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Next to the actual birth of your baby, your shower will likely be the biggest event of your pregnancy. It's always nice when it turns out exactly as you always dreamed it would be. And one of the ways to make sure that happens is to, well, throw the shower yourself.
The African American Mommies were tossing this idea around recently to mixed reviews.
Some said no way, it's like calling people up and asking for gifts. Others agree it's still really bad manners, but since nobody pays attention to that stuff anymore, why not? But some said it makes perfect sense; a few even spoke up and admitted to hosting their own showers.
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if there is not anyone you trust enough to give you a shower why not throw yourself one.
To me a baby shower is a celebration for the unborn baby! I love going to them...no matter WHO is the hostess! I love to buy baby clothes, and see the look on the expectant mothers face as she opens them. It is a great time for moms to get together to celebrate an event that is sooo magical!!! I think its a shame for a mom not to have one...weather or not somebody else throws it for her!!! Even the 4th baby shower for a mom is special!! I have had one for each of my pregnancies, and I will for this one too! Granted I threw the first one, then friends did the rest, but if nobody had offered...I would have done it myself!!!
My sister did mine but I made sure I had my hands in everything because I wanted it to be my way. So, if you want to have your own shower just find someone to "pretend" to do it for you! hee hee -- No really I agree with wntg1grl I think that it is a celebration for the baby and not the Mother to be so if she wants to be the one in charge of her baby's first party, I think she should be!
I would totally buy a gift for someone regardless of who is throwing the shower...after all it's for the baby. If it bugs you that much if a mom is throwing her own shower, just decline the invite. "Sorry, I can't make it..."
I threw my own shower, but it was really just a luncheon at a local tea house for me and 4 of my dearest friends.
We live in such a disconnected society now, how could any one of our friends know *all* of our friends? I have work friends, friends from high school, church friends, friends from professional development (my "herbal sisters"), etc. There is no way anyone, even my mom or sister, could manage to throw a party and expect to invite everyone I would want there.
I'm planning on organizing my own party, with the help of a couple of my closest wimmin.
sometimes people dont have friends or family or anyone close enough to throw one for them so they end up throwing their own. it happens, of course i would attend any baby shower, its to celebrate the baby but i feel like alot of the time its to celebrate the growing family as well, and that means more to me than caring about who has what and whether or not its "right" that they threw their own.
my girl friend and i threw my mine 2yrs ago.
I don't think there's anything wrong with being INVOLVED in your shower. You can help give the guest list, etc. I personally like just showing up and being surprised by everything. My friend did my main shower and I gave her a list of people and addresses, otherwise I left it all up to her. My aunt threw me a family shower while I was there for Christmas (because none of that family made the trip for my other shower) and it was a surprise, so I did nothing with that. Then my mom's coworkers who I've known forever threw me a little shower. I was a single mom and everyone wanted to help.
I personally think you should at least plan it with someone else and have them be the "hostess" even if you help plan and pay for it.
the babyshower is for the babys celebration to coming into this world. besides i think if u cant find or have anyone to throw u a shower why not do it yourself. im 29weeks and im throwing my own shower my SIL is just going to help put up decorations im doing the food renting the place the games etc. everyone dont have some1 to help them so yeah i would def. go to a shower for a mom thats doing it herself
I agree with most of these women. It is a celebration for the baby and growing family and not so much for the mother. I planned and threw my own shower and my baby sister hosted for me. With things the way they are right now in the world everybody needs help so I would definately buy a mother throwing her own shower a gift. I dont see any thing wrong with it at all.