Gay Teen Constance McMillen Sent to Fake Prom By School


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Constance McMillen thought she'd finally won the right to take her girlfriend to her high school prom -- only to show up and find out she'd been duped.

The Mississippi teen who made news recently for standing up to a high school administration that decided to cancel the prom rather than allow her to wear a tux and invite her girlfriend told The Advocate she was sent to a "fake prom."

Way to go Itawamba, Mississippi! You've just reminded me why I'm relieved to have escaped high school with my sense of self . . . and terrified of the day my daughter will enter it.

School officials have acted like children from the beginning of this ridiculous venture, from the original edict that girls can't wear tuxes and students must attend the dance with a partner of the opposite sex.

But this topper smacks of a high school prank -- the sort members of a football team would be benched for or the cheerleading squad made to clean the bleachers over.

It's the sort of thing I'm trying to teach my daughter is beneath her, not what you'd expect from a group of adults.

Making it that much more repugnant is the news that of the seven kids at this fake prom, held while their peers were at the "real" prom (which has been chronicled on Flickr), were two students with learning disabilities. The school's decision to cast off the gay troublemaker is disturbing; its decision to treat children with a handicap as a pawn in their cruel game shows the value they put on human life.

Whitewashing the prom may serve to comfort these adults who are not forced to face their bigotry in the eyes on prom night, but its taught a poor lesson to the other students.

What would you do if your daughter was treated this way by her school?

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Cafe... Cafe MicheleZ

It gave me chills to read this. The horrors of high school are bad enough when a child is bullied. Now this! BY ADULTS!! Makes me want to home school.

nonmember avatar whatstrue

She was NOT tricked into attending a fake prom. The school put on a prom for EVERYONE, it was free, and tickets were not required. She knew about the PARTY that parents were throwing across town and even had the guts to text other students to ask if she was invited. She was told, its a private party, the prom is at the country club. No rules or laws have been broken. If a judge can tell parents who to invite to a private party then look more birthday parties for small children. LOL

RanaA... RanaAurora

My jaw just dropped. That is absolutely INSANE and ridiculous. EVery single one of those adults needs to be fired!

Cafe... Cafe Suzanne

whatstrue - "no rules or laws have been broken." what about common human decency? shame, shame, shame on all those involved.

ethan... ethans_momma06

I don't think it's right, but I do think that this piece is slanted wrong. It is unfortunate to say but she DID attend the 'real' prom. There was a private party held else where that she was not invited to, but it doesn't make the school sponsored dance any less real. I find the treatment of this girl to be incredibly horrible, heartwrenching and disgusting.
Even more so because the other party was planned and hosted by-ADULTS. If this is the behaviour set forth by the parents, then we certainly can't be suprised at how the children act. Disgusting.

nonmember avatar konkonsn

"...even had the guts to text other students to ask if she was invited."

Are you one of those students? Yeah, she sure had some "guts" to ask if she could be invited considering how they were treating her.

Cafe... Cafe Sheri

The parents involved ought to be ashamed of themselves! Throwing a tricky private party switcharoo like that, investing their time and hard-earned dollars in hatred and bigotry, messing with the heart and mind of a teenager. Constance, do not believe the rest of the world thinks in such small-minded ways. We'll be out here for you when you "escape."

nonmember avatar Bartleby

It's very, very simple:

There was a prom scheduled.
She wanted to take her date to the prom.
They told her she could not bring her chosen date to the prom.
She objected.
They told her there would be no prom for anyone.
She objected.
She was told that a prom would be held where all were invited with the date of their choice.
A prom was held where all were invited with the date of their choice.
She attended that prom with the date of her choice.
Very few other people attended the prom she attended.
Rather than attend a party where she was, most attended a party where she was not welcome.
Now she is objecting again.

Free association means freedom to not associate with some as well. In this case, she got what she asked for but did not get what she wanted.

I agree that the behavior on the part of most of the people involved with this was despicable, but I also think that you cannot force people to like you and that rubbing someone's face in something they don't like is going to engender feelings of ill will.

In the end, was what she did right? I think it probably was, but there are valid arguments to the contrary (a suggestion I've heard is that she and her friends should have arranged a boycott of the official prom and organized one of their own that was inclusive).

nonmember avatar ME

That was not a private party by the pictures, that was the prom. Do you think all are stupid as you are? You fool no one with your ignorance and one day you will be judged by your actions.

akhlass akhlass

No one wonder there are soooo many angry children. If the adults are behaving this way, what do these children have to look forward to, when they grow-up? Bullying Children is Unacceptable - C'mon Adults!

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