Wise 13-Year-Old Tells Truth About Sex Talk in High Schools (VIDEO)


AstoriceIt's a fact that fills me with nothing but relief: most 13-year-old girls in America have yet to have sex. So I suppose I should be surprised that a spot-on take-down of the practice of slut-shaming females who engage in sex comes from none other than a 13-year-old female vlogger. But I'm not.

It may sound like an adult topic, but the first time I ever heard the word slut was in high school. The person using it hadn't had sex yet ... nor had the person it was being used against. And now that the video made last August by Sarah McLeod, a YouTube user who goes by the name Astorice, has gone viral, the whole world is getting a look inside a typical high school.

Like it or not, our kids talk about sex, and they have already learned to use it as a weapon. They know that it's easy enough to make someone feel bad about their sexuality -- be it actual activity or simple sexual urges.

If you think a bunch of catty you-know-whats talking trash in the corner of a bar are bad when you're 20-something, try a bunch of hormonal teenage girls in the corner of a classroom with a bad case of insecurity over their not-yet-developed chests. You don't have to be having sex to be called a slut in high school. You just have to have won the genetic jackpot. She who develops boobs first is the lucky winner of a reputation.

Ain't life grand?

Trouble is, once a girl is labeled a slut, she's left to pick up the pieces. She has a hard time dealing with her own emotional turmoil over the way she's picked on, and then she has to face the likes of parents who don't want her hanging around with their daughters because they've heard she's got a "reputation," and the way teenage boys automatically pressure her because they assume she "puts out."

Young Sarah hits a home run when she points out that teen girls are using the word "slut" without understanding what it means. Slut-shaming destroys a person's self-esteem. It allows society to excuse rape because "she was asking for it." It confuses people just as they're trying to figure out what being sexual means. And kids are doing it without even knowing it.

This is why a 13-year-old girl talking about slut-shaming makes perfect sense. We need our kids to understand the consequences of their actions.

As McLeod herself admits, "I am fully aware that this is a bit of an unorthodox topic for a 13-year-old virgin to be talking about, it's an important issue to discuss, and a great topic for girls my age to know about (to deny that demonstrates a clear lack of understanding as to what teenagers actually do and say)." And that's exactly why her video needs to be shared with every teen you know:

Have you talked to your teens about the reality of the words they use every day?


Image via Astorice/YouTube

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tinyp... tinypossum

Oh lordy....She's a smart, articulate girl and I agree with everything she said. I just wish it came out of the mouth of someone 18 and not someone 13. That child is waaaay to grown up. :-/

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rache... rachelnicole3

A very wise young person...I think it is a great message for her peers.

nonmember avatar Cookie

You know that something is wrong in our society when a 13 year old girl starts talking about slut shaming. I can honestly say, when I was in 6th grade, I didn't know ANYONE who was having sex and we didn't talk about it because well, IT WASNT RELEVANT.

AyaTa... AyaTachihara

This is a problem that has been around for a very long time. I am almost 30 years old, and I dealt with this just because I developed very early. It does a great amount of psychological damage and can even have the worst effect possible - when a girl hears what a slut she is day in and day out, eventually she will believe it. Young girls are impressionable. This girl is downright amazing. How unusual for someone of her age, especially being so young and unexperienced, to stand up for girls that are being targeted. Most girls are too afraid of the backlash to stand up for what's right. Lets hope that this is the first step in the right direction for teen girls everywhere. 

tracy... tracylynnr67

What a great message ! I have a feeling that she has very involved parents who have talked to her about everything since she was very young. Good for them and good for her!

cayen... cayenaroja

I have a 14 year old daughter and I'm not surprise at the topic of Sarah video, I had talk to my daughter about this kind of behavior, yes is a topic that maybe should be discuss by a 18 year old girl but times have change and is better to have this conversations and not having your child walking around in school without a clue of what's going on. Congratulations Sarah and to your parents.you rock

libby261 libby261

Wow... amazing... you go Sarah!!!

nonmember avatar Arlene

A very smart girl and I agree with the slut-shaming. Didn't know they still did that. I remember in the 70's I was a target but that was a LONG time ago. As a parent, I don't agree that if you're that age and you're using protection its OK to have sex. Maybe if you're an adult but not a young teen.

nonmember avatar miss N

wow this girl is truly smart for her age and im impress at how mature she is. She is right in today society kids are using this word without knowing how greatly it can impact a person specially young girls. Parents should start talking to their kids not only about sex but about bullying as well because guess what parents? your kids can also be the bully not the victim..

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