Watch Out, Ladies: You Could End Up Friendless on Facebook

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woman on smartphone and laptop in a cafeEvery now and then, we get some new insight into what people like you and me are actually doing for hours a day on Facebook. For instance, thanks to the good folks at the Pew Internet and American Life Project, we now know that women are apparently the "unfriendliest" Facebook users. (At least that's how chose to report the news.) What does that even mean

The real finding: Some 67 percent of women who keep up with their Facebook profile say they've deleted people from their network, as opposed to only 58 percent of men. Gasp. Oh no! Being more likely to defriend someone translates to "women are unfriendlier"? And if we're so unfriendly, I guess that means we're at risk of losing all of our Facebook friends! Doh! Gotta love sexist tech stories written by geeky guys, making women out to be cold bitches at risk of wrecking their social lives with "bad Facebook behavior."

What they obviously don't understand is just how superior women have become in the increasingly influential world of the all-mighty social network. The truth is that again and again, studies -- from Pew themselves! -- have shown women to be more engaged and active users than men are on Facebook. Maybe that's because we are naturally better communicators. But an extension of that is being more intuitive. Intuition definitely plays a part in deciding whether or not you defriend someone. Is someone constantly lurking on your Timeline, "liking" random photos of you from 2006? Are they IMing you out of the blue -- day in, day out? Then perhaps it's time to do a little spring cleaning, if you know what I mean, and defriend the those creeps! Does being discriminating make a Facebook user "unfriendly"? Hell no! The word they must have been looking for is "wise."

That's right -- I said it. Women are smarter Facebook users. We're more in tune with what might go amiss and how to be self-protective, to better guard what might be sensitive information. It could be that we're wiser because we have to be, as we're more often targeted. It doesn't really matter, though. The bottom-line is that we probably are pickier about our Facebook friends -- and that will only serve to make us even stronger masters of our online identities ... and I would think, ultimately, lead to happier and healthier relationships -- off and online.

Do you think you're more apt to defriend someone in your Facebook network than the guys you know?

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chich... chichiwvu

I've rarely had to defriend people. But I'm also picky about who I friend. I do think Facebook can start some serious drama between strangers though! A group I was in was deleted tonight over some seriously petty stuff.

lynne... lynnette1996

I actuallu know of two guys who have defriended me so whatever. And one was over the stupidest thing in the world. He was mad because I cheered against the Saints in the playoff game for football. Really, get over yourself. I hate the Saints and wanted to see the other team win you big baby. Good riddens anyway. The other guy was even the youth minister from our former church. No loss there either. They both need to grow up!

nonmember avatar jessy

That is why I dont accept men on facebook and the only men I have are people I physically know

Mandy Nuttin

I think women are harder on each other than men are on each other. Online men keeps friends because they wanna have eye candy. SO they don't really care if they talk to us, they are happy just having a pretty face on their friend's list. Whereas women are a bit deeper than that as far as social networking goes.

slw123 slw123

I haven't defriended anyone, but I have blocked the posts of a few people who are excessively annoying on there, lol. 

aneela aneela

yes...i had to defriend a girl i went to high school with...and some ppl i used to work with...and some others who were nice at the start then got WEIRD or just LURK...i think spring cleaning is very WISE

aneela aneela

I should add....95% or more of the people on my list are people i know or have met in real life...a small amount are online friends from various things I like...or groups I am doctor who and sherlock lol....they are fantastic...

daerc... daerca574

I regularly clean up my friends list on facebook.  Not sure why I add people to begin with sometimes.  maybe out of niceness?

nonmember avatar Justine Meeks

I unfriended one gamer who hit puberty. I have been unfriended for not giving enough attention, pm's, not using chat, posting too many games, posting things that do not interest the individual and who knows what else. My family spies on me and I'm a grown woman. My church friends do not want to see my page nor friend me.I am not searchable by name and it made them upset that they could not monitor me but their accts are buttoned down or so they tell me, I've never looked. I feel like too many areas of my life are compartmentalized, what personal people see on FB is used to my disadvantage and it certainly has not aided in job networking like the workshop said it might. My family is VERY SELECTIVE about who they let on their page and will not play a single game nor like a page for any reason.

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