New Bedroom Selfies Trend Take Oversharing to a Disturbing New Low

#AfterSex SelfieLadies and gentlemen, we have officially crossed the line in the "what constitutes oversharing in the social media world" debate. Have you heard about the latest trend taking Instagram by storm? The #AfterSex selfie.

As if the selfie culture weren't pervasive enough, now we're getting inundated with pictures of couples in post-coital bliss, and just to make sure that we're aware of what activity the naked people in bed were just engaged in, they're tagged with #AfterSex.

I just can't. The words. I'm supposed to put words on paper the computer screen here, and I have none. After. Sex. Selfies. I give up, Internet.

Just -- why? Are we really so insecure that we need everyone to know that we do indeed have enough game to get someone to sleep with us? You know what I'm OK with? I'm OK with the general public (which includes my dad, by the way) not knowing when the last time I had sex was. I'm pretty sure you're OK not knowing about my sex life too.

Dr. Chris Chesher, a digital culture guru who teaches at the University of Sydney, believes that selfies are a way to exert control over your image. He said, "It’s about having complete control over the production of your own image, as opposed to someone taking photo of you and having control over it, or asking someone to take a photo and then asking them to delete it."

OK, fine. Take control of your image. But maybe a general rule for selfies should be -- if you wouldn't ask someone else to take the picture for you, then don't post it on the Internet.

Are you disturbed by after-sex selfies, or are they perfectly normal?
Image via asking_ariela/Instagram

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zonic... zonicMeadow

I took one once on a disposable camera.. its in a box by my bed... not on instagram people have no shame anymore.

nonmember avatar TheWife

Jeepers! I have wanted to take pics of my partner #AfterSex because of how relaxed and happy and handsome he looked (I have yet to date someone who doesn't have super-self-conscious-smile when a camera is around), but would NEVER tag it as aftersex or show others if the timing could be determined by the photo. People have no concept of how permanent the internet is. And while they may not feel shame for having a sexual relationship, (and I'm not saying it is something to cause shame) do they really want such a glaring example of poor decision making (lack of discretion, poorly defined social boundaries, etc) so readily available if the relationship ends. This strikes me as a sign of insecurity, like hickeys, and groping each other in public.

lalab... lalaboosh

My goodness. I don't consider myself a prude, but I don't like the hashtag bit at all. I don't mind the selfie, especially if you can't tell that they're nude. It's a mystery and they're sharing some bliss. That's something I can understand, but being so specific about it and hashtaggin it seems gross. No mystery or innocence, just a declaration of fucking. :/

I took a selfie like this once and I don't think I made it public, and my husband wasn't in it. I was digging the glow. :)

Nelli... NellieKane

Are people that self-absorbed today? The selfie trend is silly enough, but this is getting ridiculous.

nonmember avatar Elmer

The "selfies" after sex that feature two people of opposite sex are obviously posted to re-assure their friends that both of the participants are hetro-sexual....

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