Parents Are to Blame for Gay Teen Murder


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Brandon McInerney
It's sickening and outrageous how wildly misplaced the blame has been for the murder of 15-year-old Larry King. The openly gay teen was shot twice in the back of the head while sitting in class by his schoolmate, then 14-year-old Brandon McInerney (the most cowardly way to take somebody out ever, by the way), and apparently, it's his own fault. At least that's the twisted logic defense attorneys are relying on: They say McInerney was "pushed to the breaking point" by King's "taunts."

I say McInerney's parents screwed up big time, if their son's reaction to another boy making teasing remarks like "you know you want me" was to kill him. What kind of a childhood did this kid have? Oh, wait ... a really bad one.

McInerney's father, William McInerney, was sentenced for battery against his mother in 2000; he was also accused of shooting her in the elbow several months before Brandon was born (hmm, wonder what part of her body was his actual target?). William died at home in 2009 of "blunt force trauma to the head." The coroner ruled the death as accidental, but I wouldn't be surprised if it was more of an accidental, wink-wink. (Not that I blame the woman.)

When kids grow up in violence and chaos, it's not uncommon for them to gravitate towards strict ideologies that give them some sense of order, however distorted. White supremacist materials, including books and sketches of swastikas, were found in McInerney's bedroom. How tragic that the system of beliefs McInerney chose for himself, in the absence of any parental guidance, was such a violent and hateful one. But then, given his experiences, it's not surprising.

I'm reminded of that old expression: If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything. McInerney was raised completely without any sort of moral or ethical code, and this was the result. As parents, we can't take it for granted that our kids will instinctively know right from wrong. My kids are only 10 and 5 years old, and already we've had the "don't ever use the word 'gay' as an insult" conversation. Because before I told them, guess what? They didn't know any better. Somewhere, one of them heard somebody call somebody else "gay" in a derogatory way and mistook the word to be an all-purpose slam like "dumb" or "stupid." As soon as I explained the difference, they understood.

To think how simply the tragic loss of these two young lives could have been prevented.

Do you think McInerney's upbringing is to blame for his crime?


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Courtney Paige Neale

I do. I think because of his young age a lot of the blame should be placed on the parents and their lack of parenting. He is still his own person and made his own choices and should be held accountable. It is absolutely disgusting to me that they would dare blame the victim. Ummm are they trying to say that that is the appropriate response to unwanted come ons?? A lot of people would be dead if it was.....

Cooki... CookieRobot

I think the defense is absolutely disgusting and way to explain away the upbringing of the perpetrator.  

hutch... hutchfam2007

Well, lets see... WHERE did a 14yo get a gun!?!?!?!  I do feel that in this situation, the upbringing had a big impact on the way this one turned out. Would i call it the parents "fault', not ultimately, it is the fault of whomever this kid got the gun from, the school system because the gun made it all the way to the classroom, and obviously the shooter himself is responsible. Because of personal experience I have a hard time placing all blame on parents for actions that their children choose to do, even at the young but hormonal age of 14.

nonmember avatar Jay

You don't blame the woman? Then whose fault is it? Are you going to claim she "slipped"?

Lulu_B Lulu_B

I like the point that the article in the link made: this has everything to do with hate, in this case hate of homosexuals. If a girl followed this boy around saying 'you know you want me' and he shot her, would the defense be pulling this? I don't think so. This boy is obviously full of hate, and, yes, his parents shoulder a lot of the blame.

xavie... xavierlogan09

no. He is to blame. I think he killed him for being gay. Which is a hate crime. So his parents can't be blamed for his actions. Any 14 year old can get a gun these days. There a hundreds of illegal guns for them to use. So i blame him. He shot someone for being gay. I hope he spends his life behind bars.

mustb... mustbeGRACE

mustb... (Delete)

on Aug 15, 2011 at 2:38 PM

I agree.

What kind of childhood must the gay kid have had to turn out gay?

What was his relationship with his father like?

Anyone care?

mamayang mamayang

I think that's part of it. But I also think it sounds like this kid was bullied....And kids do horrible things when they get bullied...

butte... butterflymkm

Mustbegrace-you once again miss the point. The gay teen wasn't the problem! The kid that SHOT him was! THAT childs parents were obviously raising him in a hateful abusive enviroment.

boseph boseph

Mustbegrace... Upbringing doesn't make children gay. They're born that way. Brandon had no right to shoot a fellow classmate for being gay and i absolutely believe his parents had a hand in it. If you raise your children with love and an open heart to accept and confirm others for their differences they will most likely grow up accepting everybody they meet for who they are. But brandon also committed the crime and knew what he was doing. So parents and brandon are both guilty.

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