I'm Scared to Breastfeed


scared to breastfeedI want to breastfeed. I will breastfeed. But I'm totally freaked out about the whole thing. You see, I'm not a huge fan of the nipple touch. I mean, sometimes, if I'm super frisky, and it's late at night -- but I'm talking when I'm with my husband.

My nipples are so sensitive. My headlights are always on and they are big Mack truck kind of headlights. On a scale of one to ten, sensitivity level is 20.

So the thought of my sweet newborn twins sucking on them is slightly horrifying.

I know of women who have given it a try and it just wasn't working for them and others who have breastfed for years. What's the secret?

I'm going to give it a try and one thing about me is that I don't like to fail -- so I'm even preparing myself for Breastfeeding 101 with my doula. She already has me using my sponge around my nipples while in the shower slightly more aggressively -- not hard -- just so I can get used to the baby's mouth when it's time.

Are you nervous to breastfeed? Know any tips you've learned from others along the way?

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miriamz miriamz

I am breastfeedingt and fall in the breastfeeding for years category. For me there wasn't any other option and the joy of knowing that my baby is growing healthy and strong on my milk and only my milk is amazing. When I look at him and see how happy he is it makes my heart sing with joy. I can't imagine not breastfeeding.

trelimon trelimon

breatsfeeding your baby is a wonderful bonding experience. nothing like knowing you are the only one who can make this little baby happy. i miss the fact that my almost 1 yr old is weaned and there is no more feedings that blur into snuggle/nap sessions. just natures way of making you be close and feel close to your young. relax and try to enjoy it...you never know it might be way easier than you are anticipating! :)

Rylee... RyleeMendez

I didn't find it a bonding or happy experience at all. I have sensory issues also and it was TORTURE. I resented my son and I hated the whole experience. Wont ever do it again.

ethan... ethans_momma06

To be clear- It hurt like the dickens for the first two weeks. So don't judge the first weeks as your entire make or break bf ordeal. Once the initial BF has faded, BF can be very enjoyable. Nothing feels better then your milk letting down and baby making those yummy feeding sounds!

Make sure you ask your doula about nipple care for while newborn is first learning. It can be pretty aggressive on your breasts and you may need some lanolin cream or somehting.

I think the secret is determination. For me, BF was what I wanted for my baby most, and so even when I had mastitis and a 104 degree temp, I still BF my baby. Good luck and I hope you are able to make it work.

earth... earthmama727

I was afraid that it would feel "weird."... Like I would have to try not to feel arousal, because that is what we are used to feeling in our breasts when they are touched... But when it is your baby, there is absolutely NOTHING SEXUAL about it at all. I was amazed at how natural and easy it was.   I can't believe anyone would feel resentment at their child for eating. That's kind of beyond me.   Usually if there is pain, it is a latching or positioning issue that a doula or lactation consultant can help you with. 

Honestly, I had the baby blues a bit after my DD was born.  Like I missed her because she was in the other room napping.   When I would feed her and she would get that look of peaceful contentment on her face, it made my heart feel at ease.  I felt like someone who never experienced it would miss out on such a beautiful part of mothering.  I hope you have luck with it because it is such a beautiful experience!

RanaA... RanaAurora

Okay, I'm a HUGE breastfeeding advocate...

...but I never found breastfeeding enjoyable, magical, bonding... nothing.

It wasn't particularly fantastic or easy at first either.  There IS some pain, especially while you're learning how to latch your baby and while you're initially engorged (well, you're going to hurt in your boobs after the baby's born whether you're nursing or not).  I DON'T feel letdown, but this time around, sometimes I'll have some shooting pains (not horrible - I doubt someone looking at my face when it happens would even see me flinch or anything, but uncomfortable for sure) right behind the nipple.

I WILL tell you this, though.  Of ALLLLLL the people I've talked to abotu breastfeeding, the ones who don't succeed are often (not ALWAYS, but 99% of the time) ones who didn't have proper support or education about breastfeeding.  It becomes incredibly obvious when you start talking to people about what problems they had, and the excuses they give - that they were usually TOLD was a reason by someone who claimed to be helping - are factually wrong and often the help they had actually made them fail more quickly.  So, make sure you get PROPER education and support - you can start attending Le Leche League meetings before you have your babies, and read kellymom.com as much as you possibly can.

And of course, there are certain people (like the LLL group) here on CM you can talk to about any concerns you might have. :)

BatGi... BatGirl1415

The thing is, you just need to give it at least 4 weeks. My nipples were horribly sore for the first two weeks (and sore nipples, on top of a third degree tear, really made those first two weeks rough)  but it got SO much better. It's also important to surround yourself with, and talk to people who support you and women who have done it before. Just one phone conversation with a Le Leche League leader about my struggle, and I felt so much better.

Amand... Amanda_Jeanne

I was scared to breastfeed also... and I am one of those moms who didn't have enough support or education to succeed and so I've switched to formula. I know when I have another baby later on down the road I will try to breastfeed again, but I feel badly that I didn't try to stick it out. My son did get breastfed for the first month of his life which is good... but I was lazy, impatient, and easily frustrated, and never wanted to ask for help. I assumed I would just get it naturally on my own... make sure you have plenty of support and you can do it!

Mythi... MythicMMM

It is funny because I had ultra sensitive nipples by the end of my first pregnancy and all my fiance wanted to do was play with them (even T-shirts lightly rubbing on them was like sand paper). Strangely though as soon as my son was born and we (he) got the hang of latching on right they didn't hurt what so ever like I thought they would! Everybody has a different experience with BFing from beginning to end, but the key is definitely good knowledgeable support and nursing on demand.

also, if you have big breasts.. no you won't smother the baby (I had a craaaazy nurse try to tell me that I would kill my son if I nursed him because my bazoombas were so big and that I should formula feed instead)

jus1jess jus1jess

The "secret" is determination. It's not that many women try but can't. It's mainly women who half try but won't. Preparation, acceptance, and education are your best friends. Take breastfeeding classes. Read breastfeeding books. Join breastfeeding groups. Have the phone numbers of a few lactation consultants for if/when you need help. Know that the beginning is the hardest. It hurts. It's time consuming. It's stressful. But that's just the beginning. The pain subsides in a few weeks. Your supply regulates usually by 6 weeks. And the frequency of it goes down some when you're out of the newborn park.

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