Pregnancy Freak Outs: It Happens

on May 27, 2009 at 7:00 AM

A baby can take all that stress away!

Ever feel like oh my gosh how am I going to do this? Deep breath in. Big exhale out. Repeat ten times if needed.

I'm going to call it the pregnancy freak out and I'll admit I've had moments of major worry. And I'm not alone.

These freak outs can happen to women in any (and all) trimesters. An anonymous CafeMom asked if other moms felt worried about having a baby.

She is 34 weeks along and has one child already. She keeps thinking, OMG I am going to have two kids. What if I can't do this?

I know how she feels. I am just in my first trimester, but I am having twins. Deep breath in. Big exhale out.

The moms who commented gave some great advice.

Shelii (pregnant with her first) is having the same thoughts, but she tries her hardest not to stress.

rhonda111787 believes that like the tug boat we must say to ourselves...I think I can!

Nesa_Z was worried too, but she says it all worked out. She had her baby and says, "we have settled in nicely and I am doing just fine. You will too, take deep breaths and relax! Make lists and deal out tasks to others, it will get done, and you will be perfectly ready by the time baby comes."

GreekMama28 has two kids now and is happy because she says they will keep each other entertained as they get older.

These are all great responses to help ease the mind of a freaked out pregnant woman.

Are you stressed or did you overcome stress like this? Share your thoughts and advice!

About the author Michele Zipp

loves vintage and will defend skinny jeans to the death though she is highly superstitious and "death" is probably a bad word choice. She has a touch of the hoarding disease and enjoys sleuthing, the worst reality shows, and wearing high heels, even at the playground. She's an AP mom of twins, slightly crunchy but with a pedicure.

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Comments (9)

boizmom

on May 27, 2009 at 9:30 AM

I have two children already. My husband and I have been talking over and over again about having a third. We would decide to do it and then I freak out and back out. Well, this last month was our first official TTC month and well, I'm pregnant. I am only 4 weeks and 2 days and I am already scared about the future. Will the newest addition "fit" with the rest of the family? How will my baby (my 2yo) handle no longer being the baby?? I realize that I had a lot of these same thoughts and concerns when I was pregnant with my second. It all worked out well...I couldn't be happier about Y-Bear's "fit" with the family. As for my concerns about handling a 2yo, a 4yo and an infant...that's where wearing the baby will come in handy. I know it'll work out! (But it's still scary!)

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Punkylu78

on May 27, 2009 at 10:49 AM

I have 2 kids & freaked out with both! The first time I was just worried I wouldn't be a good mom or that I wouldn't be able to handle it. It seemed every other day I worried then the other day I was excited & couldn't wait! But once she was born & I held her all that worry went away, it was stranged it all just came so natrual. Then the second time my first was only 9 months old when we got pregnant so I was worried that I wouldn't be able to handle two so close in age or how my little girl was going to be with a new baby, but again things just worked out. My little guy is only 6 weeks now but it is all going smooth. Both times I would just remind myself to calm down & I had a great friend that reminded me too that when the time comes you just know what to do. She was a big help for me!!

Freela

on May 27, 2009 at 12:12 PM

Our third child was unplanned (I wanted another baby someday but wanted a significant gap, my dh really didnt' want a third child at all.) On top of that, my pregnancy with my middle child was very hard and included months of bedrest and serious physical restrictions... I spent the first few weeks after finding out I was pg hyperventilating and about five minutes from a panic attack. However, as time went by and the pregnancy seemed more 'real' and less of a shock that couldnt' possibly be true, I felt better... and ultimately our little girl fit into our family perfectly and we could not imagine not having her here. It really does work out, no matter how many panic attacks there are along the way!

mmmommy0207

on May 27, 2009 at 12:16 PM

I've got a 6yo, a 18 mo old, and I'm due in Oct. I'm a business owner, and I work at our shop 50hrs a week, and then I live 20 miles out of town, so I spend 2 hrs a day just driving. I'm planning on bringing the baby to work with me after a little bit, and we've been remodeling accordingly. (I'm trying to plan here!) but I still freak out. I know I;m gonna be cutting my hours at work, and I'm only gonna come in a few days a week, but I still freak out.

LadyKiki

on May 28, 2009 at 9:59 AM

My dad was going to come and stay with us for awhile. We made the plans and was so happy that we was going to have help. In March we found out he had cancer and had to have surgery right away. He had surgery like a week and a half before I had my son. I was in panic mode for most of that month. It was killing me that I couldn't go down and help my father and be there for his surgery and then the closer it got to when baby was due I kept thinking how me and hubby was going to be in over our heads. I cried a lot in that month span.

ms.george1026

on May 28, 2009 at 11:03 PM

I'm a first time mom and a young mother at that ,,,, I'm in college and so is my boyfriend. so where trying to pull everything together and hope for the best .i know my mom and sister will help me but nothing having my boyfriend there will be hard. wish for the best

athenax3

on May 30, 2009 at 4:16 PM

With my first three I felt fine, prepared, ready- that third one threw me a bit when I had her, but all and all outside of being more forgetful and touch messier, I think we've survived nicely- but now that I'm preggo with #4, I'm sweating- HARD- that's twice as many kids as I have eyes and hands!! I"m older now, not nearly as quick as I used to be, and I often forget where I left the dog, this doesn't bode well for the new baby, lol...they say God never gives you more than you can handle, I just hope he never gives you more than you can forget to load in the car when you go to the store....we'll see:)

Bits08

on Jun 1, 2009 at 1:43 AM

I am so glad to know that this happens to everyone!

I am currently 10 weeks and this is my first pregnancy, so everything is so new and sometimes confusing.

Thank you for this article

daeverra

on Jun 1, 2009 at 7:01 PM

I am 32 weeks and it's starting to hit me that I'm having this baby by myself. In the beginning we thought he was going to have to live in the NICU for the first few months of life, so since I got the amazing news at 5 months he would be fine, things calmed down.

But now I hear from couples how difficult it is the first few months, and there's two of them! I know it will be okay, but it's still slightly terrifying to be a single mom this soon.