The Doctor Wants Me to Have Another Baby

on September 18, 2009 at 12:58 PM

inappropriate pregnancy comments Here's a funny pregnancy story about someone who's NOT trying to get pregnant. Me!

We had to take my daughter to the ER Saturday. Minor, no stitches. A slice on her inside up lip, courtesy of her big brother's toenail. Long story for another day.

At first the ER doctor seemed great. My daughter was scared, but he squatted down to her level on the chair and told her to call him "Pete." He referred to her as "his brave baby." She felt comfortable, so did we. But then he got a little too ... comfortable. Maybe "wacky" is more the word.

He asked about my daughter's "sister." She replied that she didn't have a sister, only an older brother.

So the cheerful doc, 40ish with braces on his teeth, says, totally out of the blue: "Yes, but Mom and Dad are working on it. You'll see ... I'll bet you'll have a new baby sister very soon."

Huh?

Where did that come from? My husband and I couldn't even look at each other. He fake snickered, I forced a grin that I'm sure didn't hide the "what the ...?" look in my eyes.

Where does he get off saying that? Perhaps he thought we were younger than we are, in which case I should take it as a compliment, but ...

Huh?

We've never seen this guy before in our life. He knows nothing about us! The next day, all my daughter could ask about was her new baby sister and when she'd be arriving. Big can of worms opened and cluttering up the place even more now.

But what about me and my feelings? What if I was infertile, or had recently miscarried or had some other horrible condition the prevented me from getting pregnant ... if I even wanted that?

I'm sure the nice but wacky man was just trying to be funny, but stick to medicine, please, doc. And next time, we'll be taking our sliced lips to another hospital, thank you.

What's the most inappropriate or strange comment anyone has made to you about pregnancy or getting pregnant?

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About the author Cynthia Dermody

is The Stir's Managing Editor who has trophies in her home for her skills at the Irish Jig. She makes cupcakes with as many fattening ingredients as possible, doesn't comb her hair for months at a time, and was probably a faerie in a former life.

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Comments (23)

RanaAurora

on Sep 18, 2009 at 1:46 PM

What a psycho. That was totally inappropriate to say to your daughter.

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Fragile_Girl

on Sep 18, 2009 at 2:30 PM

Ummm, wow, is all I can say to that one. I can't believe he would say something like that to your daughter. Wow!

trelimon

on Sep 18, 2009 at 2:39 PM

did you report him for his unproffesional manner? thats boderline malpractice to me. i dont think any dr. is allowed to get that personal with some one he doesnt even know or have any patient history with. very very creepy. you should definately say something.

Peajewel

on Sep 18, 2009 at 2:50 PM

I don't have a story to tell but I had to say, yours is quite funny! I love your "huh?" -- What an odd thing to say to someones child! I think I would have flipped out a bit myself.

niamibunni

on Sep 18, 2009 at 3:40 PM

Definite psycho.

Years ago I was seeing an endocrinologist for problems I was having with PCOS. He got pissed off at me because I wasn't planning on getting pregnant, even after I explained to him that I was trying to leave my husband, who was abusive to me and strangled my cat.

I never returned to that doctor.

on Sep 18, 2009 at 3:52 PM

niamibunni just reminded me of something a doc has said to me, though unrelated to pregnancy... I wasn't diagnosed yet with PCOS, so was having tons of weight issues, and I also was having numbness in my fingertips on my right hand. I had to see a PA who wasn't my normal one, and this guy told me in regards to my weight, "You're not a teenager anymore. Strap on a sweatband, honey." About my fingertips, when I said I didn't have any problems with the arm or shoulder: "I can't think of anything that would cause that that wouldn't have any problems closer to the core."

WTF? Um, how about low blood pressure? Multiple sclorosis? Hypothermia? Just to name THREE things off the top of my NON-schooled head?

Then there was the ass after my car accident who just pushed on my ribs with his hand and announced, "Your ribs aren't broken. If they were, you'd have jumped off the table," and then walked out, satisfied with his diagnosis. *sigh*

kristyleigh614

on Sep 18, 2009 at 3:56 PM

I have some female health problems (with my ovaries) and I have been going to see the doc about it for close to 6 months. My doc told me “well you should just have another baby it will slow the growth and it will help with the pain” (that I’m having now) I was like you huh? I told her I did not want any more kids at this time maybe never (but I don’t want to have my ovaries removed incase I decide to have more kids someday) she was very adamant that I should have another kid and I keep telling her no I don’t want another kid at this time.

They don’t know what kind of parent I am to my child. (im a good mom I love my dd more than anything other than god) or what my home life is like. (my husband and I have been in marriage counseling for like 3 months) so where do they get off being so adamant that I should have another child?