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5 Things You Should ONLY Say by Text Message

by Jacqueline Burt on July 13, 2012 at 8:03 PM

textingI'll admit it: I'm one of those people who prefers texting to talking. That's right -- call me impersonal, call me lazy, call me whatever you want, just don't CALL me, okay? Text me your criticisms instead. See, that's the whole beauty of text messaging -- stuff that's awkward/painful/humiliating to say/hear out loud is soooo much easier to type/read on a little screen. (No, I don't have a problem with confrontation, why do you ask?)

And while I agree that there are of course certain sentiments which really should not be expressed via text message, those are few and far between. Not only is it acceptable to let your thumbs do the talking most of the time, sometimes texting is actually your best communication bet.

Like when you have to say ...

Hey, so sorry I missed your baby shower/birthday party/rehearsal dinner/random social obligation! Got stuck at work; hope it was great!

No muss, no fuss. Apology and explanation all in one, with the added bonus of not having to hear about how great or not great the thing you never wanted to go to in the first place turned out to be.

Just remembered I never got my red sweater/iPod/cash/random missing item back from you! I'll swing by later to pick it up!

You're not accusing the person of stealing your stuff, you're just reminding the person that you know they still have it. They better still have it, anyway, since you'll be swinging by to claim your personal possession very, very soon.

Do I look like I've put on weight?

Don't put a good friend on the spot by asking this question in person! You'll never get an honest answer that way.

Happy birthday!

Okay, sometimes this is better said face-to-face. But if it's a Tuesday afternoon and you know you're going to grab a birthday drink with your pal over the weekend anyway and like either one of you has time to talk in the middle of the day?! Text.

Is it just me, or was so-and-so being weird last night?

Too tricky to pull off in person, believe me. If so-and-so really was being weird, that's one thing -- but maybe it WAS just you. What then? Where's that conversation going?

What do you ONLY say via text?

 

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Filed Under: cell phone, communication, texting

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  • Carly
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    Carly

    July 13, 2012 at 8:29 PM
    3/4 of the things I text to my boyfriend I would NEVER say in person! I'm much bolder when it comes to dirty talk over text LOL
  • Text...
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    Text Messages

    July 14, 2012 at 2:08 AM
    Women over-analyze things and make things complicated. Some guys genuinely don’t understand “social contracts” and hope what we say doesn’t come across as creeper fodder
  • luvsc...
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    luvschocolate

    July 14, 2012 at 10:06 PM
    Pick up a pizza , the kid, milk, insert random item here, on your way home.
  • tuffy...
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    tuffymama

    July 14, 2012 at 10:39 PM
    Why would you ever ask someone if you look like you put on weight? Just step on a scale or try to button your skinny pants.
  • AnDi...
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    AnDi Josephs

    July 15, 2012 at 10:09 AM

    I have not done these but I know a lot of people who could only fb write something so everyone knew. Like "I'm an atheist..." "I'm gay..."I def. thought those would be on the list. Anything that you would not be able to answer if you told someone to their face. Things that acquire us to think and research a good response would be on the list. Or something you would be imbarrassed about asking your husband to do better in the bedroom! haha.


  • Yanke...
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    YankeesGirl

    July 15, 2012 at 10:50 AM
    I would only say "LOL" in a text. Never in person...
  • Asenath
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    Asenath

    July 15, 2012 at 3:44 PM

    I text pretty much everything lol. I am a SAHM and I babysit so talking on the phone is a luxury that just cannot happen during the day. My friends and I find that it is easier, we have more time to contemplate our answers and it is easier to have a quick vent session. Only problem is somtimes I forget what I sent by the time I get the reply lol, I have to look back on my sent list to double check. It has gotten to the point where I get irritated with talking on the phone! :)


  • 4cadi...
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    4cadillac

    July 15, 2012 at 7:58 PM
    Wow...wat iz the world coming 2? 2 damn lazy/scared 2 speak ur mind face 2 face?!
  • Haley...
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    Haley Maya Unger

    July 16, 2012 at 6:15 AM

    And apparently too lazy to type out real words. 


  • CPN322
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    CPN322

    July 16, 2012 at 10:39 AM

    4cadillac  - Atleast she can type in complete sentences and actually type out words.

    I much prefer text and I was a receptionist for years(never had a problem representing someone else on the phone, just not myself :). I can be very awkward on the phone and it can cause me a great deal of anxiety so a lot of times texting is better. Especially while I'm at work all day, or when I get home, I live with my bf so sometimes its better to gab away through text then on the phone which could be annoying to whoever has to hear only your side of the conversation(he's never complained, but he's done it to me and it annoys me). I still use the phone with my close friends to talk about important things or to tell each other what happened the night before. The phone is definitely still important its just that sometimes texting is easier.


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