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Cafe Cynthia here, paying a visit to Pregnancy Buzz.
I loved the special treatment I got during both my pregnancies, and not just from my husband, family and friends. The kindness from the stranger on the crowded train who gave me his seat. Or the guy who held the door at the library (they normally don't do that where I live), or the woman who let me cut ahead of her in the checkout line.
And during one of my regular trips to Babies R Us to daydream, I felt like royalty parking only feet from the door in one of the "Reserved for Expecting Moms" spaces.
I think they should make that one a federal law, especially when you're pregnant AND with a toddler!
What about in restaurants and other public places? Should moms get special treatment there, too?
An anonymous CafeMom of two is 8 months pregnant (and huge, she might add), with painful varicose veins, back and pelvis problems, and still working at her job as a autism clinician. Needless to say, it's a busy job, a lot of it on her feet, and she was taking a lunch break at a local serve-yourself chain eatery that has both booths and tables.
She thought nothing of grabbing a booth all to herself so she could put her feet up while she ate lunch and reviewed some notes for work.
One of two women sitting across from her at a table started giving her dirty looks and said loudly to the other, "Some people are so rude!"
About 10 minutes later, the CafeMom packed up her stuff to go, and the nasty woman said, "Finally, she is done hogging the booth for herself!"
"So, I looked up at her and said, ' I am 8 months pregnant and needed to put my feet up. When are you due?"the moms said.
The woman rolled her eyes and replied, "That still does not give you the right to take up a booth yourself!"
To spite her, the CafeMom stayed another 10 minutes, and at the end everybody was still annoyed.
Who was in the wrong here? Would it have mattered if this mom was pregnant or not? Do pregnant women deserve some extra courtesy and privledges -- and if so, how far should they extend?
Comments (84)
when i was a waitress there were regular customers who were by themselves and would request a whole booth to themselves and it was fine. I see it alot to when i go out to eat at restraunts too you don't always have to sit at a stool if you don't want to. It shouldn't be a problem whether your prego or not. Those ladies were just being b-words and if they were so concerned about other people sitting down they should have been the ones to hurry up and leave and not harrass the poor woman.
restaurants like that are "first come, first served", so regardless of pregnancy, that booth was hers for the duration of the meal. she doesn't have to hurry or share just because some woman got her panties in a twist about it. and i DO think that pregnant women (especially towards the end) deserve any special treatment they receive. anybody who's never been pregnant can't understand that discomfort and anybody who has been should extend some sympathy. it's miserable and even the littlest things that don't bother someone who's not pregnant can mean the difference between a good day and wanting to cry for a pregnant woman.
Meh. Yes to a degree, but I vote more special priveledges for the mom schlepping around multiple toddlers. Or a pregnant mom with toddlers, those deserve the most special treatment of all!
Personally in this particular situation I don't think it should matter if she was there first and took the booth she should be able to enjoy her meal and not have to deal with ppl telling her to get up or whatever else comes to mind. Now I could see if she was sitting in the only large table or wrap around booth in the place and a party of 6 came in and asked her POLITELY to move to smaller booth I would have to think the polite thing for HER to do would be to move. But that simply was not the case here.
They sure do. The women that commented to her about putting her feet up at the booth was so rude. I would have done the same thing. Pregnant women should receive some amount of priveleges, like the closer parking.
i think we do!.....and i think the cafemom (i read the post) was totally in the right!....ok....maybe not so much with sitting back down....lol...but i might have done the same thing in that case!.....we are only human afterall!....lol.....the other woman was totally wrong in her attitude and behavior!......does she react the same when she sees a man sitting in a booth by himself???!!!!.....i also agree that it should be a law that places have special parking spots for expectant mothers and/or mothers with toddlers or even preschoolers.....the only thing i see is that like the handicap spots....people who don't need them are still going to use them!
I think YES, especially at 8 or 9 months pregnant- a woman deserves some special considerations. I hate sitting in chairs when padded booth feels more comfortable. I'd of done the same thing, if I were her.
pregnant or not... she got to the booth first, it's her seat fair and square. I think that pregnant women should get special treatment! Oddly, women are probably less considerate of a fellow woman's needs than men when you are pregnant. I think what those 2 women did was rude!
I think those women were horribly rude and completely out of line. Even if she wasn't pregnant, how do they know she wasn't waiting for friends?
I don't think there should be a law stating that pregnant women should get special treatment because making it law would take the good will out of people pampering you while your pregnant.
Yes ... A pregnant woman is special .. she is carrying a life and it need to be safe and protected... Beside it's hard for the woman and very uncomfortable.... It's almost like being handycape ... I always try to be helpful to those sp. people ...