'Friday' Singer Rebecca Black Can't Handle Bullies

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Rebecca BlackRebecca Black may be getting invites to the Teen Choice Awards and cameos in Katy Perry music videos thanks to her quasi-hit "Friday," but her latest revelation proves she's still more like the average teenager than a Selena Gomez or Justin Bieber. Back home, the 14-year-old is just a joke to the high school bullies. And the teasing got so bad that Black is going the "famous teen" route -- she's being homeschooled.

That's right, Black's mom yanked her out of school to protect her from bullies who would constantly ask Rebecca what day it was or walk down the hall singing "Friday" in a "nasally voice." It seems a bit ... reactionary?

Granted, I wasn't walking the halls of Rebecca Black's high school. And I'm hip to the fact that bullying is the pits! I was there in a past not so distant that I can remember having my headbands stolen by kids on the bus, who passed them around, usually snapping them right in half. Try explaining to your mom why your headbands are always broken, and it's not because you can't take care of your stuff. And that was just a taste of what it was like to be a klutzy geek in a small, rural school where sports ruled.

The difference between then and now is that bullying is being recognized as a national epidemic. Some 77 percent of teens have been subject to at least some kind of bullying. There are horror stories of the aftermath: kids committing suicide, kids devolving into eating disorders, etc. But along with those horror stories, there is tremendous good: a heightened awareness, programs for kids to turn to, administrators who are more in tune with the needs of their students.

Today we hear bullying, and we rush to help the victim. That's good, right? We should always help kids in need?

Of course. But that doesn't mean taking a kid out of school because somebody made fun of her. I can't judge how MUCH torture Rebecca Black went through, and her mom's reaction may well be right.

But let's not make this a trend, shall we? If every kid who has dealt with some jerk in the halls were taken out of the school system, we wouldn't have high schools left. It's part of being a hormonal teen to be a moron sometimes. And part of going to school is learning to be socially appropriate.

Not every mean kid is a bully. And not every kid who is bullied needs to have Mommy come help them out. Kids need to learn, sometimes, to stick up for themselves. To roll their eyes at the guy who is calling them a stupid nickname, showing him that it really isn't getting the reaction he wanted. To tell him (or her) to knock it off. And if that doesn't work, they need to learn to go to a teacher or administrator when appropriate, just as they'll need to go to a supervisor when a jerk at work is playing games. Pulling a kid out of school doesn't teach them how to live in the real world.

Would you pull your kid from school like Rebecca Black?

 

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tracy... tracylynnr67

I homeschooled my sons for 9 years & my older 2 were 6 and 8 when I started so I did take them out of school to homeschool. So, yes, I would. I didn't start homeschooling because anyone was being bullied but if it became something that was distracting my child from learning then yes, I would remove them from the negative environment and homeschool them so that they could focus on what was MOST IMPORTANT.....getting an education. With all of the online schools out there students get a very good education being homeschooled.

nonmember avatar Anon

I will never understand why some kids are considered fair game for adults to attack publicly. It is not cool nor even OK to do this to ANY youngster. Isn't it enough for a hormonal teen to have to take shit from her peers and her own family? Many have slit their wrists over less. Can we all grow up a little?

Lulu_B Lulu_B

Think about how long it has been since the song came out--March, I think.  She has been bullied for a long time. I'm betting that she tried to ride it out, but it obviously hasn't gona away or blown over. I totally understand being pulled from that environment, after six months of constant bullying.

babyb... babybirch

if she doesn't want to be bullied, she probably shouldn't make such laughable attempts at making music ...

bills... billsfan1104

Ok, if this was a GAY teen, you would be singing a whole different tune.  A bulliend kid is a bullied kid.  I do not stand for bullies and never will.  I pulled my daughter out and put her in a private school, because of bullies.  How dare you think that her experience is just being made fun of and she should deal with it, when you woruself DO NOT KNOW ALL THE FACTS.  If this was a gay kid, would you be saying just deal with it??

Veron... VeronicaTex

I saw her speak on TV last night...I am very proud that she stood up and addressed the bullies, and how she has moved on...self-esteem intact..    Good for her!!!!!


Every mother has a RIGHT to take her child/children out of the public school system and either put their child/children in another school setting, be it private or homeschooling.


I worked in the Catholic and public school settings...I learned a LOT from teaching in both and being able to make comparisons....

zandh... zandhmom2

I totally agree with you Billsfan ~ I don't care why someone is being bullied, it shouldn't be happening. And again, I must ask when is the gay community coming out to support her?  I ask because when that comedian (can't remember his name for some reason) joked about killing his son if he told him he was gay, everyone FREAKED but 2 weeks later when he joked about retarded kids no one from the gay community or it's supporters said anything.  Quite frankly, I'm tired of the hypocrisyof it all.  People should not tolerant bullying from anyone against anyone else regardless of their gender, sexual preference, race, religion, height, weight, etc...!

cmari... cmarie452

A bully is a bully is a bully no matter who the victim is.  Who are you to judge how much bullying someone  can take.  Growing as a lesbian in a small town (think 20 people in my graduating class) I know what bullying is and just because I made it out ok doesn't mean I would ever assume someone else could.  You can't judge how someone will react and you can't judge what is bullying based on how much you like the victim.  Rebecca Black is a victim, whether you like it or not.  Seriously, what is with The Stir bloggers today, did everyone drink the Kool-Aid or something?

Kathryn Jackson

Give me a break.  The last thing Rebecca Black is is a victim.  The bullying at school is so bad that she had to drop out?  What about the nastiness she's been subjected to by the general population as a result of her notoriety?  That certainly hasn't stopped her from continuing doing what she's doing.


Maybe if she stopped "pursuing her career" the teasing at school would stop.  But we know that won't happen.  Because fame and the almighty dollar are much more important than getting an education.  

suzmomx2 suzmomx2

God forbid her mother decide to put the focus on her education by homeschooling her, rather than allowing her daughter to spend 7 hours of each day living under constant stress, anxiety and fear.


Adults commenting on this article should remember that you are an ADULT and she is a CHILD. You cannot pass judgement on a child. Bullying adults are a hundred times worse than bullying children because you should know better.

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