When my wife and I got the call that a birth mother had picked us to be parents, five words almost knocked us for an even bigger loop. “Bring whatever outfits you’ve purchased,” our caseworker told us. My wife and I looked at each other. Outfits? The adoption agency had been very clear about not buying anything while waiting to be placed. After all, no one knows how long the wait will be.
So when we got the call, we had nothing. No outfits, no crib, no bassinet. No bottles, no wipes, no diapers, no toys. That’s a huge disadvantage people who plan to adopt have versus people who plan to “get pregnant.” There are no baby showers to load you up with necessities ahead of time, one of several major differences with taking in a child you didn't give birth to.