Me & my hubs!
The other day I said "we're pregnant" to a friend. They corrected me and said, "Well you're pregnant, Hans is just along for the ride."
Hans, my husband, is along for the ride, but he even told me he feels he is pregnant, too. Not literally (though he is complaining his waistline is also expanding from my desire to eat more), but they are his babies too (we're expecting twins) and I'm lucky to have him.
Men deal with pregnancy in different ways. Some guys freak out a little (just as us gals do), others seem totally calm -- but their emotions are in full swing, too. I read that some men can even get postpartum depression particularly if their partner gets it.
So far Hans has been great. But I did notice that when he has a guys night out, he really enjoys himself. Maybe it's more than usual, but maybe it's just that I can't go see cool bands play and have cocktails with my friends like I used to right now, so I notice it more.
He's taken to cleaning the house, won't let me anywhere near the liter box, and cooks dinner every night, even cleans the pots and pans. Where was this dream guy before I got pregnant?
He also tells me I look beautiful even though my skin has broken out with the worst pregnancy acne ever. And that helps me feel better.
I've heard of other dads-to-be unsure of how to help or what to do. And I also know some moms-to-be who don't want any help at all. We're all different; we all deal with life's happenings in different ways.
How is your partner dealing with your pregnancy?
Comments (10)
My boyfriend has been an absolute saint. The other day I woke up in full swing bitch mode, complaining and being upset over anything and everything, later I apologized about how I had been acting and he simply said, it's okay, I KNOW you can't help it! It made me feel better that even though my emotions are a wreck he doesn't mind too much. He also cooks, cleans and spends a ton of time with our 7 year old. I'm in love!
my guy has walked away from me. he has 3 other children from a preivous relationship. so i dont now what to think about his actions. if he's ever going to come back.
DH and I planned our pregnancy and he still wanted to pretend it wasn't happening. He didn't bond with the baby at all and def didn't cut me any slack. To give an idea, he still expected me to install ceiling fans at 7 months, ha!! He's generally a great guy, but just viewed the pregnancy as happening to me and not him. Def hurts my feelinngs to this day but don't have my hopes up for things to be any different the next time around.
God knows I love my husband more than life itself but if I hear one more complaint about me not wanting to have sex or going to be early I might just change the locks on him. I meanm come on, I am freaking 7 weeks pregnant. Of course I don't want to have sex, I feel like I am going to vomit ALL of the time. I am exhausted after working 9 hour days as well. He isn't being very patient and it is getting on my last nerve. I mean, I feel bad enough, you would think he could try to understand a little. After all, this took two of us!
my son's father completely walked away from the situation.
he refuses to talk to me now.
and acts like hes not having a child at all.
he even told me he wants to sign away his rights...
I will say its hard righ not because i am only 18 and my daughter is a month,the father says he wants to help and when he came to see his daughter for 2 weeks came 1 day and the rest of the time with his friends, but i i dont know what the future has i just take it one day at a time
I just want to give a hug to the ladies whose men haven't been the best to them.
hey ladies i am 8 weeks pregnant and my babies daddy isnt doing much for me. the only thing he ha done is cooked me dinner and breakfat a few times he doesnt even come around to see me or to check on me to see how i am doing i mean hello i told him the other day that he needs to do something to help me out i mean i am carrying hi babies. and its really hard. I have to go to the doctor by myself i have to do everything by myself i mean i am only 19 and cant wait to have my babies. i just wish i could have more support from him.