People Who Hate TV Show Spoilers on Facebook Want to Ruin It for the Rest of Us

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facepalmLike many of you, I was EVER so excited about watching the Downton Abbey season finale. And I was just as excited about talking about that finale with my friends. But no sooner did I put out the call on Facebook ("OMG, Downton finale -- who's watching???") than I got that classic downer of a response:

"No spoilers on Downton, please! I can't watch until Monday night."

Ugh. Facebook spoiler censors. They totally ruin our fun. WHAT. THE HELL. ARE YOU DOING ON FACEBOOK?!? Seriously, why, in the name of the television gods, are you checking in on social media on a night when there's a major television event -- and expecting to be protected from spoilers?

I just don't get it. These are friends of mine, people I love and respect. I want to show them kindness ... in theory. But it just pushes my don't-tell-me-what-to-do buttons when people try to censor me on Facebook. Especially when it comes to something so trivial as a TV show.

If you think about it, it's kind of a self-centered and controlling request. I mean, we all show up in this virtual public forum for conversation. I'm on Facebook because I want to chat with friends who live far, far away. What about what we want? Why should anyone expect their 500 or so friends to forgo the pleasure of watching TV together just because you don't want the surprise ruined?

Memo to people who don't like spoilers: You don't have to log into Facebook! Go read a book or something. Have a conversation with someone in real life. Busy yourself for a while. But for crying out loud, have some consideration for the rest of your friends and let us go on with our lives. You are officially as crazy as those people who read reality TV spoiler blogs and complain about the spoilers.

Okay, rant over. Um ... is this an appropriate moment to say I still love my self-centered, control-freak friends? I hope they forgive me, especially since they've certainly seen me act like a self-centered control freak plenty of times! 

Do you hate it when your Facebook friends declare TV show spoilers off-limits?


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LuvMy... LuvMyDandD

Your rant makes no sense. Text spoilers back and forth or use private messaging. It's called consideration. These people should be able to log in to Facebook if they want to without seeing spoilers you're posting to your entire group of friends. I would delete you.  Gosh, who are you to make some kind of rule that if they can't be near the TV they can't be out and about logging into THEIR OWN facebook account from their cell phones. Geez.

EmmaF... EmmaFromEire

If something is spoiler for you it's your own damn fault- you know it's incredibly likely people will be commenting about it on any and all forms of social media, all you have to do is steer clear. (I also have no sympathy for people complaining about Downton- people here in the UK & ireland upload episodes as they come out here, if you're that desperate watch it online!)

nonmember avatar Karen B

And the point of this article is...? It's not necessary to spoil TV shows for people in order to enjoy being a fan of those shows. Telling people to not go on Facebook is also a self-centered and controlling request.

nonmember avatar brownsharpie

Whenever I know I can't watch an episode in real time, I purposefully do log onto social networking sites so that I'm not spoiled. If I am spoiled, it's my own darn fault.

Go read a book indeed. Living spoiler-free is not a right.

PonyC... PonyChaser

I love how it's self-centered of them to ask you not to publish spoilers, but it's NOT self-centered of you to tell them to not use Facebook at ALL until YOU are done with your gossiping.

Subur... SuburbanMom190

I totally disagree with this article. I live on the west coast and have a lot of friends from the east coast. A few weeks ago a friend in New York ruined a huge twist on a favorite show of mine by saying, "I can't believe SoAndSo DIED!" The episode hadn't aired yet in California. So, you're saying this is MY fault for going on to facebook? How about exerting some self control and leave the details out? Is that really that hard to do? She could have said, "I can't believe they did that!" without giving anything away. I think you're the one making selfish requests.

Coles... Coles_mom

I am part of a message board about downton and it specifically says at the top to please only discuss the currently aired episode and for the uk people not to ruin anything for us usa'ers. It was only like the 2nd episode that aired in the u.s. and I was chatting with people about it live when some asshole (from uk somewhere) jumped on and stated before anyone had time to react, "Sybil and Matthew die". So...needless to say,..

nonmember avatar Jeni

Facebook lets you create groups. Create a group for discussions. Then friends who want to avoid spoilers can, and people who want to chat can.

sunmo... sunmoonandstar

Why stop at telling people to not log in to Facebook? Why can't they just stop watching tv shows or reading books that can be spoiled then they won't have to worry about it. Gawd these inconsiderate people.

nonmember avatar Jess

This article is one of the dumbest, most self-centered series of words that I have read all year. If you want to talk to your "friends" about a show, then text or call them. If they are actually your friends, you have their phone numbers. So, while you expect me and everyone else in the world who does not have the luxury of always watching a show the moments it airs to stay off of social media, you are not expected to have any social decency whatsoever? I stumbled upon this hot mess on accident, and hopefully the 3 people who read it regularly (mom, sister, sister in-law) got a clue and deleted and also deleted her phone number so she's not texting you spoilers all day long. God have mercy on your children's future therapist.

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