I Quit Facebook, & So Far It's Been ... Awesome

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thumbs upAfter what seems like a year of talking a big game, I finally did it: I quit Facebook. Well, more accurately, I deactivated my account (so, if I ever want to go back, all I have to do is log in). I never really enjoyed Facebook all that much; it definitely was/is a massive time suck; and I don't know -- after the horrific shooting on Friday, it just seemed like it was time to log off for a while. I may go back at some point, as I do miss seeing photos of people's cute kids, and there are (real) friends I would like to stay in touch with, but for now -- I'm done.

And so far, having no Facebook has kind of been ... awesome.

So, you know how when you sit down at your computer, you sort of have a routine as to the sites you go to, as well as the order in which you go through them? For me, it was: Email; go through my Google Reader; work email; another site or two; then Facebook. Well, Facebook is gone now, so ... what to do? Thus far, the void has been filled by Pinterest -- a site that's ... way more relaxing than Facebook; much less addicting; and kind of -- for lack of a better word -- beneficial. You guys, I actually did one of the crafts. (Some of my Christmas gifts now have glittery polka dots on them. And my house is covered in glitter.)

But that's not the big thing I noticed. That's not the thing that's been "awesome." Truth is, I'm more productive without Facebook (shocker, right?). And, although it's only been a few days, I've actually talked to people instead of just seeing what they're up to via Facebook. (My friend is on vacation right now -- instead of checking her page for any status updates or photos, I texted her to see how it was going.)

If there ever was a lull in my day -- if my daughter was asleep; or I was in between writing assignments -- I'd check out Facebook. Not because I had anything to say, or because I had a burning desire to know what other people were up to -- because it was a habit. (And because I had the app on my phone [I've since deleted it]). Without those five-minute phone/computer zone-outs here and there, I've been able to get more things done. (And woo-hoo for never having to worry about being tagged in an unflattering photo again!)

All this said though, I will admit, there is an aspect of this that's sort of strange. Kind of feels like I'm "missing out" on something, or like I left a room and everybody is talking shit about me. But I'm not. And they're not. In fact, most people probably have no idea I'm not on it anymore. And therein lies the problem -- social media f***s with your head, man.

Like I said, I may go back to it at some point -- there are some benefits to being on Facebook. (Keeping in touch with people you wouldn't otherwise text or email, the main one.) But I definitely won't be on it for the remainder of the year. And I'm hoping that, come January, it'll barely be a thought in my head.

Did you quit Facebook? Have you ever thought about quitting Facebook?


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Valerie Valle

I'm logged in FB right now... at my receptionist job, where I'm allowed to be on the net. I can sympathize with all of these points. I live in Round Rock, TX right outside Austin and i know in other cities certain behaviours take a trend. Like ALWAYS complaining, arguing, talking shit. I deleted people who do that too much and I believe we are more layed back here, for the most part, compared to other cities. I have friends that live in other cities and sometimes look at their friends pages..."creeping", is what it's called... they argue, bash constantly and complain all the time and its ALL public for anyone to see! I do not mind a vent every now and then. But you have to realize how you want to project youself. Speaking of that....


Although there is less drama in my facebook experience, I still know that people play things up to look better in their life no matter where you live. I saw a "perfect soulmate" couple go to a bar and they looked FUCKING MISERABLE- come to find out, its quite common for them to be this way when they are out- just not on facebook, where everything is perfect.

Jamie Lechner

I use facebook for business, school and PTA as well as keeping up with friends and family around the world. If someone can't be respectful they get unfriended stat. No room for negativity.

nonmember avatar houdini

Quitting facebook was one of the best decisions I made in 2012.

nonmember avatar Roberta

I quit FB about six months ago. It was great catching up with old friends but at the end of the day, there was only so much we could talk about. I tired of the political or social rants. Also, and this is because I am shallow, I found it difficult to see the same "my life is fabulous" posts from those who are desperate to impress others. There is not one day that's gone by that I've missed it. No one. I don't see FB going anywhere - social media is now the norm - but for me, it was a great thing to ditch.

nonmember avatar martina

I used to take regular 'facebook fasts' but I have completely deleted my account about a month ago, and like so many others have said, the 'calmness' returned to my life, and I have had some simply amazing 'face to face' conversations with people that I most likely never would have had if I were still on facebook. I have no plans to go back!

tuffy... tuffymama

Woohoo! I love it when people quit Facebook. It's an evil timesuck and horrible addiction. I think its negatives outweigh the positives by a whole hell of a lot and I wish more people would hang it up.

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nonmember avatar Michele

I quit the same day, same reason. I wonder who else left after the shooting...

nonmember avatar Manches

I have deactivated my account a month ago for my board exams and i realised life is so simple without facebook. I used to waste atleast 3-4 hours or even more in facebook evryday.First few days after deactivating my profile it was difficult to get away from the addiction but now after a month i'm not tempted to facebook anymore.I can really feel the days are longer than it used to be and find so much healthy and productive things to do in life.I'm really glad to get a life now.I'm planning to delete my facebook account and stay away from all the complexities in life.Facebook really sucks..

epoh epoh

After going through periods of deactivation, I went for the perma-delete today. I deactivated it for several days, logged on yesterday and left it active for all of a half hour, and after some mulling it over and googling, I decided to take the plunge today. I'm finding myself more involved in what is in front of me, studying during the times I'd normally be logged on out of habit (as you mentioned in the article, and overall more peaceful. I'm debating on deleting my cafemom at some point as well. I do enjoy my moderator position and its beneficial to me as well, so if I do delete I'll come back under an SN that no one will know except for the ladies in the group I mod for. We'll see. It took me 9 months to get rid of my television and my family is much better off without it. The more I disconnect from the cyber world, the more I am in tune with my real, exciting, captivating, productive and overall far more stimulating real world, and that, my friends, is lovely.

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