Teen Boy Needs Better Reason to Wear High Heels to School


high heelsWhen I hear a teenage boy was kicked out of school for wearing a dress and heels to class, my first inclination is to get on my high horse and get angry. At the school. How dare they? Boys and girls have every right to wear the same clothes, you know.

So when I heard 15-year-old Sam Saurs was suspended for pulling a little dress-up prank at his school, I was mighty PO'd at his closed-minded school administrator. But I was just as miffed at his mom. Because the kid from Washington State wasn't kicked out standing up for his ideologies. It all came down to a dare.

Sam Saurs' mom dared him to wear high heels all day. So he did. And he wore them to school. With a dress to match.

Wow. What a thing to "stand for." I mean, it still means the school was wrong. What's right for girls should be right for boys. What's right for transgender kids should be right for straight kids too.

But come on! There's something to be said for teaching our kids to choose their battles wisely, isn't there? Walking into a school building wearing a dress and high heels isn't just something some boys do because they "want" to, based on a silly dare. They do it because they're transgender. Their brain chemistry dictates their preferences for feminine clothing. It's not a choice any more than diabetes or dyslexia is a choice (poor examples, perhaps, in that both have negative connotations, but you get the point). But the kid who does it just as a joke isn't helping his cause. If anything, he's detracting from the point.

Think of the last time you took your child and a few of his little friends somewhere, only to have one friend act out. All the other children were lovely, but you said, "Nope, not doing that again." All because of one child. And such it is with this one kid, this kid who is not wearing his heels and dress because he has to but because he wants to, because he feels he "deserves" to have fun, because his parents haven't yet taught him that there is a time and place for horsing around and having it your way.

It's OK to let our kids be themselves, vital that we teach them to stand up for what's right and important. But shouldn't our kids have something more behind their decision than "my mom dared me, so I did"?


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zandh... zandhmom2

So let me get this right...we can only do certain thing now if it is to stand up and make a point but how dare someone do the same thing to just have fun and be silly.  Really??? I think boys / men have been doing silly stuff like this long before the transgender decided to come out of the closet and do it. Man, it must suck to be so serious all the time.

jezsikaq jezsikaq

I agree zandhmom2, it seems rediculous that this article is about being fair to transgender people, I am all for equal rights, but really, since when does everything have to be so politically correct? for our grade nine day in highschool the boys had to dress up as britney spears and the girls as austin powers, it was for fun, and that is all this was.

MomoJL MomoJL

Why should ONLY the transgendered get to be different than the others?  Why can't everyone who wants to dress how they want, do so for whatever reason?  Not everything is a statement of belief, sometimes kids truly just want to have fun!  Geese.  This world.

Putri... PutridyCorpse

I grew up in the country that has way more restrictions than this.  Girls couldn't have hair longer than their chins and no make up, nail polish, hair dye, etc.  So you can imagine.

nonmember avatar Hazumu

If Sam wants to wear heels and a dress to find out what it's like, or because he likes wearing them, I've no problem. If Sam intends to become Samantha, good for her. If Sam is wearing heels and a dress to ridicule and humiliate another person or group, then I have a problem.

nonmember avatar M

For what it's worth: There's a (BIG) difference between crossdressing and being transgender.

Jessie Baade

Was the point of the dare to ridicule people who are transgender or because the mother was trying to teach the kid a lesson on how freakin' uncomfortable heels can be? Could have just been a point on restrictive clothing. Bottom line is if its not an act of hate, flashing something he shouldn't or breaking a dress code, he should be able to wear whatever he feels like wearing. I bet he wouldn't have made it through the day in heels anyway.

nonmember avatar Leena

If a boy wants to wear a dress to school because it's who he is, a boy who wants to wear a dress to school on a dare should be able to as well. This is being so open minded that you close your mind off to anything YOU deem offensive. If you are so open minded about everyone's lifestyle, you wouldn't care. To be truly open minded is to accept any reasoning for a boy to wear a dress. Jesus, how many times in my life will I have to say this exact thing?

nonmember avatar kg

Maybe in a perfect world everyone should be able to dress however they want to school, but think about it this way... if a kid wore an inflatable sumo suit or a mouse costume or something wouldn't you expect the school to at least have them change into PE clothes? The kid was wearing a costume probably intended to get some laughs out of classmates while taking his mom's dare which is fine, but schools have banned way smaller modes of distraction (ie silly bandz). Its hard to teach when you have a bunch of kids staring and giggling. I do think, however, that the principle went way overboard. Having him change at school or maybe even sending him home for the day would have been sufficient... being silly albeit distracting isn't anything that deserves serious punishment.

nonmember avatar FartsOnFire

I graduated in 2002 & at every school I've attended, whenever something that poses a distraction is worn, it is a problem. This includes unnatural hair colors, revealing clothing, piercings, unnecessary fashions such as super-high heels and gigantic jewelry. Parents should be glad that a school doesn't allow such ridiculous clothing on a boy. "Transgendered" and "cross-dressing" people only do those things for attention. You aren't allowed to express EVERYTHING all of the time. If a student disagrees, there's always homeschool.

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