Moms: Stop Cussing At Your Kids!


Cursing at childrenCare to place a friendly wager? I bet my neighbor can cuss circles around any one of your neighbors. In fact, my money’s on her to out-swear any late night comedian or Philly sports fan (‘cause them folks can cuss). Even a sailor would lose street cred. She’s a beast. But mostly, it ain’t adults on the receiving end of her foulmouthed tirades. It’s her kids. All five of ‘em, from a high school senior down to a 3-year-old baby. The 17-year-old gets it the worst.

Yesterday, he was standing outside without permission. And when she caught him, she cocked back and fired off slow at first: “What the @#&$ are you doing out of the house?!” Four-letter words came fast and furious after that, so much so that a cable guy nearby must’ve said something to check her. Yeah, he got laid out, too.

But I applaud you, cable guy. Is anything more trifling than when parents spit curses at their own children? 

People who can’t communicate their thoughts, humor, or sentiments without overusing four- and five-letter words are pretty much a drag to talk to, anyway. It’s funny to punctuate a statement here and there with a naughty word or toss one into a convo to really add some zing to a point they’re trying to make.

But when I, as the listener, have to navigate the minefield of somebody’s potty mouth every time we chat, I’m more likely to get distracted by the barrage of bad words than I am to actually pay attention to what they’re saying. It’s like talking to a running playback of an Andrew Dice Clay nightclub bit.

And even though that can be a bummer, it’s downright disgusting for a mother to disrespect her own children with a shower of swears.

We all get frustrated. We all get excitable. We all want to loop our arms around our kids’ shoulders and hip toss them to the ground WWE-style when they break curfew or don’t take the putrid trash out for the umpteenth Monday in a row (or maybe that’s just me). But it’s a sad state of affairs if a mother can’t make her own child catch her drift without showering them with raunchy language.

Moms who can’t go on their whole “I’m the adult, bow down and laud my authority” power trip without slapping Little Johnny with a made-for-Cinemax verbal arse whooping seem to forget that kids deserve respect just like adults do. And last time I checked, pelting them with F-bombs and B-words in the normal course of doing the goofy things that all kids are programmed to do is downright disrespectful.

Then we wonder why we’ve got legions of teenagers running wild and talking any ol’ kind of way out here on the streets. It’s because their parents talk to them any ol’ kind of way at home.

I can’t even imagine formulating the kinds of sentences my neighbor does to fuss out her kids if I had an axe to grind against a grown person, let alone a child. I mean after all, you aren’t saying anything really special. After a few years growing up in America, we all have access to the same vocabulary to curse her scrawny, no-couth-having tail right back.

Folks act like cussing is exclusive, like anybody with cable or a 50 Cent album can’t break out the same terms and implement them in the same way. And if that’s how you choose to talk to you friends, your neighbors, the mailman, the mechanic, the waitress at the restaurant — you’re really playing with fire unless you like your meatloaf flavored with loogies — that’s your prerogative.

But when you’re correcting your kids, it should come out of love. And if you’re verbally thrashing them like they’re garbage, I have a hard time seeing the love in that one.

We all know kids — especially teens — make you want to cuss, but does using expletives help you get your point across a little better? Or does hearing other parents cussing at their kids, teens on down, make your skin crawl?


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jalaz77 jalaz77

Do you live next to me??? Kidding kidding, I agree with this. Cursing at your kids belittles them big time which will lower their self esteem....I think it's because those parents can't control their anger.

jpfsmom jpfsmom

I swear like a sailor but never at my child (I manage to delay my tourette tirades for when he is out of earshot and usually under my breath).

bills... billsfan1104

When you are absolutely perfect and make no mistakes in the way you parent your kids, then STFU. You have no right to tell anyone what to do or judge them.

eatmy... eatmyshorts

makes my skin C:R:A:W:L:..can't stand it!

navyma23 navyma23

Gets my point across. I could careless if anyone likes it or not. 

vanes... vanessa5470

I think it's pretty pathetic and ridiculous.

I teach Pre-K and have four year olds throwing F-bombs left and right. I swear you have to put these kids through vocabulary rehab because of moron parents.

People then wonder why our society is going down the tubes and kids have no0o0o respect. Pfft.


nonmember avatar Anon

OK, so you just thoroughly insulted my mom, and I don't appreciate it. You try having 6 kids, a full-time job, college classes, and a house full of bills and responsibilities. You try doing all that pretty damn well, and then during the little bit of time you get to be yourself in your own house, be told that you're not allowed to say anything Janelle might not like. Phooey. My mom only swore at home, so we had enough sense to know that kind of talk / tone didn't fly elsewhere (nor were we allowed it at home, either). She raised 6 high achievers and zero losers. So get off your high horse. If I wanna let loose a little when I get extremely frustrated in my own home, my kids will have the benefit of knowing I am HUMAN.

nonmember avatar Alicia

Hey anon, maybe your mother should have kept her legs closed if she's that STRESSED. I mean seriously why do people have children and complain!

nonmember avatar QUINN

she's not talking about a mom who swears venting about her day at work or someone who lets a word or two slip. BUT coming from a neighbor of a mom who daily screams at her children (6 and 7 years old)"little sh*ts" and "motherf*ckers"
Sorry, you can't justify that, if are unable to handle your children w/out talking to them like that you shouldn't have had them

Marjc... Marjchaos

The swearing in my house has gotten outta control. My dh, stressed and agravated, swears, my mom, tired and stressed swears, and then me, exhausted and dealing with cranky toddlers and swearing adults...I'm swearing Too! So the other day I lost it. I said its enough. No more swearing and yelling in the house. Anyone doing so has to put money in the snark jar.

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