Right on the heels of the story about a woman who posted the 'cheating husband' photo that went viral on Facebook comes another eyebrow-raising tale of social media tattling over someone's very bad behavior. A few days ago, a woman was chatting with a guy she met via the Let's Date dating app when he abruptly switched gears during a conversation about weather and texted her a lurid photograph of his penis.
Perhaps unsurprisingly, the woman wasn't exactly charmed by receiving an unsolicited full frontal image, and the two of them got into a heated argument over whether the action was "disrespectful" (her words) or perfectly acceptable since it showed his "big cock" (his words). The whole thing was captured via screenshots, which makes for pretty entertaining reading -- but wait until you hear what she did next.
So here's how Trevor started his conversation with a woman identified as Tumblr user aheartbeatchanged: he asked how her day was going, wondered if it had started raining in her neck of the woods, then randomly sent over this image:
Whoah! I admit I've been out of the dating pool for a long time, but does that ever actually work? I mean, seriously, has the tactic of a dude basically shoving his uninvited genitals into a girl's phone ever resulted in a hookup?
At any rate, it sure didn't make this woman very happy, and the following conversation ensued:
Trevor probably should have taken her chilly response as a very good sign he should put his junk back in his pants and leave her alone, but he stubbornly kept at it, calling her a prude and saying it was no wonder she was single.
That's when she used the Let's Date function that connects people through their shared Facebook interests in order to take things to a whole new level: she threatened to send the photo to his mom.
As for whether or not she actually did contact his mother, she wrote via her Tumblr page:
Oh, I sent it. And I expressed to her my extreme worry over his treatment of women. Feels good, bro.
Basically, this is a similar moral scenario as the woman sharing the cheating husband photo, except in this case we've got the actual screenshot evidence that the guy did something he shouldn't have. I guess if you send someone an unsolicited dick photo, you can't be upset when it gets posted on Tumblr and shared by over 60,000 people (it looks like she's since deleted her blog) -- but if she truly sent it to his mom, I feel bad.
Not for the guy: FOR HIS MOM.
Trevor definitely seems like a giant douchebag with some disturbing attitudes toward women, but did his mom deserve to have that image mailed to her via Facebook? I don't think so. I think the woman could have threatened to tell his mom and that would have been plenty effective for getting her point across.
I'm not trying to downplay rape culture or excuse what this guy did. But she could have shut down the conversation, blocked him, and chalked it up to a bad dating app experience. Or even posted it publicly as a shaming exercise and let the cards fall where they may. Sending it right to his mom's inbox, though ... how is that any different, in terms of unpleasant and unwanted graphic experiences, than what he did to her?
What's your call on this dating conversation gone bad? Do you think the woman did the right thing?
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