. She reminded parents that we can't be in denial of what life has to offer.
She's got a point. Maybe it's okay to loosen the leash a little, let them live a little, maybe even "let" them do some of the things you did when you were a kid and your parents didn't know about it. You made it through. You made the right decisions to get you to this point -- you're still alive. Maybe it's even better to have experimented and not liked it and, you know, moved on to get hooked on learning and go to college, graduate with honors, and land a sweet job and be all set and secure with money. (Ideally, right?)
But then I think this isn't a one size fits all answer. Some kids can handle peer pressure, some know when to stop after the first shot of Jager, some may smoke a little pot here and there but then are over it. But some kids don't know when to say when. Some have just one drink too many and then drive. Some overdose and die.
This is reality. And the reality is that we really don't know if our kids can handle it. We have children, they grow up, we have to release them to this world, and we hope for the best. We hope what we taught them sticks with them. We hope they make the best decisions. One kid can experiment with drugs and turn out fine. Another could turn out dead.
I think it's fantastic Pam knows her kids well enough to trust them -- that is the ideal parent/child relationship. But how do we really know? I guess we don't. It's all about trust. And that includes trusting your instinct as a parent to talk to your kids if you think something is going on.
What do you think of Pam's parenting approach? Do you think we should "allow" our kids to experiment with drugs?
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