Ryan: Baby Name of the Day

Cynthia Dermody

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That's Ryan Elizabeth or Ryan Marie... you know, for a girl.

Or Mackensie or Dylan or Carter or Kendall. More and more moms are picking boy names for their baby girls.

I see a couple of issues that might arise for that girl later in life:

1. Gift confusion

Be extra careful when selecting birthday party invitations so it's very clear what sex your child is. This is especially for the benefit of other moms in your child's preschool who may not know your family that well. Otherwise, your doll-loving, girly-girl may end up with an adorable black and white soccer ball.

2. Phone confusion

Be prepared for strangers to always ask for Mr. So-and-So. But this could be an advantage with solicitors because your child can honestly answer: No, I'm sorry, he's not here.

3. Marriage license confusion

Ryan and Dylan Walker. Carson and Kendall Smith. Not that there's anything wrong with that ...

One way do deal with cross-naming: My pediatrician's daughter is named Ryann -- two n's -- to feminize the spelling, at least on paper.

A CafeMom user recently commented that her girls are named Carson and Madison, pretty masculine names. Her sister disagreed with her choices. She feels that girls should stick with girl names and boys should stick with boy names. If we make all the girl names into boy names, her sister argued, there won't be any boy names left.

Good point, especially since it doesn't seem to work the other way around. We don't meet many boy Tracys, Ashleighs, and Leslies anymore. Moms of boys are a lot less reluctant to use what is thought of as a girl's name for a boy. Another CafeMom of a son named Avery recently considered changing his name at 1 years old because she worried that he'd get a complex from all the comments that the name sounded too feminine.

Why do you think it doesn't work both ways?

Did you pick a boy name for your little girl, or vica versa?

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