It wasn't until I spoke with photographers my fiance and I are considering hiring that I found out just how much technology is wrecking weddings these days. The lovely couple told us that even during the ceremony, they've seen guests engrossed in texting, tweeting, or, at the very least, taking in the action through their smartphone camera (as opposed to seeing and experiencing it right in front of them). But now, we have proof that it's not just guests wrecking their wedding-going experience this way. Almost half of brides are just as guilty!
According to a David's Bridal online survey, 49 percent of women polled said they did or likely would update their Facebook relationship status from "engaged" to "married" between the ceremony and the reception. Come ON. You've got to be kidding!
Making matters worse: People start hounding the couples who drag their feet with it. Ugh, give me a break!
It's one thing if you're talking about a four-day Indian wedding, but even then! Most brides go straight from their ceremony into a cocktail hour and/or photo session. Meanwhile, they're having their Maid of Honor bring them a champagne flute and their smartphone? Or an iPad? So they can make sure all of Facebook knows they tied the knot? What's next -- "You may kiss the bride ... and update your Facebook status!" (Actually, I think that is already happening. Sigh.)
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Don't these brides want to focus on what's going on in front of them? Furthermore, aren't at least a few people they're "sharing" with on Facebook annoyed that they're not at the wedding? They may feel resentful about the whole up-to-the-minute play-by-play. (And I've seen that happen quite a bit now. Some guests seem to feel its their job to be the social media commentators, keeping Facebook updated on the event from start to finish.)
Of course these brides are just excited that they've finally jumped the broom, taken the plunge, watched as their hubby crushed the glass and everyone yelled, "Mazel tov!" But inviting Facebook to your wedding really does nothing to enhance the moment. The people who are most important to you should be there, and if they can't be, they shouldn't have to rely on Facebook to know you're getting hitched that day.
I really admire brides who wait a day or two -- maybe even until they're back from their honeymoon! -- to change their relationship status. That's the kind of bride I plan to be. Because it proves that you're living in the moment, being present, and not inadvertently missing out on one of the most important moments of your lives.
How do you feel about brides/grooms changing their Facebook relationship status right after the ceremony?
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Well, I wasn't on facebook yet when I got married so this doesn't apply to me. However, I'm attending 2 weddings this summer, one for my FIL and one for my sister. Now, my FIL and his betrothed might wait for a few days or more before updating theirs, but my sister will probably change her status right after the ceremony. I don't think there's anything wrong with going either way.
...So if the bride and groom are on their way from the reception take the time to take out their iphones/smart phones/internet capable devices and take 3 seconds to change their relationship status they are somehow horrible people? Wow how about we worry about ourselves and not what EVERYONE else is doing. Unless it directly affects you or your own or children(who are the exception to most things) STFU!
Although the talking/texting/tweeting thing I have a problem with. Taking pictures with their phones not so much. My phone has a better camera in it than my own camera so if I want a picture which lets be honest most people aren't exactly getting handed from the bride.
I agree with previous commenters how is this ANY different from announcing birth and delivery and the time you got a new job and the time you turned 21 and had pictures to upload? Social Media is a part of life now for most people I think it's time everyone catch up with and accept it because from what I've seen it's not going anywhere.