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Lying About Being a Soldier on Dating Site Is New Low

by Nicole Fabian-Weber on November 4, 2011 at 1:15 PM

soldiersBy now the world is on to the fact that people lie on their online dating profiles. And that's fine. Sometimes. I think there are two types of lies one can tell on such a platform: Little white ones that, really, won't have too much of a bearing on a future relationship; and big fat ones that blatantly state that a person is a completely different human from who they really are. Those are the bad ones. Saying you're a soldier stationed overseas when really you're a filthy, scamming piece of crap would go into that category.

Apparently the practice of dudes posing as United States soldiers stationed overseas on dating services is still alive and well in the creepy, anonymous world of Internet. And the really messed up part is that it's not just so they can up their cred, it's so they can rob the crap out of poor lonely women who simply want to date a soldier.

See, the people who are lying about being in the military are actually con artists who pledge their "love" to women back in America ... and then milk them out of tons and tons of cash. Some of the thieves are even going as far as to steal the identity of real, live soldiers fighting for our country in order to make their story more solid. You know, in case their love interest decided to do a Google search for them or something.

Last month, the Army's Criminal Investigation Command (CID) warned Americans to be wary of "scams promising true love, but only end up breaking hearts and bank accounts." A similar warning was issued last May, but, according to the CID:

[They] continue to receive hundreds of reports of various scams involving persons pretending to be U.S. Soldiers serving in Iraq or Afghanistan. The victims are most often unsuspecting women, 30 to 55 years old, who think they are romantically involved on the Internet with an American Soldier, when in fact they are being cyber-robbed by perpetrators thousands of miles away.

In the year 2011, lying about who you are has never been easier. Grab a random photo from here, someone's photo from there, boom, you can create an entire phony Facebook profile (did anyone see the movie Catfish?), but lying about being a US soldier really just takes things to a whole new low. It's not only unbelievably insulting to the real US soldiers, it's insulting to the women and men brave enough to fall in love with them.

With all the ways the Internet is helping people lie about who they are, you'd think it would, at the same time, offer more ways to prevent this stuff. Maybe next year.

How gross is this?

 

Image via The U.S. Army/Flickr

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  • Melis...
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    Melissa042807

    November 4, 2011 at 1:20 PM

    It's totally gross. But if we can be completely honest, can we address that giving personal information and money to someone you've never met in person is pretty dang stupid? If you meet a guy online and he starts asking you for money before you've met in person, or even soon after that, that is what we call a RED FLAG and it is a sign that you need to run away. Far, far away. 


  • Kritika
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    Kritika

    November 4, 2011 at 1:22 PM

    Tooootally agree ^. Lets start taking accountability for ourselves and then these dummies wouldn't have a market...


  • Tanya...
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    Tanya Keith

    November 4, 2011 at 1:38 PM
    I agree it is dumb to send money to people money that you never met, but, they may not just be asking for money. Being married to a soldier and having been a soldier myself when you are deployed you request items that you can't receive there so these fake soldiers might be starting with something small just to hook them. Besides I have heard of people marrying men in prison so there will always be someone out there not using their head.
  • Rhond...
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    RhondaVeggie

    November 4, 2011 at 1:43 PM
    It's also pretty gross that the are women on the sites looking to date soldiers specifically. I fell in love with my hubby without knowing what his career was going to be. I'm lucky that the guy I fell in love with happens to be motivated and he has a great career but I would still love him even if he were working for minimum wage or coming home stinky or serving overseas. I couldn't imagine looking for a life partner and using his career as my primary criteria.
  • Annet...
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    Annette Broadbent

    November 4, 2011 at 1:45 PM
    I have also been conned this way and at the moment on my yahoo account i have 5 guys that say they are all us soldiers, one of them says that he is actually a captain in the us army stationed in iraq at the moment... they have all said that they "love me", some of them ask for help with "transitional leave" where they claim you have to write requesting them leave to the email address that they give you, when you do it starts asking for your details and to allow your soldier to come to you,you then have to part with money. i just want to know how i can report these so called soldiers.. as i know that they are not real soldiers. by the way i am from england, so its not just american women they are targeting.
  • Susan...
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    Susan L Hollis

    November 4, 2011 at 1:48 PM

    I was one of those ladies that was Scammed back in February, i'm a single mother and i lost $1050 and i had to take out a loan to get the money, i still cry about what a fool i was, but i;ve done alot of checking up now, and i can tell a Scammer from a person that is real about themselves. i will never give up on finding a Military man, a Scammer did that to me not a soldier and i will never think any less of out soldier's. to me they are my hero's that sacrifice so much for us all, i have nothing but respect for our soldier's.

     


  • Melis...
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    Melissa042807

    November 4, 2011 at 1:59 PM

    And can I just say, I've dated a couple of military guys, and at the end of the day, they're guys. I have nothing but appreciation and respect for the service they give to our country, but they're human beings like the rest of us. It seems like there is this glowing aura around men in uniform, but it's an illusion. They're human. They screw up. They make mistakes. And the demands of their careers can cause a lot of marital stress. 

    You marry the guy. Not the uniform. Keep it in perspective. 


  • Marci
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    Marci

    November 4, 2011 at 2:08 PM
    This sort of happened to me...
    I got a friend request on facebook from a guy. I looked at his profile and he seemed ok. He said he was in Air Force, and there were pictures to back that up.
    I am in several military mom groups, so I thought nothing of it...I accepted his request.
    A day or so later he popped up on my chat for an IM conversation, while I was talking to him, he informed me that he was looking for love. He asked if I was married and had any kids. I confirmed that I not only had kids, but grand kids too, and reminded him that my profile stated that I am intact married. He said he just wanted to hear me say it...
    I thought that odd, so I looked at his profile again. At that time I realized he had put afganistan as his home town. I started using military terminology. He became confused and didn't really understand, so I asked how long his deployment was. His answer...3 years! I called B.S. telling him that no one gets a deployment for that long. His reply..."youre silly". I then told him I thought he was lying to me, which wasn't cool. No reply. So, I asked if he was aware that listing his place of deployment as his home town was against OPSEC rules? Again his reply..." funny u"
    at that point I told him farewell. I have no room in my life for liars!
    this is messed up. Hope he doesn't prey on others who don't really know the military rules or how things work. Does anyone know if there is there a place to report this man?
  • Tanya...
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    Tanya Keith

    November 4, 2011 at 2:20 PM
    I was in the service for 9 years. I have been married for almost 9 years now. My husband is still in the service. It takes a lot to be married to a soldier. Most of my military friends are divorced now cause of different reasons related to the military. I love my husband, but it is still hard being married to one and having three children especially when he is gone for a year at a time. I married him when I was serving as well and I wouldn't change the fact that he is military or make him get out, but if I was single and not still serving in the military I don't know if I would be dreaming about marrying a soldier. Being married to a soldier is like being a single mother. Every other year being alone for 12 to 18 months. Don't get me wrong I am proud of what I did and what my husband is still doing, but when they say behind every soldier serving there is a family serving as well they aren't lying. We serve too, we just don't have bullets coming at us.
  • Kritika
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    Kritika

    November 4, 2011 at 2:21 PM

    So Annette are you continuing to talk to them just for craps and giggles?


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