Controversial Kiss Gets Cheerleader Kicked Off High School Squad

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kissIf you heard that a high school cheerleader was kicked off the squad for kissing a guy and thought, "What cheerleader hasn't done that," you can understand why the parents of the student kicked off his team in Alice, Texas are concerned. Yes, I said "his" team. But if you weren't surprised that a teenager was caught kissing, should his sexual orientation matter? Apparently it does to the folks down in Texas.

The public school administrators in Alice have been accused of using footage captured on a school surveillance camera of a boy-on-boy kiss on school grounds as grounds for dismissal from the squad. The teen's family says he was then suspended from school for something straight teens are allowed to do every day: pucker up and peck.

Come on. It's high school. Kids kiss. If you don't think it's happening, it's time to take the blinders off.

When we were in school, kids pecked each other on the lips by their lockers between classes. It happened. Usually the teachers turned a blind eye. If it went too far, they were quick to tell us to knock it off, and the natural order was maintained.

Do we, as parents, like the thought of our kids locking lips? Not really, but I'd rather my kid was a make-out queen than the next star of 16 & Pregnant. Kissing is a nice, safe way to get some of that pent-up sexual energy out without ending up in the delivery room.

I suppose some parents would say that makes me overly permissive. But I remember the teen years, when you felt too cool to get hugs and kisses from your parents, and yet you ached for someone to touch you. I was a hugger as a teenager. I threw my arms around everyone because I craved affection. I get it.

And I can't help noticing the double standard down in Alice. So a guy kissed a guy. Big whoopedy doo.

All it takes is a quick look through the Alice High cheerleading constitution for the whole thing to turn from reasonable rules to blatant attack on the gay kid. Public displays of affection have to be witnessed by the coach in order to get a cheerleader in trouble -- at least according to the school's official rules -- and even then, they're worth just a "strike." Just like in baseball, it's supposed to take three strikes before you're out. But the school skirted that rule when they suspended him: a suspension results in automatic dismissal from the squad. Way to show your hand there, administrators!

Suspension for a kiss? A kiss that was spotted not by teachers in the middle of the hallway, but on a surveillance camera? That's ludicrous. To make a kiss a crime worthy of suspending kid just to get a gay kid off a team that represents the school is the lowest of the low. Unless every kid caught kissing in high school should be suspended ...

What do you think? Is it fair to oust a boy for kissing a boy if girls can kiss them?

 

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dilly... dillyboysmom

This is blatantly homophobic.  They weren't even kissing publicly so they weren't "parading their lifestyle" to make other people uncomfortable.  The school is just wrong for this.  stick out tongue mini

Mrswbray Mrswbray

That is infuriating!! Unless they can show documentation of how many hetero couples have faced the same penalties for kissing, they should be held legally responsible for discrimination. I don't know what the laws are in Texas but with all the gay kids that have died by suicide lately, I find it really sad that some schools still try to make gay kids feel bad for being who they are.

PonyC... PonyChaser

Couple of issues here...


First, if you don't want someone to know about it, don't do it. That goes for kissing against the rules or stealing. Getting caught on camera in today's society is no different than getting caught by an actual person. Look how many Red-light & Speeding Cameras are enforcing laws now. I don't like it much either, but apparently, our society is ok with cameras being equal to humans. So saying that "it was caught on a security camera so it shouldn't count" is a cop-out. You commit the crime, you do the time.


Second, I agree with him IF it's true that others are constantly kissing, and IF he's being singled out. That shouldn't alleviate his punishment, but others should be treated the same, and suspended just like he is. But so often in cases like this, it comes out later that the person being "persecuted" is blowing the story out of proportion, and we discover that the act was being flaunted, there were previous warnings, or that other circumstances existed.


Finally, and this has no bearing, I think it's pretty silly that the school can't comment due to "privacy issues" - ostensibly protecting this young man's privacy - while he is out blabbing the entire situation, from his perspective, to the press. I don't think we can really make a decent judgement until we hear both sides.

aeama... aeamathis

Please don't say "folks down in Texas".   It was one specific small town school in South Texas.  I can assure you that this is not a state issue.

Courtney Paige Neale

PonyChaser - I think the point she was making was that in that schools cheerleading constitution is clearly states that the COACH must WITNESS the kiss. Not anyone but the coach, and even then there should only be a strike, not kicked off the team.


This is just appauling and I feel so badly for this young man :( I hope people across the country become enranged by this as well as any other form of discriminating against a gay teen. I also hope the school comes to their senses and feels ashamed for the way they handled the situation.

LyTe684 LyTe684

I wonder if he has kissed a girl, would he have been kicked off? That is wrong to discriminate based on his sexual preference.

chefm... chefmom2470

This make's me so sad that people are still so critical of our young people. Just like alot have said would he have been kicked off if it were a girl, boy issue? This is so wrong in so many ways.

bills... billsfan1104

I think we need to find out the whole story first. Like Ponychaser said, there is usually more to this than just a peck.

DGmomma DGmomma

I live mins from this town. Im a huuuuuuuuuuge gay marriage/equal rights supporter BUT.. the school wont say whats on tape.. but theres vid of him doing alot more than 'just kissing' in the band hall. Since seeing the tape his parents agree with his suspension and all support rallys and protest were cancelled. You cant get caught humping ur lover on security tape at school gay or straight. And pulling the gay card and starting a national scene is not good for a state that is already in a up hill battle to prove were not all backward homophobic rasists.

cmari... cmarie452

Actually, all the reports say that the parent's a ready to fight the decision and want him back on the squad.  Also, other parents are saying he was unfairly suspended as well.  Suspending him for a kiss was wrong and I hope they reinstate him, because that's the right thing to do.

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