So, I'm Pregnant. What's the Big Deal?

on August 14, 2009 at 11:25 AM

reaction to pregnancy shrugging

I was over the moon when I found out about my son, my first pregnancy that took a little bit of doing. I was a tad shocked but still pleased when I learned about my daughter (who was coming sooner than expected).

So, sure, it's hard for me to relate to what moms like briana_paige are feeling:

"When I found out, I was shocked, scared, and upset. I didn't want a baby yet. Now I'm okay with the being pregnant thing, but I'm still not the least bit excited. My husband, on the other hand, is ecstatic, completely overjoyed. He doesn't understand how I can't be excited. It really upsets him and I've tried to explain to him that I can't help it and that if I could make myself be excited that I would. I'm still going to love this baby no matter what, but I can't fake an emotion I don't feel."

But still, I sympathize.

I know how hard it is when something goes not according to plan. briana_paige wondered if there was something wrong with her, and according to many CafeMoms who answered her post in the Newcomer's Club, her reaction is common and normal. The joy of impending motherhood does not hit everyone at the same time in the same way.

One mom only got excited when she heard the heartbeat for the first time.

Another felt it with that very first kick.

One mom is only getting excited now, 11 days before her due date.

Were you excited from the very first second you learned you were pregnant or did it take a while to sink in? Why were you less than thrilled (divorce, money)?

About the author Cynthia Dermody

is The Stir's Managing Editor who has trophies in her home for her skills at the Irish Jig. She makes cupcakes with as many fattening ingredients as possible, doesn't comb her hair for months at a time, and was probably a faerie in a former life.

Filed Under: 1st trimester, emotions, motherhood

Comments (14)

ethans_momma06

on Aug 14, 2009 at 12:12 PM

I was not excited when I found out with my first, since even though we had been trying my DH and my SIL suggested that I go on BC. So I felt that Dh wouldn't be excited which made ME very trepeditious about the whole thing.

I told him and he was very very excited, but I was to morning sick for the next 2 months to get into the whole thing. But eventually it happened and I coulkdn't wait!

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NAldinger

on Aug 14, 2009 at 12:27 PM

I feel blessed to be having a second child, but I can't say I'm super excited about it (yet). We find out the gender in 2-weeks, I'm hoping my excitement increases once we find out if we'll be giving our daughter a brother or sister.

msnicole88

on Aug 14, 2009 at 12:56 PM

I'm pregnant with my first now and when I first found out my bf checked the test. As soon as he told me the results I started smiling like crazy, crying, asking if he was sure, and saying no practically all at once. It funny because I couldn't figure out whether to be upset, scared, or thrilled so I chose to be all 3.

JessecaLynn

on Aug 14, 2009 at 1:45 PM

I was estatic the first time around, until we found out that we were having twins. Then I was scared, and excited. When I found out I was pregnant with my youngest it was mixed emotions. I was excited but was afraid of how my hubby would react since we hadn't planned on having another that soon. It all worked out and we love her beyond belief.

Wheepingchree

on Aug 14, 2009 at 1:57 PM

i was nowhere near excited when i found out i was pregnant. this is my first & it was not planned. i'm in the middle of college and i was supposed to be studying abroad in prague this summer. but, after the first trimester had passed & i realized that i was really having a baby & i realized that not everything happens at the "best" time, i started to get excited. my SO is excited beyond words & that makes it more exciting. and when we saw our little girl when we went for an ultrasound, i was on a cloud the whole rest of the week. now i'm so excited to give birth and be a mother! only 3.5 more months!

JoyandLove

on Aug 15, 2009 at 12:11 PM

I am very excited!

grooveybabe004

on Aug 15, 2009 at 5:33 PM

I was scared when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter. Scared how my family was going to react, how my fiancee's (now husband) family was going to react, It wasn't until I heard her heartbeat, saw her on the u/s screen and started looking at baby clothes/things that I started getting excited. When I found out I was pregnant with my son, I was excited, nervous and scared. My daughter was only 8 months old when we got pregnant again. I was again scared about how my family would react...so much so that I waited until christmas to tell them and he was due in March! Lol!! I was nervous about how I was going to manage a newborn and 16 month old. But it all worked out and I love my kids more than anything and now we're talking about having a third!!!!

mrssundin

on Aug 16, 2009 at 11:46 PM

i am on baby number five and found out in the er after i broke my elbow not to mention my youngest was five months at the time. i cried because i was really scared that something bad will happen to the baby since i have had to preemies already. but now i am really excited to find out tomorrow if it is a boy or a girl. i have three boys already and only one girl so i am really wanting that girl!!

Punkylu78

on Aug 17, 2009 at 11:16 AM

My first was not planned and I had only been with my SO for about 4 months but it all worked out and when we went to hear the heartbeat I cried I was so happy! With my second I was happy and excited from the moment I read the positive pregnancy test!

irishangel710

on Aug 17, 2009 at 12:45 PM

I was in the same boat as her. My fiance was ecstatic and I was far from thrilled. I was happy I guess you could say but also not so happy. I'm pregnant with our second and honestly, I'm not thrilled now either. Not that I don't want the baby or won't love the baby, I'm just not excited about being pregnant or giving birth. I know so many women feel so close to the baby and happy when they are pregnant, but I hate it. I also am not lookign forward to more labor and pain. My fiance doesn't understand why I'm not over the hill excited though. I never get over this until the baby is born though.