Mom Overhears Man Bragging About Cheating & Secretly Posts His Pic on Facebook (PHOTO)

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If you were sitting near a group of men bragging about how they were cheating on their wives, what would you do about it? Ignore the conversation? Get up and move? Turn around and tell them what a bunch of pigs they are? Or would you surreptitiously snap a photo of one of the men and post the image on Facebook, along with a request to share and ultimately shame him for his alleged actions?

The latter scenario is exactly what happened last week when a Pennsylvania mom posted a now-viral "Is this your husband?" photo of a man on a train. She asked people to repost the damning status, and she certainly got her wish: it's been shared more than 183,000 times. The question is, did she do the right thing?

In my opinion, the answer is a resounding OH HELL NO.

Last Wednesday Steph Strayer posted a photo on her Facebook page along with the following text:

If this is your husband, I have endured a 2 hour train ride from Philadelphia listening to this loser and his friends brag about their multiple affairs and how their wives are too stupid to catch on. Oh please repost...

The image has since gone viral, although it's not known if the man has been identified yet. There's a LOT that isn't known about this whole story, actually, which is why it makes me so uncomfortable.

I mean, let's imagine the various scenarios in which this whole thing could be a giant steaming pile of social media bullshit: the guy could have been engaged in some obnoxious but ultimately harmless bragging with his buddies. The poster could have dreamed this up as a hoax. The guy could be in on the joke. The guy could be completely innocent of any wrongdoing and now his photo is plastered all over the Internet because the poster has a vendetta against him.

Or maybe he really is a scumbag cheater, in which case his wife gets the humiliating experience of finding out when 50 of her acquaintances forward the photo to her? All of these possibilities suck. They suck a LOT.

What also sucks is the idea that we now live in an age where our behavior can be so easily dissected and shamed via social media. It's one thing when someone purposefully shares something about themselves on social media and gets unwanted backlash as a result, it's something else entirely when a guy having a private conversation -- however unpleasant that conversation might have been to nearby listeners -- is subjected to becoming a trending news topic, thanks to someone's cellphone camera.

I'm sure there are plenty of folks who are applauding this woman's decision, but it just gives me the creeps. It's invasive, and without any context, it's just dangerous. Imagine if she'd written that she overheard him talking about being a pedophile, for instance. Do we really want vigilante justice dished out via unverified Facebook claims? Because that's one hell of a slippery slope, if you ask me.

What do you think about this Facebook post? Do you support her decision to share the image?

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LostS... LostSoul88

I think if she didn't know the man or his wife then she should have stayed out of it. 

Laine... Lainey0468

I think it is hilarious but unfortunately not for the wife if/when she found out.  I even shared it on Facebook a few days ago.  She was probably so aggravated by the talk she took the pic and wanted the wife to know.  Pure and simple.  I would have done the same thing.  Good for her.


vball... vbally101

Wow. I do not agree with cheating on any level; however, it is not a STRANGER'S job to post the picture of a man she doesn't know to inform a woman she doesn't know of an alleged affair. Did he cheat? He might have. But he might have also been playing along with his buddies so that he doesn't look like the odd man out of a group of people who think affairs are cool. Or maybe he does cheat, but the wife is aware of it... but maybe her friends don't. Way to ruin multiple people's lives from overhearing one conversation on a train.

jalaz77 jalaz77

I didn't see this on FB. It is funny but not something I would get involved in unless it was my dearest friend. She could of turned around and said "oh she knows, she just keeps you around for convenience"

linzemae linzemae

Looks like joe gudice

KacieLu KacieLu

If he wanted it to stay private, he shouldn't be talking about it in a train. Loudly. That makes it a public conversation, and for all he knew his wife's friends from high school was sitting within hearing distance.

That being said, I don't think she should have posted it. Who knows if the guy is violent, and she just posted it with her personal information attached - it takes a lot less than that for some people to stalk other people.

miche... micheledo

My first thouht was that I really hope it was true. How awful if she was just annoyed with the guy and made the stuff up? And now that this has gone viral ,I am sure we will see a lot mor ecopy cat pictures - and the ywon't all be guys that ar eguilty.

nonmember avatar Erika

Where are the photos of the other guys bragging about cheating on their wives? Public space. Free speech. If that is what she wants to do, more power to her.

Cara Dobrev

If (big if, I realize) the story is true, I have little to no sympathy for the man. I grew up in a small town, and despite having lived in large cities I just don't buy in to the big city belief that a conversation in a very public place is private. If they wanted the conversation to be private, they shouldn't have been holding it on a train or at least should have whispered. And, it doesn't really matter to me whether he was actually cheating or was bragging about imaginary affairs. It was incredibly disrespectful to his wife either way. He should have to explain himself to her. But, I have incredible sympathy for his wife. She shouldn't have to find out about it this way or have her marital problems go viral. It would be painful, or at least embarrassing to have such a private matter aired on the internet and SHE did nothing to deserve that. Its hard enough to hear stuff like this through the town grapevine, but for it to be all of the internet. Ugh. So, if (again with the if) the observer's report is accurate, she should have stayed out of it. Not because its none of her business, but because she didn't know the wife or how to contact her. (Also, why just this guy and not the other friends who were apparently all bragging? That makes me suspicious this is not true. And would be enough in itself to keep me from sharing it.)

doodledo doodledo

He was acting like an arrogant cheating lying asshole in front of strangers. He deserved it. I hope his wife finds out and takes him to the cleaners.

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