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I Quit Facebook, & So Far It's Been ... Awesome

by Nicole Fabian-Weber on December 17, 2012 at 9:08 AM

thumbs upAfter what seems like a year of talking a big game, I finally did it: I quit Facebook. Well, more accurately, I deactivated my account (so, if I ever want to go back, all I have to do is log in). I never really enjoyed Facebook all that much; it definitely was/is a massive time suck; and I don't know -- after the horrific shooting on Friday, it just seemed like it was time to log off for a while. I may go back at some point, as I do miss seeing photos of people's cute kids, and there are (real) friends I would like to stay in touch with, but for now -- I'm done.

And so far, having no Facebook has kind of been ... awesome.

So, you know how when you sit down at your computer, you sort of have a routine as to the sites you go to, as well as the order in which you go through them? For me, it was: Email; go through my Google Reader; work email; another site or two; then Facebook. Well, Facebook is gone now, so ... what to do? Thus far, the void has been filled by Pinterest -- a site that's ... way more relaxing than Facebook; much less addicting; and kind of -- for lack of a better word -- beneficial. You guys, I actually did one of the crafts. (Some of my Christmas gifts now have glittery polka dots on them. And my house is covered in glitter.)

But that's not the big thing I noticed. That's not the thing that's been "awesome." Truth is, I'm more productive without Facebook (shocker, right?). And, although it's only been a few days, I've actually talked to people instead of just seeing what they're up to via Facebook. (My friend is on vacation right now -- instead of checking her page for any status updates or photos, I texted her to see how it was going.)

If there ever was a lull in my day -- if my daughter was asleep; or I was in between writing assignments -- I'd check out Facebook. Not because I had anything to say, or because I had a burning desire to know what other people were up to -- because it was a habit. (And because I had the app on my phone [I've since deleted it]). Without those five-minute phone/computer zone-outs here and there, I've been able to get more things done. (And woo-hoo for never having to worry about being tagged in an unflattering photo again!)

All this said though, I will admit, there is an aspect of this that's sort of strange. Kind of feels like I'm "missing out" on something, or like I left a room and everybody is talking shit about me. But I'm not. And they're not. In fact, most people probably have no idea I'm not on it anymore. And therein lies the problem -- social media f***s with your head, man.

Like I said, I may go back to it at some point -- there are some benefits to being on Facebook. (Keeping in touch with people you wouldn't otherwise text or email, the main one.) But I definitely won't be on it for the remainder of the year. And I'm hoping that, come January, it'll barely be a thought in my head.

Did you quit Facebook? Have you ever thought about quitting Facebook?

 

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  • Lovin...
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    LovinJerseyMama

    December 17, 2012 at 9:17 AM

    I completely deleted my Facebook account over the summer. I got so fed up reading people's judgmental and negative posts every day. Every time I logged on I would get annoyed or aggravated with something someone had posted. I decided it was time to re-evaluate a lot of my friendships and associations with people. I feel SO much better not having it anymore. Any time I think about starting another account I just have to hear my friends stories about all the drama they deal with from it and I change my mind lol. It's a great networking tool, but I keep in touch in other ways with the people who really matter in my life. 


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    nikkivolkov

    December 17, 2012 at 9:21 AM
    I just unfriend the negative posters and keep the nice ones. I live five states away from my family and people I grew up with so its nice to stay in touch.
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    2centsCDN

    December 17, 2012 at 9:21 AM
    Sounds like you've replaced facebook with pinterest & texting lol. Personally I don't get pinterest, if I'm interested in something, I post it to facebook, I don't need a middle man website for that.
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    Amy

    December 17, 2012 at 9:37 AM
    I gave up FB 3 months ago and love it!!! I do spend more time on Pinterest now, but I've also have done many projects for my home and family from it. I don't plan on ever going back to FB.
  • Roxygurl
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    Roxygurl

    December 17, 2012 at 9:40 AM
    I quit Facebook back in march when I miscarried and couldn't see all the updates from people having babies. I don't miss it at all and I'm glad I left, less drama in my life.
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    GirlNamedBillie

    December 17, 2012 at 9:56 AM

    I started facebook because my husband is in the army so we live far away from our family and friends. It's how my children and I are able to stay in constant contact with them. I don't "friend" anyone who I don't personally know.


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    nicoleeolee

    December 17, 2012 at 10:11 AM

    I quit 1 year ago (last August). It was (almost) like quitting smoking all over again. I let it affect my life, how I felt, too much. It was consuming me, much as smoking had, to the point I was always checking it/spending any "spare" time on it I could. Eff that. If you have a habit and you can "control" it, fine. Facebook was more than that to me. Get off and go find/have a life! Go to the park and play frisbee with your family. Have a family bike ride. :)


  • Elena
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    Elena

    December 17, 2012 at 11:15 AM
    I've been thinking about quitting Facebook for a long time. Some of my husband's family members use their status updates to brag excessively and bash other people. I log on to Facebook because it's a habit, but I end up getting upset over things I read. My best friend from high school uses Facebook to make big announcements. I miss the days when she called me to share news. It also hurts when she cancels plans with me repeatedly, but then she posts about how much fun she had with her other friends. I thought about posting something passive aggressive, but I don't want to be that person. I keep going back to Facebook because I'm worried that I will miss out on some big announcement. But I've decided that if someone wants to share news with me, they can do it outside of Facebook. Also, I let Facebook negatively affect my self esteem. When I'm struggling to pay bills, I don't need to see pictures of someone's brand new car. People on Facebook selectively share what they want you to know. My sister-in-law wanted everyone to believe that she had a great marriage via Facebook, but she was secretly cheating on her husband for years. Thanks for posting this article. I've been going back and forth for a while...but now my mind is made up! I am taking a break from facebook. It's not permanent, but who knows? Maybe I'll find that life is better without it. I'm ready to live in the real world more.
  • Lux
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    Lux

    December 17, 2012 at 12:22 PM
    I left FB in May of this year. Felt strange at first, as if I was missing out on something, but after a month life suddenly felt like it was "back to normal" - as in the calmness that was there before FB. I don't regret it, I hear things from others about posts and comments and it makes me so glad I decided to leave. FB is awesome for business social media, but seems to be addictive, abusive, and self-indulgent for a lot personal users. Keep it up, the world could do with a little less Facebook and a little more one on one quality time!
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    Debi Olson-Bruno

    December 17, 2012 at 3:58 PM

    I am going to quit facebook for the spring & summer, I need to get out and enjoy my life (exercise, fresh air, ect.) In the winter Im stuck indoors so its good to keep up with family & friends around the holidays on facebook.


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