I Didn't Have a 'Facebook Birthday' This Year & It Was ... Interesting

happy birthdayAdmit it. You like logging on to Facebook on your birthday and seeing dozens upon dozens of messages. "Happy Birthday!" "Hope it's a good one!" "HBD!" Even if you haven't talked to these people since middle school, it makes you feel special, being showered with all that attention. And then later on, after you've given all your "friends" ample time to wish you well, you carefully craft a status update that will properly (and cleverly) convey your gratitude. You don't want to just say: "Thanks for the birthday wishes!" Everyone says that. So you come up with something original(ish). "Aw, shucks, you sure know how to make a gal feel special." Okay, not that. That's awful. But something along those lines.

And that's your Facebook birthday.

This year was the first in a long time that I didn't have a Facebook birthday, being that I quit a few months ago. And things went so much differently than I had expected.

I thought most people would forget my birthday. One of the greatest things about Facebook is it's a de facto birthday reminder. The most organized and efficient of people can throw their little birthday calendar thingies out the window when they're on Facebook. All they have to do is log on to see who was born when.

I had an old school birthday this year -- texts and even a few phone calls. I was surprised, flattered, that all the important people in my life remembered it was the day I was born. Yes, yes, I know important people in your life should remember your birthday, but let's get real -- everyone's busy doing nothing these days (including myself). Remembering birthdays isn't easy.

Not being on Facebook and still receiving bday love helped make my birthday, which was my most low key yet (hi, mom now), also one of the best yet. My sister, daughter, and I went to lunch at the Cheesecake Factory, and at no point during the day did I feel a nagging feeling to check Facebook to see who wrote on my wall. I kind of hate this phrase, but it's apropos, so I'm using it: I was in the moment. And every text and phone call I received was like a little surprise. Oh, well, thank you! Kind of you to think of me! To be totally forthcoming, there was even a point in the day when I forgot it was my birthday. Waiters and waitresses gathered 'round a nearby table at the Factory and sang "Happy Birthday" to an older man. "Ha. Another birthday," my sister said. "Why? Whose birthday is it?" I asked, momentarily forgetting. True story.

So, what's the moral of the story here? Not exactly sure, despite having just written 450 words, but I will say this: I liked not having a Facebook birthday this year. It actually made the day more special. And as I've said in the past, I'm glad I decided to quit. No disrespect to the people who are still on and enjoy it. It just wasn't for me.

And if I ever change my mind and have a sudden desire to go back, all I have to do log right in. I didn't delete my account, I just deactivated it. Totally different.

Do you like having a Facebook birthday?

 

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Eddie... EddiesMama83

I have like thirty "friends" including cousins but only two or three wished me a happy birthday. I'm not well-liked by most  :)   Reminds me I need to clean out my "friends" list......

Tracys2 Tracys2

I do like birthdays on facebook. My husband has the kids remember my birthday with a present, and my mother mails me something around the date, but apart from that, NOTHING ever happens or has since I was 21 (20 years back) and 3 friends remembered and bought me a 6 pack and we spent half an hour drinking it.


If a facebook birthday is all I can get, it's way better than "reality"

Tripl... TripleDee30

You forgot it was your own birthday at some point during the day?  I call shenanigans.

lobus lobus

Facebook birthdays are stupid. People only wish you a happy birthday cause they know they will look like jerks if they dont. Facebook plasters it on their newsfeed so who is to say they really remembered. If you need some false posts on your wall to make you feel special...well....

kelly... kelly24019

Old school is texting happy birthday? Are you in high school currently?

B1Bomber B1Bomber

I forgot my birthday a few years ago. I had just moved to a new place and no one there knew it was my birthday, and I'm terrible at remembering the day or the week, forget the date in the month. It wasn't until my mom called after work that I was reminded.

sunmo... sunmoonandstar

I forget its my birthday sometimes. Last year I went to work, didn't tell anyone and no one knew or cared, it was just a normal day. I didn't sit there and think omg I was born today a long time ago! Everyone care for no reason! I am not excited about birthdays, I don't like the attention so I have my FB set to where it doesn't announce my bday. The only messages I got were from people who already knew and I didn't go out of my way to tell anyone because why the hell would they care? Fake attention in person isn't any different than fake attention on FB.

Histo... HistoryMamaX3

I have a facebook account, but it doesn't list my birthday so people don't get the updates. I think it is silly.

nonmember avatar HS

I don't enjoy celebrating my birthday. I'm close to 28 and my last bday party was when I turned 24. I don't think I'd had one before that since my 18th and that was so low key I don't remember cuz my fam didn't celebrate with friends and lots of gifts, they were always very simple. With that said, getting birthday phone calls are always awkward for me. People call that I don't talk to a regular basis and we have to find things to talk about to fill the awkwardness. I prefer text messages over anything and I've even started considering taking my bday off Facebook.

kassy129 kassy129

Did you quit facebook just to talk about quitting facebook constantly?  Get back on it and be happy!  Then again, what would you talk about then?  BTW, facebook birthdays are the thing I look forward to most every year.  Sad... I know.

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